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Bullying ?. “How would you feel…”. If you were new in school? If you were the shortest kid in school? If you were the most popular student in school? If you had a tough home life? If you did not feel attractive? If you could not hear well? If you had to wear thick glasses?.
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“How would you feel…” • If you were new in school? • If you were the shortest kid in school? • If you were the most popular student in school? • If you had a tough home life? • If you did not feel attractive? • If you could not hear well? • If you had to wear thick glasses?
Whatis Bullying? • Bullying is harming others repeatedly and over time.
Physical Contact • Words • Cyber bullying (text, email, etc) • Indirect ways such as: • - Spreading rumors • - Intentionally excluding someone from a group • - Notes or letters about someone • - Manipulation of friendship relations • - Malicious gossip • - Backstabbing • - Lying about others A bully carries out negative actions on someone who has difficulty being able to defend himself/herself. The bully uses:
Bullying is: • Classified as proactive aggression • Done by one person or by a group • Is an unfair match since the bully is either physically, verbally, and/or socially stronger than the victim • (Berdondini & Smith as cited by Curtner-Smith)
Types of Bullying • Rejection - Young people fear rejection. They crave acceptance and will do just about anything to get it.
Terrorizing Terrorizing is the use of fear to torment and manipulate. - Perpetrators do this to: • Achieve dominance • Obtain payoffs like: • - Money • - Material items • - Status with peers • - Power
Isolating This involves cutting someone off from essential relationships. The irony is that isolating students can actually drive them to pair up in their estrangement from the larger group and become dangerous.
Corrupting Influencing a student to learn ways of thinking, speaking, and acting that make him or her increasingly unfit for normal healthy experiences. Examples include: • Students who speak, using angry and obscene language. • Students who are antisocial. • Students who mock those who work hard in school. • Students who endorse negative activities like cutting class. • (Garbarino, 2003) • - Gesture Abuse • Threatening or obscene gestures • Menacing stares • Deliberately turning away to ignore someone (Rigby, 2001)
Effects of Bully’s Behavior • Many students are frightened. • A climate of fear exists in the classroom. • Some students think it is funny when they see the immature behavior of a bully. • School time is wasted. • Students who are being bullied are threatened and become highly emotional and upset and afraid to come to school. • A negative atmosphere is created.
Human Choice Triangle RESCUER(s) 5% VICTIM(s) PERPETRATOR(s) 10% BYSTANDER(s) 85%
Should I Help: • Is the person being physically and/or emotionally injured? • Do you understand the situation and what is going on? • Will I be safe if I intervene? • Do I have the skills to help? • Will make intervention make things better?
The How-To’s for handling bullies Class Discussions - Who can tell me what bullying is? - What happens to people who are bullied? - How do you think bullies feel? - What’s it like to see someone get bullied? - Do you think that bullying is a problem in our classroom? - Who would like to have a bully-free classroom? - What do we do to make our classroom bully-free?
Discuss the NO-BULLY POLICY Have the children discuss what it means to have a “no-bully” policy. Students learn to refuse to join in or watch bullying. Students learn to say, “Don’t do or say that. It’s not right.” (Beane, 1999)
IN THE CLASSROOM: • We treat each other with respect. • We speak up if we see others being treated unfairly. • We like it that people are different. • We don’t have to all dress the same or act the same. • We try to solve problems peacefully. • We treat each other the way we want to be treated. • We have the right to be ourselves. • We have the right to be safe. • We speak up if we think there is something that is not safe.
3 Important Rules for Bullies • We will not bully other students. • We will help others who are being bullied by speaking out and by getting adult help. • We will use extra effort to include all students in activities at our school. -Viaadro, 1997
My Statement of Responsibility I have a responsibility to tell someone if I am being bullied. I have a responsibility to not remain silent when someone else is bullied. I have a responsibility to speak up on behalf of all students who need help. I will honor that responsibility. ____________________ Student’s name ____________________ Date