Boys Will Be Boys • A practical approach to dealing with our most challenging middle school boys.
The World View Of Boys • The world says boys should conquer and achieve and they’ll find fulfillment. • Boys should Compare, Compete, and Win. • In truth all the achievements and accolades in the world, without meaningful relationships, leave many boys insecure and unfulfilled.
Be A Real Man What makes a real man? • Accepting responsibility • Leading courageously • Empathy • Respect for others • Enacting justice on behalf of others
Looks Are Deceiving • Does being the most fit and attractive boy always promise success? • What happens to the boy who focuses on being selfless and affirming to others? • What other things will fall into place for him?
How to Harness The Power • The BIG 3: Power, Strength, Authority • One world view is:“If you have it, flaunt it.” • A less shared view is: “How can I use this for others?” • All the power in the world will never make up for failed relationships • Think of the power of a single selfless act • How can we teach this to our boys?
Breaking Down The Cliques • The world will try to place boys in boxes according to race, socioeconomic status, looks, athleticism, and academic achievement. • We can teach boys that respecting others is a form of respecting yourself. • Encourage boys to model inclusion and empathy. Not just feeling for someone, but coming along side of them. • The content of a boy’s character matters infinitely more than the wrapping and labels we place on him.
What else can we do about this? • “Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us lay aside every encumbrance…and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us…” Heb. 12:2
We Can Teach Integrity • We need to live with integrity not only when it’s convenient, but always. • We can teach integrity to our boys by modeling it. • If we project integrity, we can expect it back. • We can tell the truth even if it’s risky. Our boys are worth the risk. • We can teach our boys that an ounce of integrity goes a long way.
We Need To Show Our Humanity and Be Accessible • We need to offer our boys encouragement and one on one help. We need to leave a good first impression. We might only get one shot at this. • Discuss other stuff besides academics. Let our boys know we have a life. • If you listen, the boys will come. • Remember the goal is to establish trust first.
Beware Of The Sponges • Boys will selectively tune you out when bored or if they feel disrespected. • Like sponges, boys will absorb anything they find credible and pertinent to their lives. • Make your words and actions count
Prepare For Guerrilla Warfare • Protect your hard earned reputation by not over reacting to unpleasant situations. • If boys discover how to rattle your cage, you’re toast. • Size up the situation and take them out one at a time. Be stealth like. Aim for the heart. • Divide and you will conquer
Remember, Boys Are Like Animals • Boys are most dangerous when cornered • Boys are like dogs, not cats • Boys run in packs. • Boys can smell bad • Never admonish a boy while he’s eating
If We Invest Wisely, The Reward Will Be 10 Fold • Invest in your boys using good communication skills. • Spending one on one time with boys can yield huge dividends. • Skillful listening can turn confrontation into cooperation. • Form that critical bridge between you and your boys. • Once that bridge is constructed, it paves the way for many others to follow.
Recap • Listen • Encourage • Give hope • Counsel • Develop positive relationships • Teach our boys that greatness is measured by the impact one has on other people’s lives.
How Can We Connect With Our Boys When We’re Already Overworked and Overwhelmed?
6 Success Stories • Responsibility: Alison & Jeff • Compassion: Carol • Fearlessness: Chris • Firmness, but Fairness: Eric • Humor: Brendan
The Fitness Solution • How diet and proper training can make teachers more healthy and benefit their students.
The Diet Factor • The main goal is to establish a stable, fat burning metabolism. • The yoyo effect • Compatibility with the natural set point • Without exercise, you will experience muscle loss when dieting. • Reshape. Don’t just lose weight.
Benefits Of Small Meals • 5-6 small meals per day will keep the “metabolic fire” hot. • It takes many calories to digest food. Thus more meals = greater caloric expenditure. • Small meals will discourage the late night binges. • Fueling during active times will prevent fat accumulation. • Latest studies show 800 calories per meal is the maximum most bodies can digest and convert to fuel.
Carbohydtrates • Carbs are a body’s main source of fuel. • Carbs are protein sparing • Carbs are placed in two categories, determined by the glycemic index. • Extra carbs, especially at night, will cause fat gain.
Protein • Quality protein is essential for gaining muscle mass. • Whey protein verses soy protein • How much protein should we eat? • Do weight trainers need extra protein? • What types of foods have the least calories , but yield the most protein? • Post workout meals should include some protein.
Fat • Be sensible when it comes to fat. • 3,500 calories equals 1 pound of fat. • Small sacrifices can add up to huge fat loss.
Supplements • Supplements are more necessary today than ever before because of our fast food lifestyle. • The average American diet is void of some vitamins and essential nutrients. • Multi vitamins with timed release are good. • Protein bars and shakes can be useful. • Watch out for weight loss supplements. • Diet Stack Trend: Caffeine and Ephedra
Weight Training Basics • Weight Training will not just add muscle mass, but increase your metabolic rate 24/7. • The caloric expenditure is ramped up hours after the workout is completed. • Placing a greater load on muscles will cause growth through adaptation. • Low intensity work outs will yield poor results. • Peak performance and the neuromuscular junction.
Why Women Should Lift Weights? • 1. Increased strength and durability • 2. Lose body fat. • 3. Gain strength without bulk • 4. Decrease risk of osteoporosis • 5. Improve athletic performance • 6. Reduce risk of injury, back pain, and arthritis
Why Women Should Lift Weights Part 2 • 7. Adults can lose up to 3% muscle mass per year after age 30 • 8. Reduce your risk of heart disease • 9. Reduce risk of diabetes • 10. Improve your confidence and fight depression • 11. One can start lifting weights at any age
The Cardio Component • The common rule of thumb is to maintain a steady target heart rate for 20-30 minutes each day to achieve good cardiovascular fitness. • For more aggressive results, one can work up to the anaerobic threshold and then back down again. • This type of cardio workout is typical in interval training. • Increase intensity and vary routines to maximize gains