Unveiling Sacred Sexuality: A Journey to Oneness and Spiritual Truths

1. 5 MIKE MAZZALONGO MIKE MAZZALONGO Holy Sex Part 2

2. Review Review • Spirituality / Sexuality Spirituality / Sexuality

3. Review Review • Spirituality / Sexuality • Sex Sex = Spiritual = Spiritual and Physical and Physical

4. Review Review • Spirituality / Sexuality • Sex = Spiritual and Physical • Oneness Oneness →Spiritual Truths Spiritual Truths

5. Review Review • Spirituality / Sexuality • Sex = Spiritual and Physical • Oneness →Spiritual Truths • Sex Sex is Holy is Holy

6. Review Review • Spirituality / Sexuality • Sex = Spiritual and Physical • Oneness →Spiritual Truths • Sex is Holy • Not Not all sex is Holy all sex is Holy

7. Case Study Case Study Brenda kept apologizing for the feelings she was sharing. She didn’t want to hurt her husband, Kevin, but she’d kept her thoughts hidden for too long. Now, for the sake of her marriage, she was glad that everything was finally coming out. Kevin was sitting next to Brenda in my counseling office, but he wished he could be somewhere else.

8. Case Study Case Study “I know I’m not supposed to exaggerate,” Brenda began, “but it seems that every time we’re alone, Kevin makes some sexually suggestive comment aimed at getting me to have sex with him. I feel like he must spend his days coming up with new lines to try and get me to say yes.

9. Case Study Case Study And if it’s not a comment, it’s a grab. I can be cooking or doing the dishes, and he’ll come up behind me and plant both of his hands on my breasts. A hug would be great. But he can’t seem to touch me without it being an erogenous zone.’”

10. Case Study Case Study Now Kevin really wanted to be somewhere else. Brenda assured me that she didn’t hate sex. “I can get aroused, and sometimes I even have an orgasm. But the more Kevin pushes, the less I want to have sex. The more he talks about ‘doing it,’ the more I feel that sex between us is just that: a cold impersonal ‘it.’”

11. Case Study Case Study “And have you begun to feel like an ‘it’ too?” I asked. “Yes. Yes I have. Now Kevin wanted me to be somewhere else.” Brenda’s story is another sad example of how much we’re missing in our sex lives. By losing sight of sex as a holy act, we’re depriving ourselves of the richness and deep satisfaction that God designed it to provide.

12. “Since sex is invested with so much spiritual meaning, that should affect the way we approach our moments of sexual intimacy –but how? When we acknowledge the truth that sex on God's terms is sacred, we can stop fighting about frequency, positions, and who initiates it.” -“Sacred Sex” T.A. Gardner WaterbrookPress 2002

13. What Kevin What Kevin Didn’t get: Didn’t get: • #1 Reason for sex is #1 Reason for sex is unification unification

14. Oneness outside of sex promotes promotes oneness within oneness within sex. sex.

15. What Kevin What Kevin Didn’t get: Didn’t get: • #1 Reason for sex is unification • It’s not just about Her needs It’s not just about Her needs

16. Whenever we make orgasm the goal of sex, we fail to experience holy sex. we fail to experience holy sex. For example: Masturbation

17. The Big “O” in sexual experience is is not orgasm, it’s oneness. not orgasm, it’s oneness.

18. Hebrew Word “Yada” Hebrew Word “Yada” = To Know

19. “Adam knew his wife and she conceived” “Adam knew his wife and she conceived” (Genesis 4:1)

20. Dutch Word “ Dutch Word “Naaien Naaien” ” = To Sew

21. God sews us together in marriage through human sexuality. through human sexuality.

22. Sex pursued for its own pleasure always follows the path of diminishing return. follows the path of diminishing return.

23. The pursuit of oneness affects not only the way we think about sex, but also the way we experience it was well. we experience it was well. but also the way

24. 3The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. - -I I Cor Corinthians inthians7 7: :3 3- -4 4

25. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self- control. - -I I Cor Corinthians inthians7 7: :5 5

26. In sexual union my focus is her herpleasure, not my own. And her focus is my not her own. mypleasure,

27. HOMEWORK Find a time to pray together. Find a time to pray together.

28. Pray Together Pray Together. . 1. 1. Confess sin to each Confess sin to each other other

29. Pray Together Pray Together. . 1. Confess sin to each other 2. 2. Bless each other Bless each other

30. Pray Together Pray Together. . 1. Confess sin to each other 2. Bless each other 3. 3. Practice oneness outside of sex Practice oneness outside of sex