Does Putting Off Childbearing Have Any Affect on the Child

1. Does Putting Off Childbearing Have Any Affect on the Child

2. Pro’s • Has extra money saved up • Has a job that gives maternity time • Most likely has a house with reasonable mortgage payment • More mature emotionally • More mature relationship with husband • If a divorce happens she can have a job that can support her and her child. • Can plan the pregnancy on her own terms

3. Con’s • More complicated pregnancy • Less energy to spend on your child • Difficult adjustment to splitting time between job and child • Less time to spend with husband after child leaves the house • Might be emotionally taxing seeing your child’s friends mothers being so much younger than you. • Might wait to long and lose fertility, or the chance of losing fertility for a second child.

4. My Opinion based on life experience • Since my mom and dad waited to have me until they were 35 I have seen it work first hand • Still married to this day • Had little financial issues • Mom maintained steady job throughout my childhood. • Less marital problems • Had two children after the age of 33 • Did have complicated birth with 2nd child

5. An Article Showing Against Waiting • In a recent op-ed, Nona Willis Aronowitz discusses waiting until you are older to have children and the effect that has on the children themselves. She has an interesting perspective on the topic because she is a 27-year-old with a 79-year-old father. Though her mother passed away some time ago, both of her parents were older when they had her. Now, she points out, she has had to grow up faster than she would like because her father is at the age where she has to worry about him constantly. She says: • Now I move a little slower when we walk down the street together. When he runs 20 minutes late, my imagination runs wild: Has he fallen or gotten into a car accident? Has he forgotten about our appointment? Oh, God, does he have Alzheimer’s? My father continually reminds me that he can fend for himself, but his protestations fail to dismantle the layer of worry that has set up camp in my brain. • Her argument, then, is that delaying childbearing isn’t ideal for the children once they get a little bit older. She writes that she doesn’t feel right turning off her phone for days at a time, nor would she be able to start over in a new location without guilt and worry about her father’s wellbeing, and that this is ultimately unfair to her. When she should be enjoying her twenties, she is, instead, stuck worrying about her aging father. • Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/should-we-wait-until-we-are-older-to-have-kids.html#ixzz2gufGXU00

6. An Article For Waiting • The U.S. Census Bureau just released a new data analysis on birth stats for last year compared with just a decade ago. One of the most notable comparisons was in women with college degrees. The report says that, in 2010, only 42 percent of women ages 25 to 34 with at least a bachelor’s degree had given birth (ever), but in the next-higher age range -- 35 to 44 -- 76 percent of those with a bachelor’s degree had given birth. Researchers noted that a mom’s education level had less to do with the total number of kids she had in 2010 than it did in 2000. In other words, moms with a college education still have babies, but are doing it later, and once they do, the average number of kids they have is still a little lower than women without a college education. • The Census Bureau has even made up a fancy name for the phenomenon: “delayer boom.” “Our findings show that a 'delayer boom' is under way, where highly educated women initially delay childbearing but are more likely to have children into their 30s,” said Census Bureau demographer Kristy Krivickas in a press release. • Another interesting tidbit: More than half (55 percent) of the women who had babies last year were part of the workforce.

7. Closing • Its more accepting of women waiting to have kids • It’s a trend among the working class and celebrities • My personal experience of it working out for my parents • The census shows the educated are now waiting

8. Reference • http://pregnant.thebump.com/fertility-pregnancy-parenting-news/pregnancy-news-information/blogs/educated-women-waiting-to-have-babies.aspx • : http://www.care2.com/causes/should-we-wait-until-we-are-older-to-have-kids.html#ixzz2gufGXU00