Peer Planner Study for Quiz on Chpts 7-8 Reader Response 8… • Write down on a piece of paper some ways in which you feel like an outsider having trouble connecting with others Or • Define what respect looks like to you in a classroom of diverse students. Be clear and specific and provide an example for each. • Respect for the instructor • Respect for other students • Respect for yourself and behavior • Respect for the subject • Respect for your homework • Respect for your class work
Quiz • Family Feud! • Get into “families” of 4-5 students • Each of the 4 questions have 4-5 answers. • Write down the answers on your “Family” paper (one per group)
Communicating in a Diverse World Chapter 9, pg 282
“Successfully intelligent people… question assumptions and encourage others to do so. We all tend to have assumptions about the way things are or should be…but creatively intelligent people question many assumptions that others accept, eventually leading others to question those assumptions as well.” Robert Sternberg
Real Questions, Practical Answers How can I adjust to a new society and connect to people in my community?
How Can You Develop Cultural Competence? ---- Pg 282 • Value Diversity • Identify and Evaluate Personal Perceptions and Attitudes • Be Aware of Opportunities and Challenges That Occur When Cultures Interact • Build Cultural Knowledge • Adapt to Diverse Cultures
Diversity means… • living, working, and studying with people from different backgrounds. • becoming aware of different perspectives and different ways of doing things. • socializing with and perhaps marrying people from other cultures.
Diversity influences our… • learning and communication styles • sexual orientation or marital status • education or socio-economic status • levels of ability or disability • different values • different talents and skills • successful intelligence abilities • religious preferences
Expand Your Perception of Diversity – pg 286 • Brainstorm 10 words/phrases that describe YOU (focus on characteristics others cannot SEE, for example: I am Swiss). • Partner w/ a classmate you do not know well. Write down characteristics you see (know, or can guess) about him/her • Talk w/ your classmate about all of the lists • Write: what did you learn about your classmate? Was your impression of them accurate? • Write what you wish people would focus on about you
Build Cultural Knowledge • Read things that expose you to different perspectives • Ask questions of all kinds of people • Observe how people behave • Travel internationally to unfamiliar places • Travel locally to encounter a variety of people in your community • Build friendships with students and coworkers Pg 287
Thinking on Prejudgment • after doing that, list possible causes • family culture • fear of differences • experiences • Groups of 4-5 people answer this question on a separate piece of paper: • "why do people judge others before they know anything about them?
Identify & Evaluate pg 284 • Prejudice • Preconceived judgment or opinion formed without grounds or sufficient knowledge • Influence of family and culture • Fear of differences • experience • Stereotypes • Standardized mental picture that represents an oversimplified opinion or uncritical judgment • Desire for patterns and logic • Media influences • laziness
Personal Difference Assessment • Read the handout. • Answer at least one of the questions
The tough-minded person always examines the facts before he reaches conclusions: In short, he postjudges. The tender-minded person reaches conclusions before he has examined the first fact; in short, he prejudges and is prejudiced… There is little hope for us until we become tough minded enough to break loose from the shackles of prejudice, half-truths, and down-right ignorance. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Be aware of opportunities and challenges that occur when different cultures interact • Discrimination • Hate Crimes • Discussion: What are positives and negatives of cultural interaction?
Build knowledge about other cultures • Positive Action - Address cause, not effect • Ten ways to Fight Hate
Practical Application • Read the handout: Case Study: What Would You Do? • Brainstorm on the back of the page to create solutions
Adapt to Diverse Cultures • Look past external characteristics • Put yourself in other people’s shoes • Adjust to cultural differences • Help others in need • Stand up against prejudice, discrimination and hate • Recognize that people everywhere have the same basic needs Pg 289
How Can You Communicate Effectively? • Adjust to Communication Styles • Know How to Give and Receive Criticism • Understand Body Language • Manage Conflict • Manage Anger
Personality Spectrum Communication StylesWhat style are you? Refer back to pg 76 Thinker-Dominant Communicators… …focus on facts and logic Organizer-Dominant Communicators… …focus on structure and completeness Giver-Dominant Communicators… …focus on concern for others Adventurer-Dominant Communicators… …focus on the present
Communication StylesWhat style are you? Refer to pg 76 • Get into groups with people of other communication styles. • Discuss ways you can improve communication when interacting with people who tend to communicate differently. • Do you Prefer to communicate with people of the same style? • Do you like the communication process with people of different styles? • What suggestions do you have for more effective communication?
