My Story- HIV Positive Dating Advice

1. My Story- HIV Positive Dating Advice I went home that night with my nerves calm and composed, but she definitely wasn't gone. I was relieved that he had taken the news so well and not been angry. I even thanked him for not slapping me (I have a friend who got slapped when he revealed his status to a girl). However, I still had no idea where that left us. I had no idea what will be next move. Maybe he wouldn't talk or date me anymore because I was Living with HIV Maybe next time we go out he'll tell me he still likes me as a friend but he just won't be able to date me? There was nothing to do but i should wait and see. Somehow, even with all these things on my mind, I ended up sleeping very well that night. I guess the whole event drained me - physically, mentally and emotionally. When I got to work the next morning, I got a good morning text from him and a wish for luck on the first day of summer school. well A smile on my face. That was a good sign.

2. Then, as I was driving home from work, I got another message. He finished work for the day and wanted me to please bring him the HIV information/literature I had collected for him. Wow! wonderful This was a great sign. I was so glad that he actually cared enough to take the initiative to ask me about the information. I wanted to read it. So I ran home, grabbed the folder I had prepared, looked at it one last time, wondering if there was anything else I should add. This was a big problem. This can make or break it and I had to give him some good stuff to start with. I didn't know what to expect when I arrived at her house. I was ready to drop things and walk away, but again, things turned out better than that. I went in and we sat on the couch and started talking, but not about HIV. It was the same as usual, except for the folder sitting on the couch between us. At the end he asked me what I brought him. I went through the folder and quickly showed what each thing was. He seemed excited by this and put the folder in his room to look at and read later. Then we sat there and continued to talk, this time turning to topics about HIV. I could have explained a little more than the actual information type. I went into more detail about my medication and my numbers and exactly what non-disclosure meant. He asked some questions about how can we live with hiv and can we Date with HIV of his own and asked for clarification on some things I mentioned. It turned out to be a great conversation and I didn't have to cry during this conversation, I got that out of the way the night before. Now I was free to be me and share what I knew. I got a message later that night saying that he had read my blog posts and was very impressed. I kept smiling. This all happened a week ago. And since then we are almost every day. We were able to talk about it openly, share our feelings and discuss various issues/concerns. There have definitely been awkward moments, but we can both admit that this is new to us and we're doing the best we can. It will be a continuous process of learning and growth, for both of us. I continue to admire his openness, patience and understanding.