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How to Text Girls? to Get Dates, Phone Calls and More
Table of Contents Part 1: What’s Wrong with Texting Today …………………………………………………………………………………5 …………………………………………………………………………7 Losing focus on the goal…………………………………………………………………………………9 Part 2: 10 Rules of Texting Part 3: Conclusion 3 Relying on guesswork Failing women who like you 10 17 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
Part 1: What’s Wrong with Texting Today According to 2018 data, roughly 26 billion text messages are sent every day in the United States alone. That’s not even including iMessages, Android messages, and Whatsapp (which together account for another 180 billion messages worldwide each day). Text messages have become a ubiquitous part of our communication – particularly between single men and women. But we have to ask: does texting work for getting dates? 3 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
We’re all looking for ways to more efficiently and effectively communicate We’re all looking for ways to more efficiently and effectively communicate with the people we like and want to get to know better. The great advantage of text messaging has been that it enables individuals to communicate in short snippets that let the recipient respond when she has a chance instead of having to decide in the moment whether to respond or not, as she would with a phone call. But despite text messaging’s ubiquity and familiarity, many men still struggle to use it to get dates. In fact, out of all the emails, messages, and comments we receive at GirlsChase.com, guys wanting to know what to text next to a girl or how to interpret a girl’s texting behavior remain some of the most frequent requests. Texting remains a mysterious and poorly understood medium for communicating between the sexes. 4 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
Relying on guesswork Guessing doesn’t get you dates. Quick – what’s your process for getting dates via text message? If you’re like the vast majority of guys out there, your answer is this: “I don’t have one.” Know anyone who guesses their way to success regularly with anything? So why do so many men keep trying to guess with something as important as getting dates with the girls they like? 5 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
Guessing frequently leads to beating around the bush Guys texting girls they like frequently resort to trying to be interesting, sound cool, be funny, or – even worse – build a connection with a girl over text message before asking her out. A connection built over text! Sounds pretty silly when you put it that way, doesn’t it? But guys keep doing it. What happens? The girl knows they’re beating around the bush and it’s a turnoff. Most guys cause their own frustration. You’ll find most guys come in 1 of 2 styles: • Too safe (beating around the bush), or • Too forward (letting it all hang out) And if styles don’t work… they keep using them anyway! 6 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
Failing women who like you Imagine for a second that you’re not you, but rather a girl that you like. And you meet some guy, and think he’s cute, and you hope he’s cool… and that he’ll ask you out. Then he starts texting you funny things about his day… and trying to be clever… and sending you lots of long getting-to-know- you style texts. And this goes on… and on… and on. He doesn’t ask you out… he just… keeps… TEXTING. Still hoping he’ll ask you out? 7 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
Beating around the bush destroys girls’ patience… and their interest in YOU.Beating around the bush destroys girls’ patience… and their interest in YOU. No girl wants to wait forever for some guy to pull the trigger. And very few girls will wait forever – most of the time, you’re not the only guy who’s texting her. And if you’re not getting down to business with her, there’s a good chance someone else a little more… motivated, perhaps… will. Being too forward can be a kiss of death though, too. Whether that’s too forward as in, “I really like you,” or too forward as in, “Here, take a look at this picture of my mem ,” letting it all hang out is NOT an effective texting strategy, unless you’re overpoweringly attractive and she’s already dying to see you. And even if she is, she’d probably still like a little intrigue to keep her guessing. No need to disappoint her by holding up a glaring sign that says, “HEY, I REALLY LIKE YOU! YOU FEEL THE SAME?” 8 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
Losing focus on the goal How often have you taken a girl’s number because you really wanted to: • Get into hours- or days-long text conversations? • Finally have someone to text all the details of your day to? • Find a new buddy for comparing notes on the latest romcom with? • Discuss the latest trends in fashion – what’s “in” this season, anyway? • Have someone to complain to about your teacher / boss / turtle? Probably none of those, right? So why’d you get her number again? Oh, right – so you could see her again. But if that’s the case, why do so many guys start doing all that other stuff instead? 9 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
Part 2: 10 Rules of Texting As wonderful a tool as texting is, its actual value as a medium for connecting people more often than not falls short – both for the person trying to do the connecting, and the person he’s trying to connect with. Understanding the rules of texting can help you to make better decisions about how to do your own texting – and both create a better experience for the women you meet, and a much greater chance that you’ll see them again. 10 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
10 Rules of Texting 1. Above all else, stick to the point 6. If it feels like it’s taking too long, it is 2. Break the ice fast 7. Don’t “tell all.” Just don’t 3. Don’t be silly or crack too many jokes 8. Don’t pretend you aren’t interested, either 4. Keep things brief 9. Get her schedule 5. Don’t take too long 10. Tell her what to do (it’s easy)
