People in Need of Change Helping people in Need of Change

1. Paul David Tripp Timothy S. Lane, Contributor Orange Park Bible Church People in Need of Change Helping people in Need of Change

2. Last Week BIG QUESTION As you deal with your daily situations and relationships what things tend to control your heart? James 4:1 What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? NASB James 4:1 Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from? Do you think they just happen? Think again. They come about because you want your own way, and fight for it deep inside yourselves. MESSAGE James 4:1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? NIV

3. Responding to the Central Point Related to others • I must not blame people or circumstancesfor my emotions, words, and actions. • I must always remember that the desires that rule my heart will shape the way I relate to the people in my life. I must constantly ask myself if those relationships are characterized by demanding or serving. • I must be committed to helping peopleremember who they are in Christ as they struggle with temptations to indulge the sinful nature.

4. Responding to the Central Point Personalized • When attempting to understand my emotions, words, and actions, I must always examine my own heart. • I must learn to ask myselfwhat emotions and desires control me in the various relationships and situations of daily life. • I must learn to affirm my identityin Christand rely on the indwelling Holy Spiritas I seek to serve others in love.

5. How they relate to others Your Personal Ministry • As I minister to others, I want to be an instrument of heart change. • Heart change is always the result of the careful ministry of God's Word to a particular person in a specific situation. • I must not attempt to manipulate or control the behavior of others. I must leave room for God to work lasting change in their hearts.

6. INSTRUMENTS IN THE REDEEMER'S HANDSLESSON 4 Lesson 1 Do we really need help? Lesson 2 The Heart is the Target Lesson 3 Understanding Your Heart Struggle Lesson 4 Following the Wonderful Counselor

7. Concepts • God calls us to be ambassadors, representing his message, methods, and character (2 Corinthians 5:14-21). • Ambassadors get from negative fruit to positive fruit not by fixing problems externally but by heart change. • The Love-Know-Speak-Do model follows Christ's example of how to do this (John 13:34).

8. Personalized • In all of my relationships, I must remember that I am Christ's ambassador. • I must examine my goals for my relationships. Am I solely motivated by my own personal happiness? Do I respond to others with a desire to encourage God's work of change in their lives? • I must examine my commitment to the message, methods, and character of the King.

9. Related to Others • I must learn to look at all of my relationships redemptively, keeping an eye out for God-given moments of ministry. (Personal Ministry) • It is important to use the Love-Know-Speak-Domodel as a way to examine the quality of the relationships God has given me. • In my relationships, I must always remember that I am called to be God's instrument. God alone changes people.

10. Love-Know-Speak-DoModel of Ministry • LOVE – Getting to know people • KNOW – Discovering where change is needed • SPEAK – Speaking the truth in love • DO – Applying change to Everyday life

11. Discussion • What are some reasons why external change is appealing to us as human beings? • Why does God seek heart change? • Have you been functioning as an ambassador? • Have you been serving God’s Kingdom or Your Kingdom? • Do you recognize your Personal Ministry Opportunities?

12. Question How can God use the things he has taught you in these lessons so far to enable you to help someone else?

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