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TO SOBRIETY AND BEYOND!

TO SOBRIETY AND BEYOND!. HELPING CLIENTS SHIFT FROM A “WHAT NOT TO DO”, TO A “LIVING LIFE FULLY” FOCUS. BRIAN T. CASE, PH.D. PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELING SERVICES, LTD. 480-947-5739 b rian.case@pcsearle.com. INTRODUCTION…. LMFT/Addiction-S.A. for past 17 years at PCS Treatment approach =

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TO SOBRIETY AND BEYOND!

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  1. TO SOBRIETY AND BEYOND! HELPING CLIENTS SHIFT FROM A “WHAT NOT TO DO”, TO A “LIVING LIFE FULLY” FOCUS BRIAN T. CASE, PH.D. PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELING SERVICES, LTD. 480-947-5739 brian.case@pcsearle.com

  2. INTRODUCTION… • LMFT/Addiction-S.A. for past 17 years at PCS • Treatment approach = addiction model, trauma, attachment, systems theory, psychodynamic, CBT, spirituality • A/F and “GET REAL” groups

  3. Explore the importance of helping clients think in terms of recovery and not just sobriety, and how integrating the “Super 7” can facilitate that shift. Present a user-friendly model (that can be shared with clients) in which recovery is defined, in part, as “recovering and reintegrating” the lost parts of our ‘real self’ and then living life fully from that place of authenticity. Discuss ways to help clients understand distinctions between addictive impulsivity and healthy spontaneity Learn (engage in) an experiential exercise/technique to facilitate a client’s movement into “being present/living life more fully”. WORKSHOP OBJECTIVES

  4. THE PROBLEM: • STUCK IN A WHAT “NOT TO DO” FOCUS • 20 YRS SOBER AA/ACTIVE S.A. WORKAHOLIC, ETC • “IT WAS A GOOD WEEK, I DIDN’T EVEN THINK ABOUT SEX ONE TIME!” • We are SASH!! • LET’S ADVANCE SEXUAL HEALTH AND NOT JUST HELP STOP SEXUAL ADDICTION/COMPULSIVITY!

  5. SOBRIETY CONTRACT • CIRCLES (OUTER, MIDDLE, INNER) • RED LIGHT, YELLOW LIGHT, GREEN LIGHT BEHAVIORS. • MISSION STATEMENT • ALL = IMPORTANT, WHAT “TO DO” = FOCUS

  6. THE PROBLEM CONTINUED… • The much needed emphasis on restraint regarding addictive behaviors can bleed over into parts of one’s self that are crying out for release and expression.

  7. THE SOLUTION: “THE GOOD LIFE!” • LIVE A FULL AND RICH LIFE IN WHICH THE APPEAL OF ADDICTION IS DECREASED (IN PART) BY AN INCREASE IN JOY, HEALTHY PASSION, FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS, AND RECONNECTING WITH OUR “CHILD-LIKE” ABILITY TO PLAY & LIVE IN THE MOMENT IN HEALTHY VS. ADDICTIVE WAYS

  8. THE MODEL Psychodynamic Systemic, relationally oriented Trauma/Neglect Shame Image Mgt. Attachment CBT Apology/Forgiveness Inner-child/self-love Boundaries/anger mgt./assertiveness

  9. THE REAL SELF • OPEN & HONEST • CAN LIVE IN THE MOMENT • CAPABLE OF SPONTANEITY, SILLINESS • CAN SELF-VALIDATE • NOT IMAGE DRIVEN • EMOTIONALLY EXPRESSIVE IN SAFE WAYS • APPROPRIATE GUILT VS. TOXIC SHAME • AWARE OF AND OK WITH WEAKNESS IN SELF & OTHERS • GROWTH/CHANGE MOTIVATED BY SELF-LOVE VS. SHAME • CAN USE HUMOR & CAN PLAY WITHOUT HURTING SELF/OTHERS! • PROTECTS OUT OF BALANCED SELF-CARE • SEEKS CONNECTION/RELATIONSHIP

  10. THE SOLUTION & SEXUALITY… • LIVE A FULL AND RICH SEXUAL LIFE IN WHICH FULFILLMENT IS INCREASED, & THE APPEAL OF ADDICTIVE SEX IS DECREASED (IN PART) BY TRUE INTIMACY, PASSION FULLY EXPRESSED WITHIN ONE’S VALUES, PLAY, CREATIVE EXPRESSION, & THE ABILITY TO BE IN THE MOMENT RATHER THAN NUMBED OR DISSOCIATED THROUGH THE SEXUAL EXPERIENCE.