Communication StylesWhat style are you? Refer to pg 76 • Divide into groups of dominant communication styles. • Discuss the advantages and disadvantages of their primary communication type. • Divide into new groups, each of which contains at least one of each of the four communication styles. • Discuss ways they can improve communication when interacting with people who tend to communicate differently. • Do you Prefer to communicate with people of the same style? • Do you like the communication process with people of different styles? • What are the challenges you face? • What suggestions do you have for more effective communication?
To communicate effectively… • Listen well. • Adjust your style to your audience. • Be comfortable with giving and receiving criticism. • Communicate with cultural competence.
(Un-)Constructive Criticism (Pg 293) • What is constructive criticism? • What is unconstructive criticism? • What are the strategies to constructive criticism? • (Criticize the behavior, defend the problematic behavior specifically)
Criticism • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YivQYeI0vys • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ZiYMrjFFc4 • Constructive Try clipping your hair back so that you don’t play with it so much. You may try using a visual aid to remind yourself where you are in your speech and give a visual aid. • Unconstructive You looked like a ditz playing with your hair like that. You SUCKED Stop saying “uh” so much!
Body Language (pg 294) • 4 students at the front of the room • Who would you want to hire? • Impressions?
Passive, Aggressive or Assertive. (pg 295) Passive Lacking will or energy, not addressing the issue Aggressive Focuses too heavily on your needs, demanding – sometimes loudly. Assertive Being assertive strikes the right balance. States fact and opinions in an unemotional way. Requests respectfully. http://www.videojug.com/film/communication-and-assertiveness-training-skills-3 - Boring video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kO2KEYhQbrM (RA’s) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15a9KAZgijg (Passive, Aggressive, Assertive) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDzoVtts3qU – passive aggressiveness http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tNzEodR7kLc – Passive Aggressive Video http://www.mtstcil.org/skills/assert-intro.html more activities
Try out each method: Role Play Joe and Charlie have been having a conflict over a library book that Joe borrowed from Charlie. When Charlie put the book in his locker to return it to Joe, it was stolen. Joe wants his book back. • Passive • Aggressive • Assertive
Conflict Resolution (pg 296) Aggressive, Passive, or Assertive? • Get a partner. Take turns convincing each other to get:(partner being convinced should be considerate, but not immediately agree) • A chance to rewrite a paper for a better grade • A refund on an appliance that didn’t work properly • My partner to start doing more for the family • My father to let me make my own decisions about my major • A raise and promotion at work After each attempt, determine if the attempt was 1)aggressive, 2) passive, or 3) assertive. • Which was most effective?
Conflict Prevention Strategies (pg 295) Strategy: Send “I” messages How it helps: Highlights the effect the actions have on you rather than the actions or the person involved http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uf7G92KWJU – I message vs You message Strategy: Be assertive How it helps: Being passive takes the focus off your needs. Being aggressive focuses too heavily on your needs. Being assertive strikes the right balance.
How Do You Make the Most of Personal Relationships? • Use Positive Relationship Strategies • Manage Communication Technology • Avoid Destructive Relationships • Choose Communities that Enhance Your Life
Positive Relationship Strategies • Prioritize personal relationships • Spend time with people you respect and admire • If you want a friend, be a friend • Work through tensions • Take risks • Find a pattern that suits you • If a relationship fails, find ways to cope
Thinking Successfully About Relating to Others • Analytical thinking – Assess the underlying facts and assumptions that cause prejudice. Understand how and when communication, especially across cultures, can break down. • Creative thinking – See new ways of viewing diversity and its values. Think outside the box to resolve conflict, communicate, and deal with personal relationship issues. • Practical thinking – Learn from experiences in relating to others, be sensitive when relating to others, adapt to communication styles, recognize warning signs with negative communication patterns or damaging relationships.
taraadin The Arabic wordtaraadin includes the concept of “compromise”but contains another level of meaning. Specifically, it refers to a win-win solution to a problem, an agreement that brings positive effects to everyone involved. How would you apply this word to your life?
