No Man Cared For My Soul: The All Alone Wound Psalm 142:4

2. BOM VII Saturday, 1-26-2013 No Man Cared For My Soul: The All Alone Wound Psalm 142:4

3. Psalm 142:4 (KJV) I looked on my right hand, and beheld, but there was no man that would know me: refuge failed me; no man cared for my soul. The Six Saddest Words In The Bible

4. PSALM 142:1 • A maskil of David. • When he was in the cave. • A prayer.

5. Word Study Maschil Mas-keel’ instructive to be prudent, wise, to give insight and instruction; a didactic psalm

6. When he was in the cave. Most likely the Cave of Adullam

7. 1 Samuel 22:1-2 (NIV)1David left Gath and escaped to the cave of Adullam. When his brothers and his father's household heard about it, they went down to him there. 2All those who were in distress or in debt or discontented gathered around him, and he became their leader. About four hundred men were with him.

8. A prayer. “Caves make good closets for prayer.” Charles Spurgeon

9. BOM V 2011 How To Help A Caveman – 1 Kings 19

10. A prayer. An Expression of Trouble An Entreaty for Relief An Expectation of Deliverance

11. Dr. Robert Lewis Men’s Fraternity The All Alone Wound Defined A social, emotional and spiritual loss caused by the lack of healthy male comradeship that results in . . .

12. Dr. Robert Lewis Men’s Fraternity • loneliness and discouragement • The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” Thoreau • foolish behaviors and blind spots • short-sighted masculinity

13. “Most men live in rock-ribbed, self-sufficient isolation.” -Stu Weber The Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart

14. Genesis 2:18 NIV The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." FRIEND to connect

15. What’s the point? Every Man Benefits From The Company Of Other Men!

16. The Friendless American Male

17. The Significant Downside To Isolation a warped perspective on life Proverbs 14:12 NIV There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.

18. The Significant Downside To Isolation loose living Proverbs 18:1 (NKJV) A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment.

19. The Significant Downside To Isolation Loss of motivation for the noble things of life

20. The Significant Downside To Isolation Loss of opportunities for much need transparency

21. What The Scripture Has To Say

22. Proverbs 27:17 NIV As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.

23. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV) 9Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: 10If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!

24. Proverbs 17:17 NIV A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 18:24b NKJV There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

25. Hebrews 10:24 (NLT) Think of ways to encourage one another …

26. Encouragement is not just a cheesy Christian call to be nice to one another. Instead, it’s a charge to breathe courage into the lives of others.

27. 1 Samuel 20:17 (NLT) Jonathan loved David as much as he loved himself. John 15:13 NIV Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. Mark 12:31 NIV Love your neighbor as yourself.

28. Jonathan • and David • Four Mileposts of Male Friendships • Acceptance • Affirmation • Accountability • Authority FRIEND to connect

29. What Can You Do?

30. The three keys to friendship • loyalty • faithfulness • encouragement

31. Reach out to other men

32. fear of rejection

33. Challenge men you like to meet regularly with you to “get better” Proverbs 13:20 (MSG) Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.

34. 1 Samuel 22:1-2 (NIV)1David left Gath and escaped to the cave of Adullam. When his brothers and his father's household heard about it, they went down to him there. 2All those who were in distress or in debt or discontented gathered around him, and he became their leader. About four hundred men were with him.

35. I alone am left. Breaking Free: • One rule and only one! • No self-pity. No blaming: • your wife • your colleagues • your parents • your childhood • your inner tendencies

36. Get real and share your heart

37. “Once we open our world to another man, we learn that we are not alone in our fears, insecurities, uncertainties, and desires…Through friendship with another man, we affirm much of what is good and strong in us as men.”

38. Enjoy life together.

39. Three Significant Relationships That Bless And Energize A Man’s Life • The Admiring Mentor (Paul) • The Side-by-Side Friend (Barnabas) • The Needy Protégé (Timothy)

40. protégé (French) “to protect” Psalm 142:6 (MSG) Oh listen, please listen; I've never been this low. Rescue me from those who are hunting me down; I'm no match for them. Deut. 32:30 “One chase a thousand, and two put …

41. Psalm 142:7 (MSG) Get me out of this dungeon so I can thank you in public. Your people will form a circle around me and you'll bring me showers of blessing!

42. We few, we happy few, we band of brothers. Shakespeare