Intimate Relationships and Communication

1. Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter 4

2. Developing Intimate Relationships • Successful Relationships require: • Positive Self-concept and Self-esteem • developed in infancy and childhood • gender roles • attachment • adult styles of loving • less than ideal childhood can still have a successful relationship

3. Developing Intimate Relationships • Successful Relationships require: • Friendships • based on companionship, respect, acceptance, help, trust, loyalty and reciprocity • may be longer lasting and more stable

4. Love, Sex, and Commitment • One of the most basic and profound human emotions. • These 3 are linked ideals in intimate relationship. • Characteristics of love, sex and commitment.

5. Sternberg’s Classifications of Love • Based on degrees of intimacy, passion and commitment: • Liking • Infatuation • Romantic • Fatuous • Empty • Companionate • Consummate

7. The Pleasure and Pain of Love • Recognize the human emotions • Two components: • Physiological arousal • Emotional explanation

8. The Transformation of Love • All relationships change over time. • High levels of passion. • Growth of intimacy. • Reduction of romance and or passion to the transformation of deep love.

9. Stresses on a Intimate Partnership • Unequal or Premature commitment • Unrealistic Expectations • Competitiveness • Balance of Time together and apart • Jealousy

10. Successful Relationships • Realistic expectations • Mutual trust • Open communication • Effective ways to resolve conflict • Agreement on religious/ethical values • Equal roles • Balance of individual and joint interests

11. Ending a Relationship • Reasons why? • Guidelines of a breakup • Fair chance • Be fair • Be tactful • Time for resolving your anger and pain • The value of the experience

12. Communication • Nonverbal • Ability to interpret nonverbal messages • Self-disclosure • Listening • Feedback is a constructive response • Gender differences in communication

13. Conflict and Conflict Resolution • Conflict resolution skills are vital for maintaining intimate relationships. • Clarify the issue. • Find out what each person wants. • Identify various alternatives. • Decide how to negotiate. • Solidify the agreements. • Review and negotiate.

14. Pairing and Singlehood • Choosing a Partner. • Attraction. • Similarities. • Communication. • Acceptance.

15. Dating • Different cultures have different rituals for finding a mate. • American Culture. • Getting to know each other. • Traditional male-female dating pattern. • Dating of young people.

16. Cohabitation • Factors of acceptance • Rarely continues indefinitely • Advantages • Liabilities

17. Partnership • Gay and Lesbian • Sexual orientation • Homosexual relationships in relation to heterosexual relationships • Traditional gender roles • Societal attitudes

18. Singlehood • Diverse group • Factors that contribute to a growing number • Advantages • Disadvantages • Enjoyment depends upon:

20. Marriage • Benefits of Marriage • Issues of marriage • Role of Commitment

21. Divorce • High rates.. Why? • Process of Divorce. • Physical separation. • Emotional separation. • Greatest stress producing event next to the death of a spouse. • Recovery from divorce. • Remarriage.

22. Becoming a Parent Family life cycle Preparation for parenthood Own stability and readiness to be a parent Physical health Teenage parenting Over the age of 35 Nutritional habits Genetics Financial Considered educational and career plans Emotionally ready Social support Attitudes and aptitudes Family Life

23. Preexisting medical condition Current use of medications and drugs Use of tobacco and/or alcohol Past problems with pregnancy Disease risks and immunization history Dietary habits Family history of genetic diseases or multiple births Preconception Care

24. Birth of First Child • Stressful transition • Return to traditional gender roles • Each stage of the Family Life Cycle • New parents: • worry about choices and mistakes • no set rules • most important is to promote satisfaction for all family members.

25. Birth of First Child • Later stages: balance between giving freedom and setting limits • Marital satisfaction tends to decline when children are in school

26. Building Blocks of Parenting • Modeling • Trust • Respect • Love and Discipline • Honesty • Positive Statements • Time, Attention, Concern

27. Single-parent Families • Differences to a traditional family life cycle. • Difficulties experienced as a single parent. • Single Fatherhood. • Children from single-parent families.

29. Stepfamilies or Blended Families • 3 out of 4 women and 4 out of 5 men will remarry. • Should not be expected to duplicate the emotions and relationships of an intact family. • Healthy stepfamilies are less cohesive and more adaptable than healthy intact families. Allow for more individual differences. • More of a history they have the more of a family unit is built.

30. Qualities of Successful Families • Commitment • Appreciation • Communication • Time together • Spiritual wellness • Coping with stress and crisis