“We cannot live for ourselves alone. Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along these sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results.” Herman Melville, Author
Resume Writing • Collect everything you’ve done • Write down • Education (what HS? How many units/what classes @ college?) • Volunteer activities, community service • Jobs/positions you’ve held • Awards • Don’t think you can make your jobs sound good? Look at the skills you have!http://online.onetcenter.org/
Mock Interview • Prepare yourself for an interview. • Partner up • Review the Interview Guide • Role play • First one person is the interviewer, asking all of the questions, record answers and make their observations. • Once the first interviewer is complete, switch roles. • You will be awarded up to 100 points for this activity, based on your answers and attitude.
Sections on a resume Standard • Contact • Education • Experience Options • Honors, activities, outreach/volunteer • Skills • Objectives • References Use action Verbs! Recorded, Prepared, Explained, Assisted, Developed
HOW TO WRITE A RESUME Presentation written By DinorahRodriguez Texas A&M
A RESUME IS • A marketing piece, an advertisement, for your unique set of skills/abilities/experience. • A tool that you use to gain an interview. • A fluid and changing document which must be personalized and targeted. • A billboard. It is not going to be possible to list every single item of interest about yourself in this document - you need to identify what will be of interest to your target audience and highlight that information.
What Will a Resume Do For Me? • Enable you to assess your strengths, skills, abilities and experience - thereby preparing you for the interview process • Act as a reminder of you to the employer/interviewer after you're done interviewing • Be a basis for the interviewer to justify your hiring • The ultimate goal of a resume is to gain you an interview!
Are There Any Absolute Rules of Resume Writing? • Yes, but only a few! Almost every rule you have ever heard can be broken, if you have a very good reason. Some rules, however, are absolutes, including: • No typing errors • No errors in spelling • No lying or grandiose embellishments
Are There Any Absolute Rules of Resume Writing? • No negative information should be included • Include only relevant information • Never be more than two pages long (see Curriculum Vitae for Educational resumes)
How long should my Resume be? • 1-page, this is not an absolute rule, • IF you have the right combination of experience and education. • Long enough to detail what you have to offer a potential employer, BUT short enough to entice that employer to want to know more (that is, invite you for an interview.) • As a general guideline, you should keep your resume to one page until you have 5-10 years of experience, then go to two. • If you cannot fill two entire pages with an appropriate amount of “white space”, you should condense it to one page.
White Space: draws the eye to key points • Too much • Not Enough Just about right, maybe make the name larger, though
Will I Have More Than One Version of My Resume? • YES! • Employers today want to know what you can do for them, so it is imperative that you create a targeted resume each time you apply for an opportunity. • You will also develop a 'generic' resume to use in online databases, such as ours. • You may also need a scan able or web-based resume, depending on your field; more on these later.
Are There Different Styles of Resumes? • Yes, there are three resumes styles. The chronological and functional styles have been around for a long time. • Employers today are requesting the targeted style. • Click on the resume type to see an example. • This workshop focuses on developing a targeted resume. We are not recommending that you follow these examples. • It is important that your resume be unique
Which Style is Recommended for College Students? • Texas A&M- University Kingsville Career & Counseling Services recommends doing a TARGETED resume, although some circumstances dictate a more generic approach. Types of Resume • Chronological • Functional • Targeted
How Do I Get Started? • Get a job announcement or description for the job, or type of job, you are seeking, if possible. • Make a list of all co-curricular activities you are involved in (clubs, Greek organizations, honor organizations, major-specific fraternities, intramurals, etc.) • Compile a list of all community activities of which you are a part (PTA, church committees, social clubs, volunteer work, etc.) • Gather together job descriptions from your past positions. If you haven’t saved copies of these, you should from now on! • List what things friends/relatives/peers come to you for help with. This may assist you in identifying strengths you would not otherwise recognize in yourself.
What Must I Have on My Resume? • Name • Address • Phone number • Education • Profile or Summary of Qualifications • Experience