UNDERSTANDING A MAN OR A WOMAN

2. UNDERSTANDING A MAN OR A WOMAN Text: Genesis 1:27 Gen 1:27 So God created man in His [own] image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

3. INTRO: • Pro 4:7 Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding. • Knowledge is the key to understanding • Our understanding is determined by our knowledge • No knowledge, no understanding

4. (5 + 5) 5 = (10) x 5 = 50 • 5 + 5 (5) = 5 + 25 = 30 • The rule is to do the multiplication first. • It is so with the indifferences to husband and wife, man or woman, or male or female • Our understanding is also determined by our knowledge.

5. AIM: • FOR US TO UNDERSTAND A MAN AND OR A WOMAN. • TO PROMOTE DEEPER RELATIONSHIP TO EACH OTHER REGARDLESS OF THEIR SEX . DIFFERENCES BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN

6. 1. THE WOMEN’S BRAIN WORKS LIKE A CONNECTED WIRES WHILST MEN’S IS LIKE AN INDIVIDUAL BOX. • This is the reason why women talks from one topic to the other whilst man focus on one thing. • Men normally don’t mix up the boxes as they are individual

7. Women on the other hand cannot concentrate on one subject alone 2. WHEN STRESSED, WOMEN TALKS OUT THE CONNECTED PROCESSES WHILST MEN FOCUS ON ONE BOX WHICH IS THE EMPTY BOX • It’s hard for us men to stand along women who keeps on talking their problems

8. because we don’t talk about them • It doesn’t mean that we don’t care, it’s just our nature 3. MEN’S BRAIN WORKS DOMINANTLY ON THE LEFT SIDE (LOGIC) WHILST WOMEN ON THE RIGHT (CONCERN & EMOTIONS). • To be logical means to think in a reasoned, organized, and orderly manner.

9. We analyse facts like a computer and process and evaluate them in a precise and predictable pattern & act accordingly. • Women are emotional, they approach issues more from feelings than logic. • It’s not a bad thing • Neither worse nor better than logical

10. Men- logical vs women-emotional • A man leads with his mind whilst women leads with her heart. • Ex. Simon Cowell says, “In my mind…and in my heart…” • Pure logic would mean becoming apathetic, insensible, and no passion.

11. Pure emotions-world without order and stability • Ex. In helping extended family, women are so good at it due to their emotions but men are logical. 4.FOR WOMEN, LANGUAGE SPOKEN IS EXPRESSION OF THEIR FEELINGS WHILST FOR MEN, IT IS THE EXPRESSION OF THEIR THINKING.

12. With this in mind, each must be understood from their viewpoint • A woman says what is in her heart whilst a man says what is in his mind. • Ex. When a man say’s “I’m sorry”, he mean it but not that emotional • Women, usually misunderstood men as they

13. don’t see the case as they do. They say what is in their heart . • This is where emotional differences set in. • Nagpapansinnasibabae • For men, we have said what is in our mind, end of story • Emotional women might have said things differently and logical men cannot

14. understand, it doesn’t makes sense. • This is why lots of men reckon women to be irrational • Bubo, gaga, tanga, idiot… • As a result, women are in deep emotional struggle, would not be able to sleep whilst the men were snoring.

15. 5. WHAT A WOMAN HEARS IS EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE WHILST FOR A MAN IT IS RECEIVING INFORMATION. • Ex. When a woman tells a man a relative dies, that’s information for him. • When a man speaks of his information the woman feels it more personal. • Ex. Man to woman: Angbadoymomanamit.

16. Babae: Angsakitmomagsalita, may damdamin din namanako. • Lalaki: Dinner tayo • Babae: Ayawko • The man would receive it as, She don’t want to. • But the woman is saying what she feels not what she thinks

17. This is called misconception • What was meant is different from what you understand. • Because of that women perceives us men as uncaring, thoughtless, insensitive, name it. • Each should consider the other person from his viewpoint for the relationship to work.

