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HOW TO SAY ANYTHING TO ANYONE………. By Polly Alles. Communication Void. TEACH YOU HOW TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT AT WORK IMPROVE RELATIONSHIPS BUSINESS/PERSONAL REDUCE GOSSIP/DRAMA CREATE CLEAR EXPECTATIONS TAKE ACTION ON YOUR OWN FEELINGS OR IDEAS HOW TO ESTABLISH CANDID ENVIRONMENTS
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HOW TO SAY ANYTHINGTO ANYONE……….. By Polly Alles
TEACH YOU HOW TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT AT WORK • IMPROVE RELATIONSHIPS BUSINESS/PERSONAL • REDUCE GOSSIP/DRAMA • CREATE CLEAR EXPECTATIONS • TAKE ACTION ON YOUR OWN FEELINGS OR IDEAS • HOW TO ESTABLISH CANDID ENVIRONMENTS • GET WHAT YOU ASK FOR • GIVING AND RECEIVING CANDID FEEDBACK • DEALING WITH DIFFICULT SITUATIONS • BUILDING TRUST WITH CANDOR • MANAGING WITH CANDOR GOALS
DOCTOR IS UNPROFESSIONAL? • ACCOUNTANT MAKES A MISTAKE? • RESTAURANT SERVICE BAD • VENDOR MISTAKE • BOSS DOES/SAYS SOMETHING • DO WE SPEAK UP? • 90% OF THE TIME – NO • WE DON’T WANT TO DAMAGE RELATIONSHIPS • VALIDATION WHY CANDOR?
“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” • ― Benjamin Mee, We Bought a Zoo: The Amazing True Story of a Young Family, a Broken Down Zoo, and the 200 Wild Animals That Change Their Lives Forever HOW DO WE GET IT?
ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT HERE’S HOW….
WHY CANDID RELATIONSHIPS? • DOING THIS WILL HELP YOUR WORK/HOME • WE NEED TO CUT DRAMA OR GOSSIP • FEAR (UNKNOWN) • WE CRAVE FEEDBACK/VALIDATION • SUPPORT RELATIONSHIPS
WHY CREATE THEM? • WHAT DOES THIS PREVENT? • SET THEM: TAKE THE EXTRA MINUTE TO STATE THEM CLEARLY • WHAT ISSUES DO YOU HAVE WITH VENDORS/DEPARTMENTS ETC? • MY EXPECTATIONS WRITTEN, WHY? • SHARE YOUR STORIES… EXPECTATIONS
PREVENTIONS IN PLACE ( WE ARE HUMAN) • EXAMPLES? • FALLBACKS ARE FOR THOSE WHO VIOLATE AGREEMENTS • EXAMPLES PREVENTIONS & FALLBACKS
STATE GOAL • SET EXPECTATION • AGREE ON HOW YOU WILL WORK TOGETHER • ASK FOR FEEDBACK • ASK FOR PERMISSION TO GIVE FEEDBACK • AGREE ON ROLES • AGREE ON COMMUNICATION PROCESS • WRITE IT DOWN • TOO BUSY? HOW TO…
WHAT DO WE DO WHEN WE DON’T KNOW? • GUESSING OR ASSUMING IS INEFFECTIVE IN BUSINESS • WHAT OTHERS THINK MATTERS • CANDOR IS NOT BAD NEWS • CANDOR IS ASKING MORE QUESTIONS • DON’T EXPECT PEOPLE TO READ YOUR MIND TAKE ACTION ON YOUR FEELINGS & IDEAS
TALKING WHEN IT HAPPENS • SPEAK OPENLY WITHOUT CONCERN • TEAM ATMOSPHERE • CREATE OPEN/EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS • NO SURPRISES • ALL INCLUDED • DEFINE AGREEMENT OF HOW TO WORK TOGETHER CANDID ENVIRONMENTS
WALK THE TALK- YOU FEEL YOU CANT SAY • PERMISSION • CREATE CANDID RELATIONSHIPS • MORE POWER/ CONTROL • ANTICIPATE ACTIONS • IMPACT OF YOUR BEHAVIOR- • YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR CAREER • IN CONTRAST- YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY ARE THINKING • IMPACT OF THEIR OPINIONS • OTHERS IN CHARGE OF YOU? GET WHAT YOU ASK FOR
WHY? • HOW? • FOCUS ON THE BEHAVIOR- WHY? • EXAMPLES (FRANKLIN COVEY) • DIFFERENTIATE YOURSELF- • ASK PERMISSION- WHY? • 7 HABITS BY STEPHEN COVEY: • DEPOSIT INTO THEIR EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT FEEDBACK
BUILD TRUST, RESPECT, RAPPORT, RELATIONSHIPS • EVER HAD SOMEONE GO OVER YOUR HEAD TO THE BIG BOSS? • DID YOU SAY OR DO ANYTHING? • CANDID WITH COMPLIMENTS • SCHOOL OF WHATS RIGHT VS WHAT WORKS • STORY 4 WAY INTERSECTION MANAGING WITH CANDOR
“Work for a cause, NOT for applause. Live life to express, NOT to impress. Don’t strive to make your presence noticed, Just make you absence felt!” FINAL THOUGHT TO PONDER