Pick Ups for Women to Use on Men (that men reported they liked) according to Cosmo

1. Pick Ups for Women to Use on Men (that men reported they liked) according to Cosmo • “In my experience, women's pick-up lines have usually been physical. Reaching by me for something with a slight (or firm) brush of her arm or breast, as though it's unintentional, works great at many levels. Hey, maybe it is unintentional. But I'd rather think of it as a pick up." • "This contact happened after extensive eye contact (read: after obsessive staring on my part). One woman walked up to me and said, 'So, are we going out or what?' She and I went on to date for almost a year and are still very close friends." • "This woman at a restaurant sent me a note via the waiter, to be delivered after she left, asking if I wanted to get coffee sometime and leaving her phone number. I loved it." • "I was at a party and this very attractive, stylish Midwesterner, with whom I had a torrid three-month relationship after, approached me with a mischievous look in her eyes and a glowing smile and said, 'You look like a real challenge.'" • "The best lines I've gotten have been at the park with my dog Marley. A dog at the park works ALL the time. I'm not talking about 'the guy with the cute puppy using it as a babe magnet' scenario either. My dog Marley is a very large German Shepherd mix with abnormally long legs. Women (as well as men) are always commenting on him. 'That's a big dog -- what breed/kind/mix is it?' or something like that. Follow-up is real easy after that."

2. Dating Tips from Experts on Match.com • If you like someone, show it! • Look your very best • Make your date short and sweet • Keep the conversation comfortable • Give a compliment that counts • Look like you’re listening

3. Dating Statistics You Ought To Know from Match.com 44 percent of adult Americans are single, according to U.S. Census figures. This means there are over 100 million unattached folks out there. So, if you've ever worried, "There's nobody out there for me," know that there's hope! Think you'll find love while perched on a barstool? Think again. Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men say they've found a relationship at a bar or club—blame it on the beer goggles. So if you're lonely and looking, you're better off hitting on cuties at Starbucks. If you're into online dating, you're hardly alone: 40 million Americans use online dating services; that's about 40 percent of our entire U.S. single-people pool. So if you haven't tried it yet, maybe it's time to dive in! On a date, first impressions do count: Men take only 15 minutes to decide if a woman is worth a second date. For women, the clock isn't ticking quite so fast—they ponder whether to get together again for an hour or so. The number one problem for couples in America? Disagreements about money, according to a poll by the University of Denver. So, don't write off a date just because you two bickered over the dinner bill; everyone clashes over cash.

4. The 10 reasons why men won’t commit according to The National Marriage Project • They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past • They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying • They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks • They want to wait until they are older to have children • They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises • They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t yet appeared • They face few social pressures to marry • They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children • They want to own a house before they get a wife • They want to enjoy single life as long as they can

5. Status Exchange • Predicts that couples are alike in almost all aspects of their demographic and social characteristics, including race, ethnicity, age, national origin, religious beliefs, political views, socioeconomic status, physical attractiveness, etc. The matched characteristics will make status exchange simpler and easier to calculate, from an economic viewpoint. • Source: Xuanning Fu, “Impact of socioeconomic status on inter-racial mate selection and divorce”

6. Variables in mate selection • Physical Features • Culture • Ethnicity • Sex • Economic Status • Social Status • Occupational Status

7. Status in Mate Selection • Rarely do we marry outside of our status. • High status individuals who marry low status individuals usually do so out of choice while the lower status individual may want to marry “up” or “out” but is not the chooser of that circumstance. • Socioeconomic status plays a larger role in mate selection than does race or ethnicity.

8. Marriage via Mate Selection • Marriages of similar status tend to divorce less than marriages of dissimilar status. • However, Fu found that “potential mates directly compare and measure status when they choose each other, but once a marriage is formed, status of a spouse often works through other aspects of life to impact the marriage.” • Source: Xuanning Fu, “Impact of socioeconomic status on inter-racial mate selection and divorce”

9. Trends in Mate Selection • College graduates are increasingly likely to marry one another rather than marry down. • As gender roles become increasingly egalitarian, men may have begun to compete for high-earning women just as women traditionally completed for high-earning men. • Men still marry down more than women do. • We are marrying people more aligned with our socioeconomic status is increasing (1940 to present). • There are brief changes (up and down) in these trends, however, the 1940 and 1950s trends have reappeared and the hiccups of the 1960s and 1970s have disappeared. • Source: Schwartz and Mare “Trends in Educational Assortative Marriage from 1940 to 2003”.