Teaching Children Good Manners, Grace, and Courtesy Cathleen Haskins www.montessoriwise.com
Teaching Methods • Direct Teach • Role Play • Real Life Situations • Puppetry • Modeling • Songs and Poems • Picture Books
Table and Food Manners • Language • Skills
Table and Food Manners Saying yes please, or no thank you • Teacher to assistant, “Would you like to have a cracker?” • Assistant, “Yes please.” • Pause and repeat, this time assistant replies, “No thank you.” • Offer each child a cracker. They reply with yes please, or no thank you.
Table and Food Manners Wait for everyone to be served before you begin eating.
Table and Food Manners May I have... • Make sure your mouth isn’t full • Raise your hand • Say, “May I have (another apple slice), please.” • Don’t forget, “Thank you.”
Table and Food Manners Using a napkin At the table: • Give each child a napkin • Invite children to place napkin on lap. • Demonstrate how to use by dabbing the corner of the mouth. • Return napkin to lap. • When finished, place napkin next to plate. Cloth vs. Paper Napkins
Table and Food Manners Mirrors for self checking
Table and Food Manners Chewing with your mouth closed Not talking while chewing food • At snack assistant asks the teacher, who has food in her mouth, a question. • Teacher points out she is eating and waits until she is done to reply. • Explain to children.
Table and Food Manners Feeling full • Place utensils and napkin on plate or table. • “That was delicious, but now I’m full.” • “I am satisfied, thank you.”
Table and Food Manners Burping etiquette Circle Time/Role Play • Take a sip of water. • Force yourself to burp, covering your mouth. • Say, excuse me.” (About giggling…)
Table and Food Manners Removing food crumbs from the table
Elbows off the table Fingers off the food Ask for something to be passed For reaching is so rude.
New School Table Manners http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CcZYQt1gUhY
Award-Winning Elizabeth Verdik Toddler Board Book
Carrie Finn 3-5 years
Karen Lefranc 5-8 years
Mike Nawrocki 2-6 years
Stan & Jan Berenstain 3 years and up
Aliki 3 years and up
Norman Bridwell 3 years and up
Language for Respect and Kindness Teaching children to affirm one another Give children an opportunity to affirm each other. Make time for affirmation sharing. “I like the way you do that.” “You’re a good friend.” “ You are so helpful (kind, generous, peaceful).”
Language for Respect and Kindness When someone may need help: “Are you Okay? Can I help you?” About repetition.
Language for Respect and Kindness When someone is having trouble or is sad: “What’s wrong?” “Is there anything I can do to help?” • Teach the word compassion.
Language for Respect and Kindness When a child wants to join an activity: “May I join, please?”
Language for Respect and Kindness When the answer is no: “Not right now, thank you.” “Maybe another time.” “I’d rather be alone, thanks.”
Language for Respect and Kindness Asking for a turn “May I have a turn, please.” Waiting for a response
Language for Respect and Kindness When a child needs assistance: “Can you please help me?”
Language for Respect and Kindness When you didn’t hear something: “Excuse me?” “Pardon me?”
Language for Respect and Kindness When a child has returned after being gone “I missed you.” “Everybody missed you.” “I’m glad you’re back.” “It’s better when you’re here.”
Language for Respect and Kindness Encouraging gentleness: With a young child, stroke their arm and say softly, “Gentle, gentle please.” Demonstrating with a small animal works well to teach this lesson. Tone of voice.
Language for Respect and Kindness Speaking softly • Silence Game • Use a Radio or CD Player
Language for Respect and Kindness Lending (or sharing) something: “Would you like to borrow (my book, this toy)? “Yes, that would be nice.” After receiving the item, “Thank you.”
Language for Respect and Kindness Asking for something back “Are you finished with my book?” “May I have my book back, please.”
Language for Respect and Kindness Showing Regret or Remorse: • Look the person in the eye. • Speak slowly “I’m really very sorry.” “What can I do to make it up to you?”
Language for Respect and Kindness Asking for the teacher (adult’s) attention when he is busy: • Is the teacher with someone? • Is the teacher working on something? • Stand nearby, but not too close. • Wait until the teacher gives eye contact. Teaching about eye contact
Language for Respect and Kindness “I’m sorry to interrupt, but …”
Language for Respect and Kindness When another child is busy: • Is the child with someone? • Is the child working on something? • Stand nearby, but not too close. • Wait until the child turns and gives eye contact to speak. “Excuse me…”
Social Manners Blowing your nose: T • Pull tip of tissue to get a tissue from the box. • Fold tissue in half. • Cover nose and blow. • Fold tissue and dab nose. • Throw tissue in bin. “Today I’m going to show you how to blow your nose.”
Social Manners Sneezing and coughing: • Look away and down. • Move away from food. • Cover mouth with tissue and cough. • Dispose of tissue. • Or, sneeze into elbow. “Today I’m going to show you how to sneeze.”
Social Manners Dealing with gas: Simply say, “Excuse me.” Or, move away if you can.