Discipleship by Mentoring

1. Discipleship by Mentoring Session I Mentoring Relationships

2. Definitions of Mentoring “It’s a willingness on the part of somebody who has a wealth of experience to share their knowledge, the stripes they’ve earned, with someone who doesn’t have as much experience - with no eye toward getting anything back. It’s about investing, giving back” -Jeff

3. Definitions of Mentoring Mentoring is “Walking with another person to help them learn what it means to abide in Christ - to totally cling to Him, depend on Him, hold on first and then start understanding.” -Claudette

4. Definitions of Mentoring “Mentoring is a relational experience in which one person empowers another by sharing God-given resources.” -Paul Stanley and J. Robert Clinton

5. Definitions of Mentoring “Mentoring is making the mentor’s personal strengths, resources and networks (friendships / contacts) available to help a protégé (mentoree) reach his or her goals.” -Bob Biehl

6. Definitions of Mentoring “And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others.” -2 Timothy 2:2

7. Types of Deliberate One-on-One Relationships • Career or professional • Educational • Personal • Spiritual

8. What are some of the things that may be required for a significant quality relationship to develop?

9. What are some ways people benefit from mentoring relationships?

10. Who in your life has helped you in one or more of the ways listed above? Share with the person next to you how you benefited and what you had to give to the relationship or the person in order for the change or experience to occur?

11. Acts 9.26-30 When he came to Jerusalem, he tried to join the disciples, but they were all afraid of him, not believing that he really was a disciple. But Barnabas took him and brought him to the apostles. He told them how Saul on his journey had seen the Lord and that the Lord had spoken to him, and how in Damascus he had preached fearlessly in the name of Jesus. So Saul stayed with them and moved about freely in Jerusalem, speaking boldly in the name of the Lord. He talked and debated with the Grecian Jews, but they tried to kill him. When the brothers learned of this, they took him down to Caesarea and sent him off to Tarsus.

12. Acts 11.22-30 News of this reached the ears of the church at Jerusalem, and they sent Barnabas to Antioch. When he arrived and saw the evidence of the grace of God, he was glad and encouraged them all to remain true to the Lord with all their hearts. He was a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and faith, and a great number of people were brought to the Lord. Then Barnabas went to Tarsus to look for Saul, and when he found him, he brought him to Antioch. So for a whole year Barnabas and Saul met with the church and taught great numbers of people. The disciples were called Christians first at Antioch.

13. Acts 11.22-30 During this time some prophets came down from Jerusalem to Antioch. One of them, named Agabus, stood up and through the Spirit predicted that a severe famine would spread over the entire Roman world. (This happened during the reign of Claudius.) The disciples, each according to his ability, decided to provide help for the brothers living in Judea. This they did, sending their gift to the elders by Barnabas and Saul.

14. Barnabas, the mentor • Gave timely advice • Risked his reputation–put himself on the line • Prompted obedience to God • Provided ministry opportunities to Paul • Ministered alongside Paul • Used his gifts with the congregation • Served through the giving of his resources: time, finances, spiritual gifts, influence.

15. Discipleship by Mentoring Session II A Model and A Method

16. Mentoring Definition Mentoring is a relational process responding to a perceived or identified need. A mentor is someone who knows something, and transfers that something (the power resources such as wisdom, advice, information, emotional support, protection, linking to resources, career guidance, status) to someone else, the mentee, at a sensitive time so that it impacts development (empowerment).

17. Mentoring Definition Mentor (Resource Person) Mentee (Corresponding Need) Empowerment (Growth Step) Sensitive Time

18. Pathway to Mentoring Excerpted and adapted from The Mentoring Handbook by Dr.’s Robert & Richard Clinton

19. Attraction This is the natural tendency of the person who needs help to move towards a person who is perceived as one who can be helpful. The mentee is attracted to the mentor for a variety of reasons: personality, ministry skills, experience, spirituality, etc.

20. Relationship Relational interaction facilitates growth and empowerment. Although this is not always possible, when trust is developed between mentor and mentee, there is a greater potential for the exchange of resources.

21. Responsiveness The mentee’s willingness to respond to the information that the mentor is sharing is vital for learning and empowerment.

22. Accountability This involves the mentee answering to someone for his / her growth and spiritual development. Often there is mutual accountability between mentors and mentees.

23. Empowerment This is the actual exchange of resources and encouragement between mentor and mentee in areas of life and ministry.

24. Types of Mentors

25. Types of Mentors

26. Types of Mentors

27. Discipleship by Mentoring Session III Finding Personal Mentors

28. Jane’s Mentoring Profile Excerpted and adapted from the Mentoring Workbook by Church Resource Ministries.

29. Jane’s Mentoring Profile

30. Jane’s Mentoring Profile

31. Jane’s Reflection Summary • Do you notice any patterns in the ways you were influenced? Jane – My love for reading and creative writing was inspired, developed and encouraged. • Are there areas where you’ve not been influenced? Jane – No one has taken a personal interest in helping me develop in my spiritual life. I have never had a prayer partner or shared my spiritual joys and challenges with a friend.

32. Jane’s Reflection Summary • How do your past experiences and relationships challenge you in the area of your own personal growth? Jane – My passion for God and ability at creative expression has not been shared with others in personal relationship. My love for Jesus needs to reflect more in who I am and how I relate. This seems to be an area I need to develop in.

33. Jane’s Reflection Summary • How do your past experiences and relationships challenge you in the area of ministry and leadership? Jane – It would seem I need to share my skills and passion with other people, young and old, who have a similar interest.

34. Discipleship by Mentoring Session IV Becoming a Mentor

35. Framework for Mentoring PERSONAL GROWTH MINISTRY EFFECTIVENESS Upward Mentors Peer Mentors ME Peer Mentors Downward Mentors

36. 10 Commandments of Mentoring • Establish the relationship. • Jointly agree on the purpose. • Determine how often you will meet. • Determine the nature of accountability. • Set up clear lines of communication. • Clarify level of confidentiality. • Agree upon length of time. • Occasionally, evaluate process & effectiveness. • Continually, match expectations to current situation. • Bring closure to the mentoring relationship.