The Sassy Guide to Situationships & Getting Down to Relationship (DTR) – thatsassything

2. The Sassy Guide to Situationships & Getting Down to Relationship (DTR) – thatsassything

3. You can’t stop thinking about them–your toothbrush is in their bathroom, and all your friends are waiting to hear about your next date. But you’re “going with the flow” and haven’t put a label to what you’re doing together yet. Most of us have been in a situationship. However, we might all feel differently about it. Whether you’re frustrated and waiting for your partner to have the talk, or are wondering if you have to take a next step at all, or you’re just comfortably marinating in some fiery new relationship energy, Aunt Sassy’s Down to Relationship (DTR) guide has got all you need. Like her self-care products, it's been carefully curated for some TLC, so keep reading, bestie! Defining a Situationship In simple words, a situationship is, “when it’s more than friendship, but less than a relationship.” Some call it the period before getting DTR. A situationship is also not the same as being friends with benefits (FWB), a sneaky link, or a textationship, and differentiating between each one can help get a clearer idea of what it is.

4. FWB vs Situationship: In an FWB, while partners may be friends and have emotions for each other that are based on their friendship, they may decide to keep things less romantic, while also engaging in physical intimacy. In a situationship, partners may have romantic feelings for each other that they're comfortable exploring while engaging in physical intimacy. Sneaky Link vs Situationship: A sneaky link is typically a person you’re not “supposed” to be seeing. For example, if you’re getting cozy with a friend’s ex, and your friend and most of your circle doesn’t know. (If you’re a sneaky link, we’re not judging, but we hope you’ve carefully considered the emotions of everyone involved!) A situationship may not be as secretive and partners may be more comfortable talking about who they’re with. Textationship vs Situationship: A textationship is a dynamic which is primarily text-based, where partners share emotional and/or physical intimacy. There may also be an understanding that the partners are satisfied with keeping things text- based. While a textationship could be considered a situationship, situationships generally include a focus on also spending in-person time together.

5. Relationship vs Situationship: In a relationship, partners tend to prioritise each other as part of their primary circle, may make important life decisions with each other in mind, and are “official”–most people in their lives may know about their relationship and their close ones may also be in touch with their partners. While monogamous relationships often associate being exclusively intimate with one person as necessary, this may not be so in non- monogamous relationships. In a situationship, partners may be much less committed and involved in each other’s lives. As M, a twenty-four year old, non-binary content writer, who’s monogamous says, “Every relationship may start with a situationship, but not every situationship is a relationship in the making.” It’s important to remember that these labels may be more nuanced based on partners’ experiences and interactions with each other, and connections between people may not always fall into the definitions that we prescribe for them.

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