I. Friendship

2. I. Friendship Choice: Equally or Unequally Yoked 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness With unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

3. I. Friendship Choice: Equally or Unequally Yoked Do I keep my purity? 1 Corinthians 15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. Question:

4. I. Friendship Choice: Equally or Unequally Yoked Do I keep my purity? • Spiritual Purity • Spiritual Fornication Question: Results:

5. II. Attraction Choice: Courting or Dating Do I keep myself accountable? • Romance, Respect • Fornication Question: Results:

6. Courting II. Attraction • An old English custom • Friends who are attracted to each other • Hang out in group settings • “Wooing the girl” • Friendship with intention toseek a marriage partner • Can end at any time, nocommitment • High accountability • No premarital sex, including nophysical contact (holding hands,hugs, etc.) “No hips, hands, or butts about it!”

7. Dating II. Attraction • An American custom • Non-committal romance • Intention to marry not necessary, but may have it • No accountability required, but encouraged • Most vulnerable for sexual temptation • If sexually active, it is usually secretive

8. III. Intimacy Choice: Abstain or Elope Do I focus on God, or him/her? • Spiritual, Godly bonding • Fornication Question: Results:

9. II. Intimacy Abstinence • Choosing to focus on God rather than each other God

10. II. Intimacy Eloping • Courthouse marriage • Getting a license to have sexual relations that is recognized by the church as well as the state • Parental and pastoral consent not necessary • Usually done out of impulse or lack of self-control

11. III. Integrity Choice: Engagement or Betrothal Do I use this time of proving? • Confidence &trust is developed • Fornication Question: Results:

12. III. Integrity Engagement • Verbal commitment to a marriage date • No accountability required but may have it • No contact (the ceiling) • No pre-marital sexualcontact of any kind;vulnerable if no accountability • Based on your honor

13. III. Integrity III. Integrity Betrothal • A Hebrew tradition • A contractual commitment to a marriage date signed by a pastor, parents and couple • A non-refundable dowry • Select accountability team • High Accountability • No premarital sexual contact,including no physical contact(holding hands, hugs, etc.)“No hips, hands, or butts about it!”

14. V. Covenant Choice: Marriage or Shack Up Will I keep a lifetime covenant? • Favor & blessings • Divorce or walk away Question: Results:

15. III. Integrity Marriage • A lifetime covenant • Favor for finding a spouse • Blessings of producing Godly seed • Represent Christ as His bride on earth

16. Romantic Relationships • “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22

18. Prerequisites for ANY romantic relationship • Compatibility test • Family • Finances • Children • Friends

19. Prerequisites for ANY romantic relationship • Compatibility test • Personality test (Four Elements of Success)

20. The Four Elements of Success By Laurie Beth Jones

21. Earth tends to do particularly well in accomplishing tasks and getting results. Motivation is based on a desire for an orderly process that leads to accuracy. Likes to stay focused in order to “get it right”.

22. Tends to move slowly and is good at maintaining projects. An Earth’s behavioral style reminds us of the traits of the earth: steady, predictable, foundational, solid, secure.

23. Water is sensitive to the needs of people and enjoys building lasting relationships in which it can play an encouraging and supportive role. Motivated by stability and harmony.

24. Tends to move slowly like Earth and is typically good at maintaining. A Water’s behavioral style reminds us of the traits of water: reflective, transparent, life-giving, easygoing, capable of “going with the flow”.

25. Wind is also motivated by interaction with people but prefers a fast changing pace. Initiators who enjoy networking with others in order to get things done and gain attention.

26. Thrives in variety. A Wind’s behavioral style reminds us of the traits of wind: restless, unpredictable, invisible, quick to move, needs to see things in motion.

27. Fire is motivated to undertake challenging tasks in order to get results. Seeks power and control in order to achieve its goals. Tends to move quickly and enjoys initiating projects.

28. Fire’s behavioral style reminds us of the traits of fire: hot, passionate, all-consuming, uncompromising, gives itself 110 percent to the task at hand.

29. The Four Elements of Success This has been a brief explanationby Erica Flores of Go to LaurieBethJones.com to take your test today!

30. Prerequisites for ANY romantic relationship • Compatibility test • Personality test • Disclosure of background/history www.usa-people-search.com/Background-Check.aspx does instant checks on everything from the sex offenders list, to how many times they have been married to who their neighbors are.

31. Prerequisites for ANY romantic relationship • Compatibility test • Personality test • Disclosure of background/history • Financial stability

32. Prerequisites for ANY romantic relationship • Compatibility test • Personality test • Disclosure of background/history • Financial stability • Health screenings

33. Prerequisites for ANY romantic relationship • Compatibility test • Personality test • Disclosure of background/history • Financial stability • Health screenings • Disclosure of sexual deviance history

34. Prerequisites for ANY romantic relationship • Compatibility test • Personality test • Disclosure of background/history • Financial stability • Health screenings • Disclosure of sexual deviance history • Spiritual, emotional & social maturity