Enneagram Training

1. 9 1 8 2 7 6 3 5 4 Enneagram Training V5.01

2. What is the Enneagram? • A system for understanding differences among people • A productivity tool • An alternative to seeing everyone as a better or less well developed version of “me”

3. The Enneagram facilitates High Performance by maximizing: • Understanding & respect of self and others • Collaboration • Energy for productivity and creativity • Freedom to respond effectively • Fulfillment

4. Endearing Differences • “Great leaders try to figure out and do a wonderful job of using people’s endearing differences rather than fighting against them.” • Marcus Buckingham 2001

5. Proper Use of the Enneagram • NOT an excuse for poor performance • NOT a way to blame others • A respectful, collaborative tool for maximizing performance

6. 9 1 8 2 7 6 3 5 4 The Enneagram Symbol

7. You Are Not Your Personality • Your personality is: • The vehicle you’re riding in • Lenses/filters through which you see the world • Your patterns of perception and behavior

8. Filters • What’s the cost of being unaware of the filters through which we see? • Don’t realize our perceptions are skewed • Less freedom to respond wisely • What’s the benefit of knowing our filters? • = Greater access to wisdom • = More freedom of response Awareness + Honesty + Acceptance = Loosening of filters

9. Boxes • The Enneagram: • Doesn’t put people into boxes • Helps us see the boxes we’re already in • And how we might get out

10. Each Enneagram Type has nine Levels of Development

11. The High Performance Levels 1 2 3 The Average Levels 4 5 6 The Acute/Chronic Stress Levels 7 8 9

12. Levels of Development Important Distinction: The Nine Levels of Development arenotthe same as the Nine Enneagram Types

13. The Three-Dimensional Enneagram High Performance Average Acute/Chronic Stress

14. The Center of Gravity and Bandwidth Level 1 Level 2 Level 3 Level 4 Level 5 Level 6 Level 7 Level 8 Level 9

15. Levels of Development: Qualities Freedom Flexibility Adaptability “Out of the Box” Productivity Enjoyment Balanced Stress/Tension Identified with Story Stuckness “In the Box” Unbalanced Blame/Victim Dissatisfaction 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 High Performance Average Acute/Chronic Stress

16. Degrees of Freedom • What does it mean to have your options limited by your personality? • The Fundamental Attribution Error – applies less and less with higher levels of development

17. Circles of Freedom: High Performance I “have” a personality. I’m aware of its patterns, and I generally express its high side. Through self-awareness and self-honesty I notice potentially destructive patterns and generally make positive choices. Me My Personality I experience a great deal of freedom to express my highest values. I generally respond to myself and others in ways that are respectful and effective.

18. Circles of Freedom: Average Range My Personality Me Sometimes I “am” my personality. I generally function OK in life, but at times I find myself in repetitive patterns that frustrate me and others. Me Sometimes I’m just fine. I enjoy life and I enjoy my relationships. Other times I can feel tense, heavy, or agitated, and neither my life nor my relationships go as well as I think they could.

19. Circles of Freedom: Acute/Chronic Stress My Personality At times my thinking, feeling, and behavioral patterns just seem to take control of me, and I act in ways that can be very self-destructive or hurtful to others. Me I must admit that I don’t experience much personal freedom. My patterns can control me at times, and it greatly interferes with my life.

20. We’re Only One Type • We have expressions of all types within us. • We are each only one type. We’re born that type, and die that type. What changes is our level of development within that type. • No type is better than any other type. • No two types naturally get along better or worse.

21. Relying on External Behaviors leads to Mistyping • Type reflects filters and inner motivations, not necessarily external behavior. • Many factors could make us resemble other types. • Never assume you’re accurate in typing someone else. Check with them!

22. Hiring using the Enneagram • Type should NOT be used for hiring • because it doesn’t take development into account

23. Why is it helpful to understand other’s types? • Not to manipulate but to understand and work together more effectively • High-level communication requires knowing others’ perspectives and filters • Assisting each other in recognizing stress points, etc.