  11. HEALTHY SEXUALITY IS… • GREATEST COMMON DENOMINATORS = ? • Klein (2011) • HONEST • CONSENTING • RESPONSIBLE • UNDERSTAND RISKS, SATISFYING, SHAME/DEGRADATION-FREE

  12. THE “SUPER 7” INTIMACY WITH VULNERABILITY • *Terry Real’s Keynote last year. • *HONEST ABOUT NEEDS, WANTS, LIMITATIONS • *FOCUSING ON CONX IN EXISTING CORE R-SHIPS • *ADDRESSES CONFLICT • -BOUNDARIES VS. WALLS • -APOLOGY/FORGIVENESS • *HELP THEM REALLY LISTEN TO LOVED ONES!

  13. EXPERIENTIAL EX. - “INSTIMACY” • LEAD-IN STATEMENT THAT EACH FINISHES -SHIFT WHO GOES FIRST • GO WITH “FIRST THING” UNLESS 2ND = MORE HONEST/VULNERABLE • “PAUSE CHIPS”

  14. THE “SUPER 7” PASSION WITH INTEGRITY • DRINKING UP “JOY JUICE” WITHOUT THE HANGOVER! • FULLY EXPRESSING SEXUALITY WITHIN PERSONAL VALUES • BALANCED SELFISHNESS (NO MARTYRS!!) • HEALTHY SENSUALITY VS. ADDICTIVE SELF-INDULGENCE

  15. THE “SUPER 7”HEALTHY “LIVING IN THE MOMENT” • CREATIVE SPONTANEITY VS. DESTRUCTIVE IMPULSIVITY • “SEIZE THE DAY” VS. DEMAND FOR INSTANT GRATIFICATION • CHILDLIKE VS. CHILDISH • HUMOR THAT CONNECTS VS. PROTECTS/HURTS • PLAY VS. PERFORMANCE • FAITH AND SPIRITUALITY VS. FEAR-BASED RELIGIOSITY • RELATIONSHIP VS. IMAGE-BASED “RULES” • HEALTHY SENSUALITY VS. ADDICTIVE SELF-INDULGENCE

  16. THE “SUPER 7” CURIOSITY/WONDER • Impact of many schools: • WE need to remain curious with our clients • Appreciate fact that the older I get, the less we KNOW, but the wiser we are with our application! • Wanting to LEARN vs. SHOW/TEACH/TELL

  17. THE “SUPER 7” GRATITUDE *STOP & SMELL THE ROSES *DAILY (Hymn: Count Your Many Blessings) -SPIRITUALITY *ANTIDOTE TO VICTIM MENTALITY/DESTRUCTIVE ENTITLEMENT *IS POSSIBLE REGARDLESS OF CIRCUMSTANCES!!

  18. GRATITUDE QUOTES • “Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." - Marcel Proust • "We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures." - Thornton Wilder • As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. -John F. Kennedy • The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated. -WIlliamJames • "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough."
- Oprah Winfrey • He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has." - Epictetus

  19. THE “SUPER 7” HUMOR/LAUGHTER… HEALTHY HUMOR: • USED TO FACE PROBLEMS WITH COURAGE/PERSPECTIVE VS. TO AVOID • CONNECTS NOT PROTECTS • NO HIDDEN ANGER • -CAREFUL WITH USING IT TO ADDRESS ISSUES • NO SHAME/VICTIM

  20. Laughter is the Best Medicine: According to various studies, laughter can: • Boost the immune system and circulatory system • Enhance oxygen intake • Stimulate the heart and lungs • Relax muscles throughout the body • Trigger the release of endorphins (the body’s natural painkillers) • Ease digestion/soothes stomach aches • Relieve pain • Balance blood pressure • Improve mental functions (i.e., alertness, memory, creativity)

  21. THE “SUPER 7” • 1. FREEJAMMING (HEALTHY “ESCAPE”!! -EXCITEMENT -SPONTANEITY -CREATIVITY -AWARENESS -PLAYFULNESS -EXPRESSIVENESS

  22. FREEJAMMING VARIATIONS • VERBAL PING-PONG • COPY-CAT • LAUGH-A-THON • SCENARIOS (BOYS ON CAMPOUT, ETC.) • CIRCLE OF SPONTANEITY

  23. “DON’T FORGET TO PLAY!!” : ) THANKS!!

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