Dating Violence

1. Dating Violence Chap. 13 pp. 350-354

3. 1 in 3 teens will experience some form of violence in a relationship. • Every 6seconds a woman is battered by a boyfriend or husband. • Every 14 minutes a woman is murdered by a boyfriend or husband.

5. Dating Violence: • Is on the rise. Dating violence includes all forms of abuse- physical, emotional, and sexual.

6. Signs of an unhealthy dating relationship: • Expressions of jealousy. • Attempts to control a partner’s behavior. • Use of insults or put-downs to manipulate a partner. • Use of guilt to manipulate a partner.

8. Date & Acquaintance Rape: • Date rape occurs when one person in a dating relationship forces the other person to participate in sexual intercourse. • Acquaintance rape occurs when someone known casually or considered a friend forces a person to have sexual intercourse.

9. Why should you be concerned? • Because rape is a serious crime!! • Most people imagine the typical rapist as a psychotic stranger lurking in an alley. In fact, many rapes are committed by a seemingly “nice guy”. • No matter who the rapist is, rape is an act of violence. It can cause great emotional & physical pain.

10. Myth Only young & beautiful people get raped. People wearing “sexy” clothes are asking to be raped. Most rapes occur in dangerous places Most rapes are committed by a stranger. Fact Rape victims include people of all ages & appearances. No one asks to be hurt this way. Most rapes occur in the home or automobile. Most rapes occur by someone known to the victim. Myths & Facts about Rape:

11. Myth Most rapes occur because the rapist is sexually starved. It is common for a woman to falsely accuse a man of rape Fact Most rapes occur because the rapist has a desire to overpower % humiliate someone else. There are no more false reports of rape than f any other crime. Most victims do not even report rape. Myths & Facts cont..

12. What are the Effects of Date Rape: Loss of trust Guilt Fear Depression Sexual Problems Relationship problems

13. How do I tell the bad guys from the good? • Hostility toward women • Possessive, extremely jealous • Domineering personality • Anger control problems • Resent women in authority positions. • Expects relationships to be in their terms. “Self Centered” • Drug or alcohol misuse

14. Alcohol, Drugs & Date Rape: • Research shows that alcohol use is involved in as many as two-thirds of date-rape cases involving teens & college students. • In the past 10 years or so, the drugs GHB & Rohypnol, sometimes known as “date rape drugs” have been common in rape cases.

15. Strategies for Preventing Date Rape: • Do not go out with a person whom you do not know well. • Date people who are close to your own age. • Set clear sexual boundaries & communicate them assertively. • Avoid being completely alone with your date. • Do not use alcohol or drugs. Avoid places where alcohol or drugs may be present. • Watch your food & drink.

16. Strategies cont.. • Have your own transportation. • Go on dates with other couples at first. • Don’t let strangers know where you live. • Take an equal role in relationships.

17. If you are raped: • Call law enforcement officials immediately • Seek medical attention immediately • Do not shower or bathe • Seek counseling • Get tests for pregnancy, STD’s and HIV.

18. How to help a friend who was raped. • Be supportive • Encourage action • Be reassuring • Offer shelter • Call the 24 hour rape crisis hotline at (714) 831-9110

19. The End!!