24. Organizational Culture • Organizational cultures have a “type” and the impact is powerful • Changing organizational type is extremely difficult • Effective change initiatives work to improve the organization’s Level of Development

25. Typing Yourself • How do others see you? • What do they most appreciate? • What do they see as most difficult? • What do you see as your most positive qualities? • What are you biggest challenges? • When there’s been a lot of personal/professional development, think back to early adulthood (mid to late 20’s)

26. Use “Score Sheet”

27. The Direction of Stress (Disintegration) 9 8 1 7 2 6 3 4 5 1 ==> 4 ==> 2 ==> 8 ==> 5 ==> 7 ==> 1 9 ==> 6 ==> 3 ==> 9

28. Direction of Integration (Security) 9 8 1 7 2 6 3 5 4 1 ==> 7 ==> 5 ==> 8 ==> 2 ==> 4 ==> 1 3 ==> 6 ==> 9 ==> 3

29. The Enneagram Triads • There’s a lot more to learn from the Enneagram than just basic Type • There are four distinct Triads (groups of three types) • Each Triad adds more depth of understanding to our Type • Each represents another perspective on qualities we share in common with other Types, and ways we differ

30. The Four Triads • Three Centers • Hornevians (how we get our needs met) • Harmonics (our initial response when we don’t get what we want) • “Wallpaper” (the emotional background)

31. Three Centers 9 1 8 INSTINCTIVE 7 2 THINKING FEELING 6 3 5 4

32. Three Triads 9 1 8 INSTINCTIVE 7 2 THINKING FEELING 6 3 5 4

33. Instinctive/Body Based/Anger Center • Open and Relaxed: True power, connected, presence, grounded, independence • Tense and Resistant: Not wanting to be controlled or messed with, anger, aggression, abuse or abdication of power

34. Three Triads 9 1 8 INSTINCTIVE 7 2 THINKING FEELING 6 3 5 4

35. Feeling / Heart / Image Center • Open and Relaxed: Deep connection with our experience, true value, true identify, sensitivity, love • Tense and Resistant: Lose core self esteem, creation of an image, construct an identify to be appreciated

36. Three Triads 9 1 8 INSTINCTIVE 7 2 THINKING FEELING 6 3 5 4

37. Mental / Thinking / Fear Center • Open and Relaxed: Inner guidance, quiet mind, faith, trust, confidence, serenity • Tense and Resistant: Looks for guidance and support, fear, anxiety, worry, security-seeking, uncertainty

38. The Hornevian Groups • Related to work of Karen Horney • Tells us: • How we get our needs met • How we approach problems

39. The Assertive Types • Demand what they want • Active and direct • Expand rather than backing down, seeking protection or withdrawing • Expect to be noticed • Issues with processing feelings • Accomplishment, status & winning replace inner sense of authentic value

40. The Dutiful Types • Earn what they want by doing the right thing • Being an extremely responsible person • Compliant to demands of superego (internalized rules, principles, dictates) • Drive to be of service • Rules, beliefs & systems replace true inner guidance

41. The Withdrawn Types • Withdraw/disengage to get their needs met • Easily “zone out” into rich inner world of imagination and fantasy • Generally not forcefully assertive or competitive • Often prefer to stay out of spotlight • Fantasies, thoughts & moods replace real connection with the world

42. The Harmonic Groups • Reveal our initial reactions when we do not get our needs met • Determine how we approach conflicts • We expect others to use the same approach • Very important in relationships and in conflict resolution

43. Positive Outlook Group • Look for something positive, the bright side • Avoid seeing negatives in self & dealing with problems

44. Competency Group • Put aside personal feelings to deal objectively with the problem • Cool and detached, self-controlled & logical • Prefers to not deal with feelings

45. Reactive Group • Reacts emotionally and wants to let others know it and for • Wants others to have same reactions or at least understand/mirror in order to move on

46. The Wallpaper • The Dominant Affect • Unconscious emotional background we bring to all areas of our lives • Major building blocks of the personality

47. Attachment Wallpaper • Holds onto whatever seems to work (even when it doesn’t!) • Attachment is the desire to maintain a comfortable & stable relationship with people or things that are identified with

48. FrustrationWallpaper • I don’t really know who I am unless I’m frustrated (restless, uncomfortable, dissatisfied, impatient, agitated, needy) • Frustration is the feeling that our comfort & needs are not being sufficiently attended to • Sometimes reverses and becomes the frustrater

49. Rejection Wallpaper • I have to constantly defend against rejection • Rejection is the expectation of needing to defend oneself from being victimized by others seen as powerful or abusive • Tendency to repress own needs and vulnerabilities

50. The Spirit of the Enneagram • Self-Awareness, Honesty, and Self-Kindness • Allowing a shift in the direction of: • Maximum freedom to respond effectively • More effective, respectful, collaborative relationships • Increased productivity • Increased fulfillment • Being better human beings