Sexy Sixties The New Love and Sex After 60 By:Ben Anderson
Sex Basics • Sexual response cycle: Sexual desire Arousal Climax Recovery. • Male erection = Female Lubrication.
What are typical stereotypes about old people and sex?
Stereotypes • Death by sex (heart attack). • Dirty old men. • Used up (too much sex in youth).
Realities: Normal • Normal physical and physiological changes do not cause sexual problems. • Longer time to erection. • Less semen. • Longer refractory period. • In men, desire declines minimally. • Amount of sexual activity does decrease.
Realities: Normal • Testosterone decreases slightly (1% per year after 25). • Lower capacity for erotic imagery in older men.
Realities: Positives • Male can maintain love making longer. • Old men still fertile (60% in 70’s). • Men do not lose capacity for erections.
Male Issue • Erectile dysfunction (25% or more of sexual encounters). • 5-10% seek help.
Male Fixes • Get regular- sexual activity. • More stimulation (manual or oral). • Viagra (67% effective). • Vacuum devices. • Penile Implants. • Have sex in the morning.
Female Issue • Vagina changes: Narrower, shorter, and less elastic. • Vagina changes: Dryness. • Inability to achieve orgasm.
Female Fixes • Get regular- sexual activity. • Estrogen replacement (lubrication). • Testosterone therapy (desire). • Use lubrication. • Retrain emotional attitudes.
Roadblocks • Children. • Diseases & disabilities. • Surgery (+/-). • Alcohol & Tobacco. • Medications (#1 for men). • Psychological issues. • Self fulfilling prophecies.
Reassessment 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 3The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Assumptions • All sexual disinterest is bad. • Be careful of extremes! • Expectation of no sex. vs. • Expectation of sex.
Reference Butler, R. N., & Lewis, M. I. (2002). The new love and sex after 60 (Rev. ed., 3rd rev. ed.). New York: Ballantine Books. ESV: study Bible : English standard version. (ESV text ed.). (2007). Wheaton, Ill.: Crossway Bibles.