Bullying

1. Bullying By: The Magical John Lorusso, The Marvelous Nick Grammatica, and The Mischievous Christina Hennessy

2. What Is Bullying • Bullying is any ongoing physical or • Verbal mistreatment where there is: • an imbalance of power and the • victim (target) is exposed repeatedly • to negative actions on the part of one or • more other students. • It involves a power imbalance between Bully and Victim: Number, Size, Status, Role, Culture, Ethnicity.

3. Did You Know • The Word Bully used to mean the total opposite of what it means now • Five hundred years ago, it meant friend, family member or sweetheart

4. Characteristics of a Bully • Excited by their bully behavior • Enjoy feelings of power and control • Enjoy causing pain • Can be any one • Lack of compassion and empathy for their targets • Can be all shapes and sizes

5. Characteristics of Victims Passive • Quiet, anxious & insecure • Tend to try to become normal • They may have lower self-esteem and be more prone to depression because they think about the attacks more. Provocative • Reactive, clumsy, impulsive, irritating, annoying • Attempt to fight or answer back when attacked, but not effectively • Often hyperactive, have difficulty concentrating and act in ways that irritate others • These kids might try to make the bullies laugh by making themselves look bad.

6. Victims • Gender. Boys and girls are equally likely to report being victimized. • Age. Children in lower grades are more likely to be victims of older bullies, whereas children in higher grades are more likely to be victims of same-age bullies. Younger students experience more direct bullying, whereas older students experience more indirect bullying like cyber bullying. • Physical appearance. They to tend to be young and smaller in size. • Self-esteem/Depression. Both boys and girls who are victimized report symptoms of depression such as sadness and loss of interest in activities and sports. • Anxiety. Boys and girls who are victims report symptoms of anxiety, such as a state of mental or emotional strain or suspense, fears, and worries.

7. Reasons why bullies bully • Something or someone is making them feel insecure, therefore they bully to make themselves feel better • They could have something going on in their family. • They might not feel like they are getting enough attention from parents or teachers. • They might have watched their parents or older siblings get their way by being angry and pushy. • Maybe they are also bullied. • They might be spoiled by their parents.

8. What Should Parents Do? • Ask the child directly. Most of the time children do not want to tell their parents due to embarrassment, or fear that the bullies will retaliate if they tell. • Look for signs such as a fear of going to school, lack of friends, sadness, anger, as well as increased fearfulness and anxiety. • Talk with the school immediately to make sure your child is safe • Make sure the school know so they can keep a keen eye out for when the bullying partakes

9. If you are a bully, here are some ways to stop • Apologize to people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being friendly. • They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see that you have changed.

10. Why Others let it happen • The bully I someone others look up to and want to hang out with • They want to side with the bully because it makes them feel strong • They're entertained by the bully

11. Are You A Bully • Does it make you feel better to other people or take their things • Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way

12. Reasons why kids get bullied • Doesn’t fit in • Physical weakness • Minority • Facial Appearance • Clothing • Emotional • Overweight • Good Grades

13. Bullying – You Decide? • Jennifer recently broke up with her boyfriend Andrew. Andrew is now dating Melissa. Jennifer convinces all of her friends not to speak or hang out with Melissa anymore. Is this bullying? • When John walks in the hallway to his class, Chris repeatedly knocks his books out of his hand everyday. Is this bullying?

14. What Students in TZHS say of bullying • Sydney Strauss answered some questions about bullying. • 1.Are you aware of bullying? – Yes • 2.Have you seen bullying and did someone or yourself do anything about it? – Yes, I've seen people break up a fight. • 3.What are the outcomes of bullying? – Some people commit suicide. • 4.What can we do to stop it? – More people can help if they see anyone being bullied. • 5.Do schools do enough to stop it?- No they should have people talk to us in school about it.

15. Another interview from TZHS • Kristie Catalano answered some questions on bullying. • 1.Are you aware of bullying? –Yes • 2.Have you seen bulling and did someone or yourself do anything about it?- Yes I have and someone else stood up for them. • 3.What are outcomes of bullying? –Depression and suicide. • 4.What can we do to stop it? – Set up organizations for bullying. • 5.Do schools do enough to stop bullying? – Not really.

16. When our parents were kids was bullying the same? • Bullying happened when our parents were kids but not as serious as it is today. • Back then they didn’t have cell phones, computers and other technology devises that we have today. • Cyber bullying is one of the biggest ways kids are bullied today because kids can say the meanest things over a computer instead of in person.

17. What are the similarities between bullying then and now? • When you hear bullying you think the big kid in the class picking on the little kid in class like you see in shows. Its been like that since our parents were kids too. In ways they are similar how there are fights and cliques that don’t get along with other groups. Kids are grown up to learning about bullying even than so parents do understand what happens even though there cases weren't as serious as they are today.

18. BE A BUDDY NOT A BULLY! • THE END!