Introduction

2. Introduction We are the UK membership association for domestic violence perpetrator programmes and associated support services. Our vision is to end violence and abuse in intimate partner and close family relationships.  Our key focus is on promoting, supporting, delivering and developing effective interventions with perpetrators. Respect is a UK registered charity, number 1141636.

3. What we do… Disseminate best practice and set standards for DV perpetrator work. Respect Accreditation Standard launched 2008 • Women’s Aid • Refuge • Fatherhood Institute • Ministry of Justice • Association of Directors of Children’s Services • Child & Family Court Advisory Support service (CAFCASS)

4. Key points: • 105 competencies • Based upon best available evidence from research & practitioners • Women & Children’s Safety paramount • Risk & Case management is central • We do not prescribe a model of work

5. We also… • Run a UK wide helpline for perpetrators and professionals seeking advice • A men’s advice line for men identifying themselves as victims • An virtual contact centre, online “Dads Space” • Have commissioned a 3 year research project to further enhance what we know about effectiveness of programmes

6. Young People’s Service June 2008 – March 2011 Funded by Comic Relief & DCSF Three Phases:- • Development – synthesize research & best practice produce service model and toolkit • Pilot – toolkit piloted, evaluated & revised • Dissemination – regional training packages & conference Focus – young people with issues of violence & abuse in their close relationships – dating, parental, siblings etc.

7. Young People’s Service • Review current research & literature • Develop the toolkit • National Practitioner’s Seminars • Develop a National Resource Directory • Offer training and awareness sessions • Consult with agencies working in this field • Seek to provide networks for onward development

8. Adolescence • Time of great biological, social & psychological change • Period of experimentation – young people try to establish their own identity • Young people seek to separate from their families and identify with their peers and other social groups • Periods of intense short term thoughts and feelings – ‘test out’ relationships and their role in them

9. Earlier interventions more likely to be effective and less expensive Gap in service provision for adolescents Age appropriate - models do not necessarily translate Emerging group work models in the UK Development of complex cognitive skills - unique opportunity to improve relationship skills Reduce the risk of future domestic and sexual abuse Needs to address co-existing risk behaviours eg substance misuse Intervention & Prevention

10. Child to Parent Violence • Paucity of statistics and information – most USA • Behaviours involved can be similar to IPV • Prevalence US – CPV for 3-19 years 20% with serious/frequent 10% • First studied by Sears in 1957 – lack of ongoing research particularly in the sphere of family violence – to date CJ or Medical Models • Significant under-reporting – shame, guilt, minimisation • Adolescents assaulting parents are more likely to • Have friends who assault their parents • To approve of delinquency & violence • To believe that the likelihood of official sanction is low • To be weakly attached to their parents • Risk Factor for CPV - Growing up with DV or corporal punishment, physical abuse

11. Child to Parent Violence Gallagher – Australia 2009 Sample 230 Young People – CPV • 26% Girls : 74% Boys • Average age referrals – 13.1 Years • Family type • 55% Sole Mothers (usually past dv) • 42% Two Parents • 3% Sole Dads • Majority violence directed to mother • 21% had a diagnosis ADHD & 40% had a diagnosis of some description

12. CPV – Two Family Types

13. Parentlineplus 2008 • 29% calls relate to children’s behaviour – 86% aggressive behaviour within the home. • Most of the violence was perpetrated by children aged 13-15. • Even balance sons/daughters in relation to verbal and physical aggression . • 76% female ‘parent’ One mother told the helpline that she was afraid to be alone in the house with her 15-year-old son after he attacked her when his laptop and phone were confiscated. Another parent said that she "lives in fear" of her 14-year-old daughter. "One minute we can be sitting down watching television, the next she flies out of her seat, switches off the telly and launches into a torrent of abuse."

14. Pilot Projects

15. Organisations • Barnardos – Newcastle (Young Asylum Seekers & young male offenders (YOS)) • Base 25 – Wolverhampton (Local referrals, footfall & schools) • Relate – Coventry (Schools & self referrals) • SLAWO – London (BME African descent) • Respond – London (Young people moderate learning difficulties)

16. High Entitlement Cotton-wool kids, hyper-parenting Children given less responsibility than ever Parents have less time than in previous decades Anything that makes the child more “precious” or “special” can increase the risk - in some families boys have ‘special status’ The most isolated nuclear families EVER Smallest families EVER Lowest infant mortality EVER Trend towards more democracy and less social distance between generations has continued for 150 years Less community & kin contact Media - consumerism, aggression, individuality, contempt for elders, violence, sex, instant gratification, entitlement Materially richest generation EVER… but with more than ever feeling relatively poor

17. …however ‘The children now love luxury: they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are tyrants …’ (Socrates, 470–399 BC). “I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on the frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words. When I was a boy, we were taught to be discrete and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise and impatient of restraint”. --- Hesiod, written on clay tablets in the Eighth Century B.C.

18. Axe wielding maniac scale 10 kill!!! 9 raging 8 furious 7 mad 6 angry 5 pretty angry 4 slightly angry 3 annoyed 2 irritated 1 fairly calm 0 total peace

19. The 5th National Practitioner's Network The 5th Young People's Service Practitioner's Seminar was held in Nottingham on 5th October 2011in conjunction with the Nottingham Domestic Violence Forum.  We provided a range of presentations and workshops around new and effective practice in the sector.

20. Training Opportunities Five Days Training – Two Modules Two Days - Awareness, Understanding & Practicalities (March - Bristol 1st, 2nd, March 2012) Three Days - Intervention Approaches, Group Work & Support (March – Bristol 13th, 14th and 15th )

21. Training Enquiries For further information please contact sarah.read@respect.uk.net Telephone 020 7549 0578

22. Resources • Toolkit – you need to complete the training • Web – site www.respect.uk.net • Resource Directory – Projects Working In This Sector