Ephesians focuses on family of God The success of human families is vital to the success of the church
Our walk, 4:1-6:24 • Our filling, 5:18 • Five words, 19-21 • Three applications • Wife – husband • Child – parents • Slave – master
Submission (the bridge) 21 submittingto one another in the fear of God.  22 Wives, [submit]to your own husbands, as to the Lord. You go this way. And you, [go]that way.
Why is submission unpopular? Misuse (abuse) Misunderstanding • Rudeness is a weak man’s imitation of strength. 1 Tim.5:14 • Bible elevated women, children • Not inferior. Ex.1; Ph.1 • Not insignificant. Gn.1; Pr.31; Ga.3
Submission as to the Lord 21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.  22 Wives, [submit]to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Submission honors God Children, 6:1 Slaves,6:5 Not unconditional (Ac.5:29) Not one-sided 1 Co.11:3 1 Tim.2:11-14
Headship 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Head: 4:15-16 “Savior of U.S.”?
Submission 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, solet the wives beto their own husbands in everything. A matter of salvation Free will; Lord does not force obedience (or marriage) Not absolute (cf. 20). Required. Voluntary.
I. Wives – Submit, Ep.5:22-24 II. Husbands – Love, Ep.5:25-33
Parallel Love(1) 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her. O.T. figure Is.54:5-8 Bridegroom Mk.2:18-20 Men emphasize submission, ignore love
How does Christ love His church? “An unambiguous reference to baptism” (Stott) “The bath that brings about regeneration Tit 3:5” (BDAG); ‘washing, baptism’(L-N). Ac.19:1-7. Ac.22:16. 1 Co.12:13 Strongly (“love”). 2:4 Sacrificially (“gave Himself”). 1:7; Ro.5:8 Spiritually (“sanctify”). 5:3 Spotlessly (“cleanse w. washing of water”)
How does Christ love His church? 2 Co. 11:2 (Rv.19:6, 9; 21:2) Final result: splendor; Lk.7:25 Strongly (“love”). 2:4 Sacrificially (“gave Himself”). 1:7; Ro.5:8 Spiritually (“sanctify”). 5:3 Spotlessly (“cleanse w. washing of water”) Steadfastly (“present to Himself, glorious”)
Parallel Love(2) 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wifeloveshimself. • Nourish (feed) 6:4; supply needs • Cherish (more than physical care) Christ’s love, 3:19 Self love, Mt.7:12
Cherish Lit., warm, Dt.22:6 Fig.: keep warm by showing affection Tender attachment, v.29; 1 Th.2:7 Tend, care for (Spicq)
Christ’s bride and bodyare the same (23, 30) Marriage relation is modelof church’s relation w. Christ. In Christ: one new man (2:15);in marriage: one new flesh, 31. Husband:love; wife:respect, 33. • A great mystery (3:1-6, Gentiles) • Ex.16 – Jn.6, manna . . . Christ • Gn.2:24 – Ep.5:31-32, church
Applications We “submit” to Christ by yielding our will to His We “love” Christ by yielding our will to His. 1 Pt.3:5-6 1. Does not use “love” to describe wife’s duty to husband (Tit.2:4) *Submission is a form of love
1. Submission is love Husbands, love wife (25, 28, 33) Husbands, love AS Christ (25, 29, 33) 2. Husband (head) receives emphasis *If he is right, whole family will be right *If he is wrong, whole family will suffer
1. Submission is love2. Emphasis on husband Eli Zacharias and Elizabeth 3. Emphasis on husband-wife relation-ship *Parents determine direction of children
1. Submission is love2. Emphasis on husband3. Emphasis on husband-wife Desire constructive criticism Start with self; what can I do...? Be eager to listen, 2 Co.13:5 Goal: not to win argument . . . 4. Husband-wife must communicate *Husband: bait-and-switch… *Wife stews in resentment…
1. Submission is love2. Emphasis on husband3. Emphasis on husband-wife 4. Husband-wife must communicate Abigail & Nabal Ruth & Boaz 5. If one partner is not a Christian, on what basis can you expect this to work?