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Cal Poly Safer. Spring Training 2014. Who are we?. Things to Know…. Located in UU 217, Dean of Students Office, Monday – Friday 9 am – 5 pm 1. Crisis Services First-stop resource center for all Cal Poly students, faculty, staff and loved ones affected by violence
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Cal Poly Safer Spring Training 2014
Things to Know… • Located in UU 217, Dean of Students Office, Monday – Friday 9 am – 5 pm 1. Crisis Services • First-stop resource center for all Cal Poly students, faculty, staff and loved ones affected by violence • Trained rape/domestic crisis counselors • Advocacy for survivors, accused and loved ones • Accompaniments to on campus resources 2. Education Services • Presentations and Training to the Cal Poly community • Events and workshops focusing on violence prevention • Safer Advocate Training Program • 6 week Men and Masculinity Program • Self Defense Contact: (805) 756-2282 or safer@calpoly.edu
Magnitude of the Problem • 80% of victims are under age 30 • Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted U.S. Department of Justice. 2005 National Crime Victimization Study. 2005.
Terms to cover • Sexual Assault • Dating Violence • Domestic Violence • Stalking • Consent • Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault • Assertiveness
Scenario • Tom and Amanda are acquaintances at Cal Poly with a few friends in common. Amanda texts Tom about a party she was invited to that night. They text back and forth the entire day, and Amanda starts to think that Tom may be interested in her. • They meet up at the party, and spend a lot of time around each other dancing, drinking, and playing games. They stay together most of the night, and they finally kiss on the dance floor. They continue to drink, and are both feeling drunk at this point.
Cont.. • Later, Tom and Amanda are in a bedroom with several other friends continuing to play drinking games. Their friends slowly leave one by one to go dance or go outside, and Amanda and Tom end up in the bedroom. • Tom and Amanda continue to make out heavily. By this time, Amanda still feels drunk and Tom is sobering up.
Consent Consent is only present when all partners have agreed to sexual activity without the presence of force, pressure, fraud, lies, or coercion. To give fully informed consent you must have: • Both participants fully conscious and not incapacitated by drugs or alcohol. • Both parties have clearly communicated their willingness/participation. • Both parties are positive and sincere. • The ability to change your mind at any time.
Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault • The number one date rape drug is alcohol • 96% of sexual assaults that occur in San Luis Obispo are from alcohol as either a complete or partial factor • Ketamine • GHB • Rohypnal (Roofies) • Ecstasy
How to Help: Victim Blaming, Empathy, & Bystander Intervention
String Activity • How are you feeling? • How do you think the sexual assault survivor is feeling? • Why do you think victim blaming happens? • What would be a more appropriate response if someone discloses? • What is empathy? How can you show it to a survivor? • Why do you think it is important to believe someone when they confide in you that they have been sexually assaulted?
How can OL’s effectively respond? The vibe you create in your group is important to creating a safe and supportive environment for the survivor. • Your reaction will either help or hinder their healing process. • As a leader it is important to: • Thank them for sharing this with you • Believe them • Do not ask investigating questions • Listen and support them • Provide Resources (Ex: Safer, UPD, RISE)
After they disclose... • Find a safe place to talk with the student • Let the survivor make all the decisions • Be an advocate or get one at Safer • Do not retaliate • Consult Safer if you have any questions
Bystander Intervention • Kitty Genevose. • Bystander intervention is helping people, having empathy and taking care of the people around us. • Do not assume someone else is going to do something. • Diffusion of responsibility
Scenario 1 At a party, you see a friend trying to get an obviously drunk woman to leave with him. She’s not just buzzed; she’s stumbling over her own feet. You know the woman, and she looks reluctant.
Options • Do nothing. It’s really none of my business. • Try to get my friend to leave her alone. Tell him he has to be real careful getting sexually active with a drunk woman. • Approach the woman and ask her how she feels, and if she wants help getting home. • Tell the person throwing the party that I’m worried about the situation, and warn them that they might have some legal responsibility to act. • Get a group of my friends together – men and women – and confront my friend, firmly telling him to stop pursuing this drunk woman. • Personal option:
Scenario 2 You’re hanging out on campus with some of your friends. People in the group nearby start making sexual gestures and harassing remarks about one of your friends, commenting about their body and clothing and teasing that they enjoy the attention. You can tell your friend is getting upset, but no one else is saying anything.
Options • I shouldn’t say anything; it’s not worth the hassle. • Try to convince my friends as a group that we should tell them to stop being punks. • Tell them to quit the sexist remarks, saying something like, “I’m offended by how you’re talking to my friend. Have you guys ever heard of sexual harassment?” • Ask my friend if they want to leave. • Say nothing now. Later, talk to my friends about what to do next time if something like this happens again. • Talk to someone at Safer, counseling services, or a staff person that I trust about what I observed and ask for their suggestions about what can be done. • Personal option.
