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BUILDING COMMUNITY MEANS BUILDING PEOPLE: A WORKSHOP FOR THE CED AND THE SOCIAL ECONOMY CONFERENCE MARCH 16, 2006 CO-PRESENTERS VICKI AUSTAD ( vickiaustad@newwestced.bc.ca ) DEIRDRE PICKERELL ( dp@blazon.ca ). COMMUNICATION AND SOCIAL POLICY: A COMPARISON. A NEW VIEW OF THE 80/20 RULE.
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BUILDING COMMUNITY MEANS BUILDING PEOPLE: A WORKSHOP FOR THE CED AND THE SOCIAL ECONOMY CONFERENCE MARCH 16, 2006 CO-PRESENTERS VICKI AUSTAD (vickiaustad@newwestced.bc.ca) DEIRDRE PICKERELL (dp@blazon.ca)
A NEW VIEW OF THE 80/20 RULE Approval Perfection Sickness Infection 80% 10% 10%
OBSERVATION VS. EVALUATION • There’s so much good in the worst of us and so much bad in the best of us that it hardly benefits any of us to talk about the rest of us”. • Move judgment to curiousity. • “Do not compare yourself with others for you will become vain and bitter for ALWAYS there will be greater or lesser persons than yourself.” • O.J. Harvey (University of Colorado) discovered a high correlation between the frequency of words that classify and judge people and incidences of violence in different cultures around the world; less violence in cultures where language focuses on human need.
THINKING VS. FEELING • Distinguish feelings from thoughts • Distinguish between what we feel and what we think we are ( “I feel like a failure”) • Distinguish between what we feel and how we think others are reacting to us (“I feel misunderstood”) • Avoid using thoughts as counterfeit emotional currency (e.g. “I feel like I want to leave the office”) • When you use the word feeling, follow it with a feeling word. • We are at our most vulnerable when we share what we feel with others.
