Forgiveness 原谅

1. Forgiveness 原谅

2. Human Beings are made for troubles as the sparks of a fire fly upward. Job 人生在世必遇患難，如同火焰向上飛升。

3. 杏仁体 海马体 Flight逃跑, Fight斗争, Freeze麻木

4. 杏仁体 海马体 Flooded 太多感受

5. Prefrontal Cortex 前大脑皮质 杏仁体 海马体 Flight逃跑, Fight斗争, Freeze麻木,Flood太多感受

6. 前大脑皮层 Prefrontal Cortex 杏仁体 海马体 Flight逃跑, Fight斗争, Freeze麻木,Flood太多感受

7. Symptom of an Unhealthy Family 受不健康家庭影响的症状 The family members will usually respond under adult stresses like they were still back in the home. 家庭成员面对成年人的压力时，表现得就像小时候自己在家中一样。

8. Reframing 重新审视 FORGIVING 原谅

9. We carefully note the pain or inconvenience that a person or situation caused us. We make sure we understand the pain or damage of it. 我们小心地记下伤痛，或一个人、一件事带给我们的麻烦，确定自己是了解到所受的伤害。 # 1 Forgiving/Reframing

10. We think through the implications of continuing to dwell on the past hurt and damage, how it will affect our health and relationships in the future. 了解继续住在过去的伤害里面会有怎样的后果，它会影响将来的健康，影响将来的人际关系。 # 2 Forgiving/Reframing

11. We try and understand the motivation and the underlying problems of the person or persons who caused our pain (especially if it is our parents). 试图了解那些伤害我们的人（特别是假如父母亲伤害了我们），他们的动机和问题在哪里。 # 3 Forgiving/Reframing

12. We consciously choose to accept the pain and not dwell on it in the future for the sake of either having a relationship with that person, or if that is unreasonable or impossible we accept the pain and choose not to dwell on it in the future. 我们有意识地接受自己受过伤害的现实，并选择以后不再住在其中。或许这能够帮助自己与那个伤害过自己的人建立良好关系，或许事过境迁不再可能，总之我们选择将来不再受这一伤害的影响。 # 4 FORGIVING/REFRAMING原谅/重新审视

13. We make that choice a part of our life story, and a source of self-understanding and a source of sympathy for other people who are going through the same thing or have gone through the same thing. 我们在我们人生的道路上作这个选择，作为自我了解的源头，也作为同情体谅其他人的源头，因为他们都是正在经历或曾经历了类似的事情。 # 5 FORGIVING/REFRAMING原谅/重新审视

14. Reframing 重新审视

15. a university student breaks his leg during summer vacation. can no longer play tennis with his family and friends. quiet, alone time to 一个大学生暑假摔断了腿，从此再不能和家人朋友一起打球，只能 learns how to play the guitar, something 学吉他 discovers he has a great aptitude for music 发现了自己的音乐天才 embarks on a successful music career. 成功地从事了音乐生涯 Reframing 重新审视的例证

16. Years later, he says, 多年以后他说 “Breaking my leg was the best thing that ever happened to me!” 摔断腿对我是件好事！ From then on, whenever he is disabled by injury or illness, he recalls the lesson and is far less despondent over his temporary disability 从此，只要受伤或生病，他就想起这个功课，不再为暂时的残障而灰心。 Reframing 重新审视

17. A life of greatness 伟大的一生 • A life of disappointment 失望的一生

18. 17 Irish people who had lost at least one person to sectarian violence 17个爱尔兰人在派别斗争中死去一个战友 • Aired their grievances 追思悼念，抒发怒气和伤痛 • Given a new way to think about loss用新的方式来看损失 • Honoring memory by choosing peace and joy 选择平安与喜乐来纪念死者 《永远原谅》 一个对健康和快乐证明有效的药方

19. Dedicated to helping others 献身于帮助他人的事业 • Group reported afterwards less emotional hurt 原谅的人较少留下情感创伤 • Drop in trauma symptoms (PTSD) 降低了创伤后压力处理失调症的发病率 人甚至在这样恶劣的精神和体力压力下，仍然可以存留灵性的自由、独立的思想。-- 关于集中营 Viktor Frankl 《寻找人生的意义》 Written about concentration camp