Getting Married Marriage License Waiting Period Wedding Ceremony
What do you need to know? Individually, please make a list of everything partners need to know about each other people before “taking the plunge.” What questions do you need to ask yourself, as well?
Marriage License • In Mecklenburg County: • Marriage application form • $60.00 fee • Race and education level must be listed • People 16 to 17 must get consent by: • Parent • Guardian • Institution serving as guardian • People 14 to 16 must: • Go to a district court judge
To be married… • Ceremony performed by… • Ordained minister • Minister authorized by his or her church • Superior court judge • Magistrate • Any person recognized by any other religious institution
Cont… • No marriage of two people closer than first cousins shall be lawful • Incest: Marrying or having sexual relations with a close relationship • If license is not returned after 10 days both parties shall be guilty of a misdemeanor
Annulment v. Divorce • Annulment: court order decreeing that a marriage never existed • The man and woman were never legally husband and wife • Reasons for annulment: • Age: the couple was too young • Bigamy: One spouse was already married • Fraud: One spouse lied about an important matter • Lack of Consent: One spouse was forced to marry against their will
Arranged Marriages • In countries such as India, many marriages are still arranged by parents. • Is this a violation of human rights, or is it OK because it is custom?
Sister Wives… • Monogamy: One wife and one husband • Bigamy: Having two spouses • Polygamy: Having more than two spouses • Polygyny: man has multiple wives • Polyandry: woman has multiple husbands • Group Marriage: multiple husbands and multiple wives
Separation & Divorce • Separation: • Short cooling off period or permanent • Still legally married • Most states require before a divorce
Divorce Couple legally ends marriage & divides property Can be very expensive: alimony, child support, legal fees, etc.
Divorce The Old Way The New Way • Used to have to prove: • Adultery • Desertion • Mental cruelty • Physical cruelty • Insanity • If one spouse was at fault, they may not receive anything at all • “No-fault divorce system” • Only have to prove “irreconcilable differences” • Would divorce rates go down if states still required proof-of-fault?
Legal Grounds for Divorce in NC • Living separate and apart for one year. • Living separate and apart for three consecutive years, without cohabitation, by reason of the incurable insanity of one of them, the court may grant a decree of absolute divorce upon the petition of the sane spouse. • The following are allowable fault grounds for divorce if either party: • Abandons his or her family. • Maliciously turns the other out of doors. • By cruel or barbarous treatment endangers the life of the other. • Offers indignities which render the other spouse's condition intolerable and life burdensome. • Becomes an excessive user of alcohol or drugs. • Commits adultery.
2010 Divorce Statistics • Marriages per 1,000: 6.8 • Divorces per 1,000: 3.4 • Chances marriage will end in divorce: • 20% of marriages will end in divorce with 5 years. • 35% of marriages end in divorce within 10 years. • 43% of marriages end in divorce within 15 years. • 50% of marriages end in divorce within 20 years. • Marriages that end do not always end in divorce; many end in separation and do not go through the divorce process. • Separated Caucasian women are much more likely (91%) to divorce after 3 years, compared with separated Hispanic women (77%) and separated African American women (67%).
Question Does divorce vary by ethnicity?
Question Why has the divorce rate spiked so much in the last 30 years?
Custody • Most states take into account the best interest of the child • Rarely changed after court ruling
Custody • Child can choose at age 13 • Joint custody – must have both parents in agreement • Helpful or harmful?
Question In partners: The Case of the Two Fathers, page 421. GO!
Stepparents • In loco parentis – stepparents required to support stepchildren in most states, even after they have moved out • Can adopt stepchildren to become full parents