Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

1. Get Their Name Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

2. Kay L. Kotan Wife to Bob, 22 years Mother to Cameron, 19 years old Credentialed Coach, PCC Healthy Church Initiative (HCI) Consultant Author Faculty for Coaching4Clergy Path One Coach Kay@KayKotan.com Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

3. Evangelism vs Missional Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

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5. Book Basis: Four Observations • Inwardly focused churches practice evangelism as reconnecting the disconnected. • Outwardly focused churches practice evangelism as connecting the unconnected to Jesus first and then the church. • Pool of churched shrinking and pool of unconnected growing exponentially • Membership versus discipleship Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

6. Evangelism Building authentic relationships with people we don’t know. The harvest is bigger than you can imagine, but there are few workers. Luke 10:2 Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

7. How to Find & Share Your Faith Story • Gradual process over a period of time • Four steps for equipping • Faith sharing in service • Faith sharing in groups • Faith sharing in worship • Faith sharing with the unconnected Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

8. Good Deed + Good Word = Good News Relational Evangelism through service Clear invitation to connect with God and our church We must meet people where they are, not where we are. Faith Sharing in Service Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

9. Faith Sharing in Groups How have you experienced God recently in your life? We must find our own story. Practice your story in safe places. Just playing church is no longer acceptable. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

10. Faith Sharing in Worship Faith sharing starts with leaders. Offer consistent faith sharing stories during worship. Use digital recording to capture. Faith sharing in worship is rooted in our Wesleyan roots. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

11. Faith Sharing with the Unconnected Learn other faith-sharing through three earlier steps first to prepare for personal invitation to worship. Relationship comes before invitation. Special Sundays give people a reason to invite. An invitation has three characteristics: Personal Specific Relational Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

12. Team Activity Have each team member share their take-away from Session One. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in encouraging and equipping your congregation to share their faith story? Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

13. Becoming a 21st Century Missionary The church has become in alien in our own world. We are all missionaries. Engage the radar! Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

14. Beginning Outside Conversation Engage the radar! Have an intentional plan Set a Daily Goal Build trust Mutual Respect The Conversation Become a Model Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

15. Creating Opportunities for New Relationships How much time are you spending with the unconnected? Concentrate on the important rather than the urgent. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

16. Eight Strategies to Build New Relationships Routine Introductions Create Hang-out Places Offer Blessings Organization Connections Normal affinities Member-Guest events Outside Comfort Zone Create Margins Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

17. Six Steps to Move from Conversation to Relationship Listen to Their Story Watch for Signals Bridge-Building Phrases Know Your Elevator Story Why God? Why Church? Why my Church? Know Your Faith Story Find Need & Connect Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

18. Team Activity Have each team member share their take-away from Session Two. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in encouraging and equipping your congregation in becoming a 21st Century Missionary? Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

19. Creating an Outwardly Focused Culture Relationship Trinity = God + Others + Availability Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

20. Leadership Matters Strategic Ministry Planning Mission Vision Goals, Objectives, Core Values Equipping “Your church is only going to grow as fast as you raise up good leaders.” Modeling Missional focus Preaching “Got to preach it ‘til you see it.” Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

21. Connection Strategies “ • Friendship Sundays • F.R.A.N. Plan • Major Sundays • 5-10-10 Rule • Church-Wide Hospitality Training • Skits/Drama • Move Fellowship to the Front Door • Hospitality Desk or Kiosk • Go Digital • Three Touches Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

22. Your Building Matters • Hospitality Checklist: • Exterior signage and accessibility • First impression of human hospitality • How to get their names • Think guest, not visitor • Connector • Welcome center • Lobby • Nursery • Pre-worship atmosphere • Meet & greet • Announcements • Worship participation • After worship experience • Hire mystery worshipers • Improve your social media presence • Critical mass Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

23. Relationships Matter Don’t leave the connection process to chance!” From Outsider to Guest Prayer Bridge Events Follow Up From Guest to Connected From Connected to Disciple From Disciple to Ambassador or Missionary Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

24. Nothing new . . . • Reaching new people we don’t know for the sake of Jesus is inherently a biblical idea. • God wants to reach people and do a new thing. • Are you willing to be in the new movement, to be a new people, to do a new thing? If so . . . • Get their name • Start a conversation • Build an authentic relationship that leads to the possibility for a faith conversation • Bring them back to the gathered faith community Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

25. Team Activity Have each team member share their take-away from Session Three. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in creating an outwardly focused culture? Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

26. READ STUDY IMPLEMENT Kay KotanKay@KayKotan.com Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships