STREET LAW

1. UNIT 5: Family Law Chapter 34 Separation, Divorce, and Custody STREET LAW

2. This chapter covers procedures for ending a valid marriage through separation or divorce, as well as the many legal issues raised by divorce, including child custody, alimony & child support, & property division • If parents remarry or find a new life partner, new relationships are created for stepparents & children • All of these changes involve the law

3. Marriage Problems • Married couples may encounter difficulties as a result of numerous social, economic, &personal factors • Conflicts w/in-laws or relatives • Job & career pressures • Adultery • Conflicts about children • Sexual problems • Breakdowns in communication • Alcohol/drug abuse • Money problems • Loss of shared goals or interests

4. When couples are unable to resolve problems on their own, they may seek help from outside sources, such as friends, family, or clergy • Major differences may require the couple to seek the help of a marriage counselor, psychologist, or social worker • A marriage counselor can help them explore the reasons for their problems &, ideally, work out a solution

5. Separation and Divorce • Some couples are unable to resolve their differences &choose to either separate or divorce • When a couple separates, they remain married but live apart; short or long time; still legally married • A divorce is a court order that legally ends a valid marriage; once a divorce is final, each partner may legally remarry

6. In fact, state laws play a great role as to how &under what grounds a couple can obtain a divorce • Although divorce legally ends a marriage, the two parties might still be responsible to each other financially, especially if children are involved

7. Separation • Due to the many financial, legal, & emotional hardships that come with a divorce, most states require that couples seeking this option enter a period of separation • During this time, both spouses have time to consider the consequences of ending the marriage & to get their affairs in order so that they can go on w/their separate lives • Also helpful to couples that have kids

8. Some couples won’t consider divorce for religious or other reasons • Sometimes the couple needs time apart to consider the future • A separation rather than a divorce may be the best option

9. A separation agreement is a written document that sets out the couple’s agreed-upon terms for child custody & visitation, child & spousal support, division of property, etc. • Often the result of mediation • Can say anything both parties want it to say • Does not have to be approved by the court although can be (can only be altered by court or if both couples agree) • If signed by both, it is a legally enforceable contract; if not followed, 1 party can take the other to court • Usually forms the basis for the final divorce decree (court order)

10. Divorce • > 1 million couples are divorced each year in U.S. • About ½ of all marriages end in divorce • The process by which a couple legally ends their marriage & divides their property • Legal relationship is not ended • May be continuing financial obligations, & if there are children, continuing rights & responsibilities that the parents must share

11. Ending a marriage can be expensive • Legal fees (or Pro se (do-it-yourself kits); classes; Internet), alimony, child support payments, cost of maintaining 2 households • Emotional cost on family, friends, work • Long-term effect on life & kid’s lives • Because of the difficulties that arise, mediation is often recommended or required – the presence of a neutral 3rd party to assist couples in identifying, confronting, & solving problems

12. 2nd or 3rd marriages present additional difficulties • Each partner may bring in problems left over from a previous marriage • There may be alimony, child support payments, debts to resolve • Children & parents from previous marriages often form a “blended family” • Children gain stepparents/siblings; spouses acquire stepchildren

13. At 1 time, most states allowed divorce only if 1 spouse could show that the other spouse had done something wrong or was at fault • Typical grounds: • Adultery – sexual intercourse bet. a married person & someone other than his/her spouse • Desertion – leaving one’s spouse w/no intention of returning • Mental cruelty – acts of emotional abuse against one’s spouse • Physical cruelty – acts of violence or physical abuse against one’s spouse • Insanity – mental illness

14. Proving that 1 spouse was at fault was difficult • Divorce used to cause great embarrassment • A finding that 1 spouse was at fault would prevent him/her from receiving any support after the marriage ended

15. Most states now have a no-fault divorce system • A spouse doesn’t have to prove that the other spouse did something wrong • Instead, the husband or wife has to show only that there are irreconcilable differences • This means that the marriage has completely broken down & is beyond repair • Many states also allow divorce when a couple can show that they voluntarily lived apart for a certain period of time, whether or not it was a formal period of separation • Some people say it is too easy to get a divorce now  high divorce rates; thus, some states have lengthened the time it takes to get a no-fault divorce

