Show-Me 4-H’ers Character Module 3 The Six Pillars of Character

1. Show-Me 4-H’ers Character Module 3 The Six Pillars of Character

2. PILLAR ONE Trustworthiness

3. Even Small Lies and Deceptions Can Topple Towers of Trust Towers of trust are built stone by stone, yet no tower is so tall or so strong that it can stand when lies and deceptions undermine the stones at its base.

4. Trustworthiness Embodies Four Ethical Principles • Integrity • Honesty • Promise-keeping • Loyalty

5. Trustworthiness Integrity

6. Integrity Integrity is moral wholeness demonstrated by a consistency of: • Thoughts – what we think • Words – what we say • Deeds – what we do • Duties – what we should do

7. What is right is right even if no one else is doing it. What is wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it.

8. Trustworthiness Honesty

9. Do: Tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Be sincere. Be forthright and candid. Don’t: Lie. Cheat. Steal. Be sneaky, tricky or deceptive. Honesty

10. So,what else have you lied to me about? Thank you for caring White lies often look very different from the perspective of the person lied to. THE TEST: Upon learning of the lie, would the person lied to thank you for caring, or feel manipulated or betrayed?

11. Trustworthiness Promise-Keeping

12. Reliability & Promise-Keeping • Keep your word. • Honor your commitments. • Be dependable — do what you are supposed to do, return what you borrow; pay your debts. • Show up where and when you are supposed to. • Be prepared — do your homework and bring what you need to do your work.

13. Trustworthiness Loyalty

14. Loyalty Do • Stand by, stick up for and protect your family, friends, school and country. • Be a good friend. • Look out for those who care about you. • Keep secrets. Don’t • Betray a trust. • Let your friends hurt themselves. • Do anything that is wrong, even for a friend or just so others will like you. • Ask a friend to do anything wrong. • Spread hurtful rumors or gossip.

15. PILLAR TWO Respect

16. Two Aspects of Respect • What You Think of Others • How You Treat Others

17. RESPECT • Follow the Golden Rule • Be tolerant and accept differences • Be nonviolent • Be courteous

18. PILLAR THREE Responsibility

19. Responsibility Responsibility requires you to recognize that what you do — and what you don’t do — matters.

20. Responsibility • Duty • Accountability • Pursue Excellence • Exercise Self-Control

21. PILLAR FOUR Fairness

22. Fairness • Play by the rules • Take turns and share • Be open-minded; listen to others • Don’t take advantage of others • Don’t blame others carelessly

23. What is Fairness? Fairness is concerned with actions, processes, and consequences that are morally right, honorable and equitable.

24. Procedural Fairness Requires… 1. Fair Notice 2. Impartiality 3. Gathering of the Facts 4. Fair Hearing

25. Substantive Fairness Results — what we decide, the substance of the decision. • The moral obligation is to make fair decisions; this is called substantive fairness.

26. Six Theories of Substantive Fairness • Merit • Need • Might • Equality • Seniority • Effort

27. PILLAR FIVE Caring

28. Caring • Be kind • Be compassionate and show you care • Express gratitude • Forgive others • Help people in need

29. A Caring Person Is Not: • Mean, cruel or insensitive • Selfish or self-centered • Too busy to lend a helping hand

30. Elements of Caring: • Concern for others’ well-being • Compassion • Empathy • Kindness • Charity

31. PILLAR SIX Citizenship

32. Citizenship • Do your share to make your school and community better • Cooperate • Stay informed; vote • Be a good neighbor • Obey laws and rules • Respect authority • Protect the environment

33. The Six Pillars of Character • Trustworthiness • Respect • Responsibility • Fairness • Caring • Citizenship