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3. Johari Window Notknown to self Known to self Open Blind Known to others Secret Unknown Not known to others W, p. 271; V / V, p. 76

4. Johari adjectives able accepting adaptable bold brave calm caring cheerful clever complex Confident dependable dignified energetic mature modest nervous observant Organized patient powerful proud quiet reflective relaxed religious responsive searching extroverted friendly giving happy helpful idealistic independent ingenious intelligent introverted kind Knowledgeable logical loving self-assertive self-conscious sensible sentimental shy silly spontaneous sympathetic tense trustworthy warm wise witty

5. Nohari negative variant adjectives incompetent violent insecure hostile needy ignorant blasé embarrassed insensitive dispassionate Inattentive intolerant aloof irresponsible chaotic vacuous passive dull timid stupid lethargic unhelpful brash childish impatient panicky smug predictable selfish unimaginative irrational imperceptive loud self-satisfied over dramatic unreliable inflexible glum vulgar unhappy inane distant foolish cowardly simple withdrawn cynical boastful weak unethical rash callous humorless

6. Dialectic • “Any systematic reasoning process that juxtaposes opposed or contradictory ideas, seeking to resolve their conflict” Relational Dialectics • Contradictory pulls in relationships.

7. Relational Dialectics (3) Autonomy/Connection I need my own space. I want to be close. Novelty/Predictability We need to do I like the familiar something new. rhythms we have. Openness/Closedness I like sharing so There are some much with you. things I don’t want to talk about.

8. Relationship Theories • IP Needs Theory - Psych. Wm. Schutz • Whether or not a relationship is started, built, or maintained depends on meeting each other’s IP Needs. • 3 basic IP Needs: • Affection • Inclusion • Control Underpersonal – Overpersonal - Personal Undersocial – Oversocial - Social Abdicrats – Autocrats - democrat

9. Relationship Theories – con’t. • Exchange Theory- Psych. Thibaut & Kelley • Relationships can be understood in terms of the exchange of rewards & costs that take place during the IP relationship. • Rewards • Costs Outcomes that are valued by a person Outcomes that a person does not wish to occur Comparison Level of Alternatives

10. Functions of Interpersonal Communication • Meet our social needs • Maintain our sense of self • Fulfill social obligations • Exchange information • Influence others • Get and improve our jobs

11. Context Sending Channel Context Noise Encoder Decoder Stimuli that get in the way of sharing meaning Meaning Meaning Decoder Encoder Sender Receiver Context Context Feedback Channel

12. Context – the setting • Physical – where communication takes place, the environment, the distance between participants, seating, time of day • Social – the nature of the relationship • Historical – the background of previous communication • Psychological – the moods and feelings • Cultural – the set of beliefs, values, and norms that are shared by a large group of people.

13. Principles of Interpersonal Communication(pps., 9-12) • Is purposeful • Is continuous • Is Transactional (Messages vary in conscious encoding) • Is relational • Symmetrical or Complementary • Is Irreversible • Has ethical implications • Is learned.

14. Communication is Continuous • Interpersonal communication can be verbal or nonverbal. Therefore, we are always sending messages to others--whether we are aware of it or not!

15. Communication is Relational • Complementary relationship – one person lets the other define who is to have greater power • Symmetrical relationship – one in which people do not agree about who is in control.

16. Perception The processof selectively attending to sensory information and assigning meaning to it. (pg. 30) Our perception becomes our reality.

17. Three psychological factors that influence selection: • Our needs • Our interests • Our expectations

18. Social Perceptionaka Social Cognition A set of processes by which people perceive themselves and others.

19. Incongruence The gap between our inaccurate self-perceptions and reality

20. Self-fulfilling Prophecies Events that happen as the result of being foretold, expected, or talked about and that serve to reinforce an individual’s self-concept

21. Stereotypes Simplified and standardized conceptions about the characteristics or expected behavior of members of an identifiable group

22. Prejudice – a preconceived judgment, belief or opinion that a person holds without sufficient grounds ( + or - ) Discrimination – treating members of one group differently from members of another in a way that is unfair or harmful Racism, Sexism, Ageism, Ableism – belief that the behaviors or characteristics of one group are inherently superior to those of another

23. Sample Test Question #1 True or False • Eye color, gender, and height could all fall under the secret quadrant of the Johari Window. • If Marissa thinks about the events of last evening while she is listening to a classroom lecture, these thoughts would be considered channels.