18. 6. WOMEN TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONALLY WHILST MEN IMPERSONALLY. • Men-Walangpersonalan • Women-namimersonalkana • Ex. I don’t like the dress you are wearing (FYI). • Babae: So, you don’t like me • Lalaki: Tumabakana (FYI) • Babae: At sinonamang slim angdinidatemo?

19. Babae: Hindi ka bagay sa pantalon mo • Lalaki: Ganun ba, ok (information) • He won’t even care to change it or not, he might only change it when it is due for washing. • Men should be cautious in what they say and women should not take everything personal

20. 7. WOMEN ARE DETAILISTIC WHILST MEN ARE IN GENERAL • Ex. Groceries- men hate its details • Women love to ask questions re: details • Woman: How was your day? • Man: Fine, that’s it • Woman: What did you eat, what time did you eat?

21. Who were with you when you eat? • Men think on principles and concepts not on details. • A leader sets the vision and direction, those under him works for the details. 8. MATERIALLY- WOMEN LOOK ON THE GOALS WHILST MEN ON THE DETAILS.

22. Women tend to be materialistic whilst men are idealistic. • Women are concern on what they could have whilst men on how could they have it • Do we have enough budget? Where will we get the money?

24. Due to different views, the man sees the woman as “bilmoko” whilst the woman sees the man as dreamless, contradictory 9. SPIRITUALLY- WOMEN ARE LOOKING ON SPECIFICS WHILST MEN ARE GOAL MINDED • Women are now on how-specifics whilst men on what-goals

25. Men as the head of the family should set the goal and direction • Women works on how-the specifics • Failure of men to take and maintain the spiritual lead in their homes and marriages is one of the biggest problems in the family nowadays.

26. 10. WOMEN WORKS ON TASKS IMMEDIATELY WHILST MEN DELAYS IT. • Ex. It took me sometime to fix our light on the stairs and the shower hose. • My wife even if she’s tired, she will cleaned the kitchen or toilet, “horamismo”. • Men files the tasks and does them when they can • Women are like computers, they never stop until it’s done.

27. 11. A WOMAN’S HOME IS EXTENSION OF HER PERSONALITY WHILST A MAN IS HIS JOB. • A woman finds it hard to understand a man who is attached to his job. • A man will often bring his job home with him at least in his personality and attitude

28. Men should be concerned to their home for the sake of their wife because they could be their self-esteem, or sense of pride. 12. WOMEN NEEDS ASSURANCE WHILST MEN COULD BE FLEXIBLE • Men could be nomadic • Women needs to hear that they are important or loved

29. Men are like camels-drink once and go a long way, women are like deer, pants of the water • Men could easily pick up and change or moved on • Men could easily come and go whilst women prefers to stay with security • They hardly live on faith, they wanted to see something

30. 13. WOMEN ARE CHANGEABLE OR IRRADICAL WHILST MEN ARE CONSISTENT • Men could stick to their decision even if sometimes it is unreasonable or stubbornness • Ex. Wearing of clothes • Men-stick on what they are wearing whilst women don’t

31. 14. WOMEN ARE CONCERN WITH THE DETAILISTIC WHILST MEN ARE GENERALISTIC OR ESSENTIALS • “He said-general over view, She said-minutes specifics • General overview-elephant on a foggy day

32. Details-Blind people holding and describing the elephant base on what they are holding 15. WOMEN-GUILT PRONE WHILST MEN ARE INDIGNANT • Due to emotions, women usually blame themselves for everything. • Men they rather burst in anger than taking the blame

33. 16. WOMEN BECOMES EASILY ATTACHED WHILST MEN DO NOT • Women tend to lead with their hearts • They see a need or recognize a noble or worthy cause, and off they go. • As men are logical, we tend to be sceptical and analyse something before joining into it.

34. CHALLENGE: • Do you now understand your indifferences? • Are you willing to bear each other despite your contrast? CONCLUSION: • Hosea 4:6 My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. (NIV)