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Married Life. April 15 th : Crazy Love April 22 nd : Broken Vessels April 29 th : The Little Things We Do May 6 th : The Devil Made Me Do It May 13 th : Prayer May 20 th : Thunder & Lightning May 27 th : The Little Things June 3 rd : Journey With Purpose June 10 th : Learning to Love.
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Married Life April 15th: Crazy Love April 22nd: Broken Vessels April 29th: The Little Things We Do May 6th: The Devil Made Me Do It May 13th: Prayer May 20th: Thunder & Lightning May 27th: The Little Things June 3rd: Journey With Purpose June 10th: Learning to Love
I. it’s the little things • Quirks • (“an individual peculiarity of character; mannerism or foible”) • What are yours? Your Spouses? • How much does it bother you? • What distorted conclusions do up come to? • WHY?
I. it’s the little things • B. Taboo Topics • What happens when they • are not discussed? • What are yours? Your Spouses? • Why are they taboo? • How do you discuss them?
I. it’s the little things • C. The Pace of Life • Are you a reactor or actor? • Are you intentional? • How well to you find balance in your life?
I. it’s the little things • Speculation… Destroys • Thoughts flow downhill like water • What are the stories you make up in your head about your spouses Behaviors? Intentions? Feelings? • How much do you expect your spouse to “read your mind”?
I. it’s the little things • Family Viruses • What are your viruses? • Your Spouses? • What have you not dealt with in yourself that you learned from parents? • WHY?
I. it’s the little things • Boundaries • Genesis 2:21 - Family • Luke 10 – Good Samaritan • Galatians 6:22; 6:5 – Boulders vs. Knapsacks • How clear are your family boundaries? • Work boundaries? Ministry boundaries? • Does your spouse feel respected? Honored? Cherished – by how you protect your time intimacy?
I. it’s the little things • POINT 1: Tend to the little things… they kill a marriage • What are the “little things” for you? • Quirks that Bother You • Poor Boundaries? • Pace of Life? Taboo • Topics that Fester? • Stories You Make Up In Your Head About Your Spouse?
II. Timing is everything • A. My Timing… • How patient are you with your spouse’s growth? • B. Without God’s Timing… • 2 Peter 3:8(NIV) • 8 But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. • C. = Bad timing!
II. Timing is everything • POINT 2: It’s God’s job to work in your spouse’s heart… sometimes our mouths just get in the way
III. The answer • A. EXTRA GRACE NEEDED • Grace… generosity of spirit… The single most disarming quality a marriage could have • How graceful are you in your marriage? • How can you grow in grace? • What can you do to remind yourself of the need for more grace towards your spouse?
III. The answer • POINT 3: We can't process every little thing every time... • Our marriages need more Grace
Personal questions • God is after my transformation... Why does my spouse’s behavior bug me so? • What log is in your eye you need to deal with? ... Cause there is one... • What family “viruses” have you inherited? How have they interfered with your marriage? • What are your taboo topics? Why? • When you do talk... When is the best time? When is the worst time? • How graceful are you towards your spouse?
Do something • Find a way to approach a “taboo topic” together this week- pray for openness and vulnerability to do so