10 Rules of Texting Most guys today have never bothered to get down the basic fundamental rules of texting. They (and the women they text) then suffer for this. We think that’s terrible. Up next, we’re going to go through (and explain) each of the 10 Rules of Texting. 1. Stick to the point One of the reasons texting works is because it’s a short, direct, and efficient means of communication. Just like you feel annoyed every time you get a pointless-feeling text (“Why is this person texting me this?”), girls do too. Stick to the point – and the point, with texting, is that the two of you should meet. Break the ice fast Ever get a first text or phone call from someone you met ages ago? Felt weird, right? Don’t put girls in that situation – a simple, “Hanna, great meeting you today! – Mark,” a few hours after meeting her will do. Oh, and don’t forget your name – just in case she does! 2. 12 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
3. Don’t be silly or crack too many jokes A lot of guys hear the well-known fact that women like a guy with a sense of humor and take that thought to its seemingly logical conclusion – “If girls like guys with a sense of humor, then just wait until they get a load of my rainbow wig and Bozo nose – they’ll love ME!” But what people actually mean when they say women like a guy with a sense of humor is that they love a guy who makes casual, witty, effortless remarks – not a guy who’s a laugh-a-minute and comes across like he’s playing the role of entertainer. So go easy on the laughs, Chuckles. It’s actually better cracking no jokes than too many. 4. Keep things brief Have you ever gotten one of those really long text messages people sometimes send, looked at it, and silently thought to yourself, “Why?” Don’t do that to girls – don’t be a burden. Instead, keep texts short, brief, and easy to reply to – or not. Like: “Heading to the café on Main near you. Let me know if you’re around and down to grab a tea.” 13 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
5. Don’t take too long By “take too long,” what I don’t mean is you just spent 20 minutes carefully crafting the perfect text. It’s debatable whether that’s a good use of your time, BUT she doesn’t know so it won’t hurt you. Rather, what I mean is, don’t spend weeks texting back and forth before you ask her out. If you wait that long, you’ll have built it up into a much bigger deal than it should be… and if you wait that long, you’d better have one heck of an impressive pitch to get her to go out. Instead, just casually ask her out first thing after getting her number. Easy. Much easier than trying to figure out how to do it weeks later. 6. If it feels like it’s taking too long, it is Ever start getting that feeling that things have been dragging on too long and you should do something… or should’ve done something ages ago? Well guess what – if you’re feeling that way, she probably is too. Or worse – it’s already too late. Learn to listen to this feeling: it’ll save you a lot of wasted time (and wasted phone numbers). 14 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
7. Don’t “tell all.” Just don’t You know what I mean: “Casey… look… I like you a lot. I don’t know if you feel the same way, but I really care about you. I just had to tell you that.” First off, there are a number of things technically wrong with doing an emotion dump on a woman via text. For instance, you’re effectively communicating to her: “Okay, I told you I liked you… now YOU do everything!” in an arena (dating) where women are waiting for MEN to take the lead. But besides that, this just drips of not really knowing much about her (otherwise you wouldn’t need to ask) and pushes a girl away. No matter how tempting it may be to “get it off your chest,” don’t do this one. Trust me here, you’ll thank me later. 8. Don’t pretend you aren’t interested, either Why? Simple: if you ACT like you just want to be a girl’s friend, she’s going to TREAT you like you’re just a friend, THINK of you like just a friend, and meantime she’ll be out dating guys who didn’t hide their interest. Think she’s going to realize what a great guy you are? Guys always think this, and always end up disappointed. Even if she asks you what you’re after or whether you like her, don’t say no – instead, build intrigue, like: “Ask me the next time we hang out. I’m still making up my mind…” 15 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
9. Get her schedule What happens if you text her, “Hey, are you free Saturday?” and the answer’s “no”? She instantly becomes a lot less likely to ever agree to meet up with you again (it’s a psychological thing – precedence, effectively), and you’re now chasing after her and scrambling to find a date she’s open. Instead, text her this: “Annie, what’s your schedule like this week? Let’s grab a bite before the weekend.” 10. Tell her what to do (it’s easy) Many men will try to leave it up to the girl to pick what to do – “Okay, I’ll just let her decide, then she can pick something she likes and she’ll be more likely to want to go,” they think. Truth? Most women have no idea what they want to do on a date. Women look to men to lead here – so once you know when she’s free, pick a time, pick a place, tell her to meet you there at that time, and ask her if that sounds good. Easy, right? 16 Tweet this eBook Share on Facebook
Texting that actually works Too commonly guys put a lot of pressure on themselves to make their text conversations “perfect.” They want to have enough wit, be impressive enough, and get a real conversation going over text. This misses the fact that text is a far poorer medium for doing any of this than being live and in-person – or than even a simple phone call. Here’s the most effective way you can come to view text messaging: as a dating-planning tool. Use it for handling your logistics – nothing more. Not every girl whose number you get will meet up with you, of course – but trust me, if she isn’t open to the idea of meeting up with you right after you trade phone numbers, she isn’t going to be any more open to meeting up with you weeks or months down the road, either. So go for the meet fast – you’ll save yourself (and her) a lot of time, a lot of hassle, and a lot of heartache. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Chase Amante is the founder and president of Girls Chase, a rapidly- growing (and mildly controversial) men’s dating advice company based in Southern California. You can connect with Chase at: https://www.girlschase.com
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