RAISING CONFIDENT KIDS

1. RAISING CONFIDENT KIDS Get a kids’ eye view Awkward! (It’s puberty) Competence = confidence

2. KidsHealth.org is the #1 website devoted to children’s health in English & Spanish 1 million+ visits a day

3. PINK LOCKER SOCIETYbook series

4. Four books - for ages 8 and up

5. Three sons 17 15 & 7

6. First day of school

8. Pink Locker Society BLOG60,000 questions18,000+ comments “my mom, whenever i tell her something, instead of her understanding and getting what I’m trying to say, she finds a way to make it my fault or will later use it to embarrass me.” -danceGIRL22

9. i’m 12, i like a girl named jessica and i don’t know what to do. We're already "normal" friends. She seems shy around me, and i feel shy around her. We do talk a lot. She started to ask me "The questions." Like;How old am I,how many pets do i have, my favorite color, etc. things like that. Does this mean she likes me too? Is she trying to figure me out? We sit next to each other at lunch a lot. So maybe i should ask her out?

10. Meet Evan!

11. Meet Emily-Anne!

12. What can parents do?ListenObserveReach out

13. ListenIs there more to what your child is saying?

14. New book by the author of Queen Bees & Wannabees (which inspired the movie Mean Girls) Interviews with 200+ boys

15. ObserveCan you learn anything by watching your child at a sports practice or party?

16. Reach outCan you approach them in a way that won’t shut them down?

17. 3 ideas for reaching out Pick up on cues: If your daughter wanders into the bra department, there’s likely a reasonConsider alternative means of communication: Many kids say they’d rather text, write a note about a problem.Anticipate: No one likes to rush things, but your children will be glad that you provided information about the stuff they don’t understand – and that everyone is talking about.

19. Puberty checklist • Be informed yourself • Find multiple ways of communicating • Do not tease or embarrass • Keep confidences

20. Be informed Puberty starting slightly earlier BOYS • Between 9 and 14 GIRLS • Between 8 and 13 • First period: Most around 12-13 • First period can arrive as early as 9 and as old as 16.

21. Be informed • Consider norms – leg shaving, types of bras, deodorant, boxers?

22. Find multiple ways of communicating • Appropriate websites – KidsHealth, Pink Locker Society, Brainpop, • Books • Multiple conversations • Keep it light and positive and consider privacy.

23. Book recommendations

24. No teasing or embarrassing • It’s natural, but avoid it. • Teasing sends the message that you do not take them or their problems seriously • Strive to keep confidences and be sensitive about sharing with opposite gender parent, siblings, grandparents etc.

25. Confidence: How Parents Can Help • Be in tune with your child, know their struggles. • Expand your idea of “achievement.” (Let your child lead.) • Help kids and teens set the right goals.

26. True achievement builds confidence.

27. Remember Evan?

28. Underwent years of treatment • Day-in, day-out dealing with a front-and-center difference • Developed a desire to explain and promote understanding

35. Remember Emily-Anne?

36. Bullied • Changed schools • Struggled to fit in

40. With Meryl And Lady Gaga

42. Emily with Mom and Dad

43. Evan and his Mom