Inconsistent people

1. How to deal with inconsistent people and their inconsistent behaviour? We often come across people who are not consistent with the way they deal with us on a regular basis. Sometimes they are very kind and warm to us and other times they just ignore us making us wonder what has gone wrong. Inconsistent people not only confuse us but also make us feel disregarded. It is not a good feeling when someone you are fond of ignores you for a few days and then comes back. Inconsistency in relationships is never good and no one tolerates inconsistent people. So why should you? No matter how much you despise being in a relationship with inconsistent people, you will come across people who display inconsistent behaviour. For example, you would have known a friend of yours who you met one day and she was so warm and kind and then the next day she ignored you. Or do you relate to an incident when a person you met and you got close to them pretty soon, only to realise they chose to give you a cold shoulder when you saw them next? Also, do you remember your last boyfriend who was always inconsistent when at home, not available to call or text but when he used to be with you, you felt like the best woman in this world only to see this pattern repeat? I had a friend who made me her rebound. She broke up with her boyfriend and found respite in me. And then there were bouts of incidences when she wanted to get back to her ex, and I felt like no one in her life. And the very next day I was again her world. It kept me confused and prevented me from moving on with my life. I even said no to a few people who I was interested in just for her. But she chooses to remain inconsistent, and I kept on losing my sanity and patience till one day I realise that this relationship full of inconsistency is not leading me anywhere. So I decided to quit. But by this time, I had lost a lot of time, energy and patience in life. So how to deal with inconsistent people? The first way to deal with inconsistent people is to give them some chance. You should tell them that they are coming across as very inconsistent off lately and if they are fine. Sometimes, people are not aware that they are being inconsistent, and their inconsistency is not intentional. If it is the case, they will improve, and you don't have to complain again. The second way is to wait for them to come and interact with you as the last time they ignored you. This way these people will get a message that you have taken their weird behaviour seriously, and you won't be making any more attempts to speak to them. So if they value you, they will reach out to you. The third way is to simply tell them that you are done with their inconsistent behaviour and you won't be taking it anymore. So, if they want to continue with you, they need to change this behaviour of theirs and be consistent. And the fourth way is to finally let them go if nothing is working out and their inconsistent behaviour is making you lose your sanity.