16. In 1997, Louisiana passed a law enabling couples who are planning to marry to choose a covenant marriage instead of obtaining a regular license to marry • Couples choosing a covenant marriage agree in advance (in writing) to make no-fault divorce more difficult to obtain • Under traditional marriage laws, a couple must separate for 6 months before getting a no-fault divorce • To end a covenant marriage by no-fault divorce, the couple must separate & live apart for 2 years

17. Covenant marriages try to encourage lifelong commitments by both partners, thereby aiming to reduce the divorce rate, by limiting access to relatively easy divorces • Couples who are already married also have the option to convert their existing marriage to a covenant marriage

18. Child Custody • Once a divorce is final, parents must decide who will have legal responsibility for the children—this is called custody • The parent who gains custody becomes the primary provider &guardian, while the other parent, the noncustodial parent, is granted visitation rights &may be responsible for some financial support • In 2000, > 25% of minor children in the U.S. were living w/single parents—many of these situations were the result of divorce

19. Custody decisions are important because the parent w/custody decides most aspects of the child’s life, such as where the child will live & go to school • Custody may be temporary or permanently awarded to 1 parent • It is rarely changed

20. In some cases divorced parents can both remain primary guardians of their children by obtaining joint custody • Both parents have full responsibility for the child’s supervision; both have an equal say in important issues, such as schooling & religion; child may live part-time w/each parent; most courts are unwilling to approve a joint custody request unless the parents can demonstrate an ability to work well together

21. Tender Years Doctrine - Traditionally the courts presumed that young children were better off w/their mothers • Today, most courts have laws that require courts to treat men & women equally in custody disputes • In reality, some judges still favor the mother, especially if the child is young

22. If a couple is unable to agree on a custody decision, the court awards custody based on the best interests of the children • Courts look at factors such as: • Youth’s actions in the home, school, & community • Emotional & economic stability of the parents • Which parent has stronger bonds w/the child • Which parent has been the primary care giver • Courts also consider the child’s desires – especially as they get older (12) • Courts also can assign a social services agency to study the parents & child(ren)

23. Kinship Care - Increases in substance abuse, divorce, incarceration, & other family & community crises have resulted in many grandparents & other relatives raising children whose parents can’t • In 2000, > 2.4 million grandparents reported that they had primary responsibility for meeting their grandchildren’s daily needs

24. Many states have passed laws that allow grandparents to petition for visitation rights if the child’s parents will not voluntarily grant visitation to them • Challenges to these laws brought by parents have been upheld in many states

25. In Troxel v. Granville (2000), the U.S. Supreme Court struck down a WA state law that allowed visitation by any person who could show that such visitation would be in the best interests of the child • The Supreme Court was concerned that such a broad granting of visitation rights to 3rd parties—even to family members, including grandparents—would undermine a parent’s fundamental interest in the care, custody, & control of his/her children • The Court was concerned that this statute didn’t give proper deference to a parent’s wishes, but instead placed a burden on the parent to prove that a 3rd party’s wishes to see his/her child would not be in the child’s best interest

26. Some custody disputes are so bitter, that 1 parent takes the children from the other parent & hides them • This may involve moving to another state; or they may move constantly to avoid being found • The Federal Parental Kidnapping Act of 1980 prevents parents who abduct their children from getting new custody orders in a different state • It also provides resources to help custodial parents locate their missing children

27. The Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction & Enforcement Act (UCCJEA) has now been passed in all 50 states • A custody decree entered in 1 state is valid in all states • A parent w/o custody can’t remove his/her kids from their home state & attempt to obtain a different custody order in another state • Most states have statutes that make parental kidnapping—taking or hiding a child from a parent who has custody—a crime

28. Alimony, Property Division, and Child Support • The distribution of money &possessions is a highly debated topic during a divorce—who gets the car and the house? • This type of decision is called property division • The final divorce decree will also involve an agreement about support to one of the spouses—alimony—as well as child support

29. Stepparents • When a divorced person marries a person with children, he or she becomes a stepparent • Stepparents are not considered parents unless they have permission from the biological parents &legally adopt the child or children