Scenario 3 You’re at a party. You see a couple you know arguing and then you see one push and then slap the other. Neither of them are close friends of yours, but you do hang around with the same group of people. Nobody else is doing anything.
Options • Nothing; it’s none of my business. • Attempt to distract the couple somehow, maybe by talking loudly in order to defuse the situation. • Shout out something so that everyone at the party hears like, “Hey, what are you doing?” and stick around to make sure the situation has cooled down. • Talk to the victim – at some point – and let them know that I saw what was going on and am willing to help them. • I wouldn’t do anything immediately. But as soon as possible I would talk to the aggressor – or one of their friends – and tell them that what I witnessed was not okay, and he needs to get some help. • At the earliest possible opportunity, discuss the situation with some of the victim’s friends and together decide on a course of action. • Talk to someone at Safer, counseling services, or a staff person that I trust about what I observed and ask for their suggestions about what can be done. • Personal option.
Scenario 4 An acquaintance of yours has accused one of your friends of sexual assault. Some of your friends are badmouthing your acquaintance, saying it wasn’t an assault and that they are a “slut” anyway.
Options • Try not to get involved in this messy situation. • Talk to my acquaintance and try to find out what happened from them, not from rumors. • Talk to my friend and try to find out what happened from them, not from rumors. • Tell my group of friends to speak respectfully about the person that made the accusation. Remind them that sexual assault is a serious and traumatic experience and that false reports – while they do occasionally occur – are extremely rare. • Talk to someone at Safer, counseling services, or a staff person that I trust about what I observed and ask for their suggestions about what can be done. • Personal option.
Scenario 5 • Your friend tells you that they just want to be friends with their ex. They have been calling and texting the ex multiple times throughout the day, but the ex is not responding. Your friend says they pass by their ex’s classes and Greek meetings, hoping to catch site of them. They are now considering signing into the ex’s Facebook account to find out what they’ve been doing since they know all of the ex’s passwords.
Options • Try not to get involved in this messy situation. • As soon as possible, talk to my friend privately about their actions and how they could be seen as stalking their ex. • Talk to my friend’s ex about what they are planning to do. • Talk to someone at Safer, counseling services, or a staff person that I trust about what I observed and ask for their suggestions about what can be done. • Personal option.
What to do if a WOWie Discloses to you? Rules and Policies of Title IX Mandated Reporting
Title IX and Cal Poly Title IX requires colleges & universities to eliminate the hostile environment caused by campus sexual assault
Title IX at Cal Poly All faculty and staff MUST report the name of the student who is sexually assaulted
Possible Outcomes of Title IX Reporting for the Students Involved • This may include, but not limited to: • Ensuring that the parties aren't in the same classes • Moving parties to different residence halls • Preventing retaliation • Implementing stay-away orders • Advising the complainant as to the options available for filing • Education and advocacy for the respondent
Mandated Reporting • Who are mandated reporters? • Soar leaders • WOW leaders • Team members • Board members • For what time period are people mandated reporters? • Who do you report disclosures to? • Jean DeCosta, Andrene, Jason, Safer • Does the requirement change if the person who discloses is under 18? Yes! But Jean will determine the necessary actions
Mandated Reporting • Does the time of the event being disclosed effect the situation? • Wowie tells you something that happened 3 years ago? • 10 years ago? • Do only events that are related to Cal Poly need to be disclosed? • Example: Wowie tells you they were assaulted by another Cal Poly student vs. telling you they were assaulted while at home for break. • What types of events are covered under mandated reporting? • Sexual assaults • Disclosure of suicidal thoughts? • Self harm? • Harassment? • Non-sexual assault?
The BIG responsibility of being a LEADER • Think about the first time you came to Cal Poly, the 1st week • What comes to mind? • Remember those feelings/thoughts when you are with your WOWies • Shaping students interpretation of Cal Poly • Creating the foundation of how they begin their time at Cal Poly • WOWiesare figuring out their moral and ethical values, you can play a huge role in that experience of who they become
The Mustang Way Pride Responsibility Character
*Resources* • Safer: 756-2282 • UPD: 756-2281 • Dean of Students: 756-0327 • Office of Equal Opportunity : 756-6770 • Office of Student Rights and Responsibilities: 756-2794 • Cal Poly Health and Counseling Services: 756-2511 • University Ombuds: 756-1380 • RISE: 855-886-7473 (RISE) • The Women’s Shelter Program SLO: 781-6401
