Dealing with pain and suffering- Grief, Loneliness, Depression, etc

1. CARE & SUPPORT FAMILY LIFE MINISTRY Relational Issues - Family problems,etc Struggling with abuse & addictions, etc Dealing with pain and suffering- Grief, Loneliness, Depression, etc Financial and Legal networking Others With thanks to Brandon Lim and Magdeline Tay for this vision

2. Family and Child Development 1. Family Therapy 2. Parent Education and Guidance 3. Marital Therapy 4. Pastoral Care and Addiction Specialization Certification 1. Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy 2. Domestic Violence Therapy • Pastor Joshua Tan Tiong Yee • Former Pastor FBC (2012-2014) • Licensed Mental Health Therapist • Currently Director of Life Journey Centre in Penang • Consultation hours: By appointment every 2 last Saturdays and Sundays of the month • Contact: Arnold Lim via Church Office for appointment Family Life Ministry FBC- professional counselling services

3. Family Life Ministry FBC- resources library

4. Family Life Ministry FBC in partnership with Gamma Ministry FBC

5. “Tully”

9. Things we don’t talk about in church

11. Speaking the truth in love Ephesians 4:15 Family Life Ministry Sermon Series

12. Speaking the truth in love in relation to sensitive issues • Not taught in school, work or church ON how to discuss sensitive issues lovingly. • Consequently we pretend like these issueS don't exist to maintain some semblance that everything is ok. • Love rejoices in the truth - 1 Cor 13.6. as we are not practicing this therefore our love for each other is crippled.

13. Speaking the truth in love in relation to confrontation • Not taught in school, work or church ON how to confront others lovingly. • Consequently we repress how we feel about others to maintain some semblance of peace. • Love rejoices in the truth - 1 Cor 13.6. as we are not practicing this therefore our love for each other is crippled.

14. Case study • You are facing some issues in your marriage. According to the text you should approach your spouse and speak the truth in love. This should be done gently in a none confrontational manner. • True or false?

16. The Gospel truth is the foundation of all truths Ephesians 1:13a  13 And you also were included in Christ when you heard the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Ephesians 6:14  14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place

17. 4 As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. 2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3 Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called;5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. 7 But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it.8 This is why it says: “When he ascended on high,he took many captivesand gave gifts to his people.” 9 (What does “he ascended” mean except that he also descended to the lower, earthly regions? 10 He who descended is the very one who ascended higher than all the heavens, in order to fill the whole universe.) 11 So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, 12 to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up 13 until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. 14 Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. 15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work. 17 So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. TRUTH AS A CORPORATE PROCESS

18. Before you speak, how sure are you it’s the truth? • Speak the truth in love by living the truth in love. • Speaking the truth in love is a community endeavor, not a solo effort.

19. Ephesians 4:1-17 (NIV) 4 As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. 2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called;5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. 7 But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it.8 This is why it says: “When he ascended on high,he took many captivesand gave gifts to his people.” 9 (What does “he ascended” mean except that he also descended to the lower, earthly regions? 10 He who descended is the very one who ascended higher than all the heavens, in order to fill the whole universe.) 11 So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, 12 to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up 13 until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. 14 Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. 15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work. 17 So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking.

21. Narrative 1: Demonstrates the dangers of religious extremism Narrative 2: Demonstrates the deadly consequences of a foreign policy that destroys nations

22. Narrative 1: Predatory debt trap for poor nations Narrative 2: Win- win partnership with nations to build global infrastructure network

24. The evangelical church needs diversity

25. "The time is fulfilled for the German people of Hitler. It is because of Hitler that Christ, God the helper and redeemer, has become effective among us. … Hitler is the way of the Spirit and the will of God for the German people to enter the Church of Christ." So spoke German pastor Hermann Gruner.

26. "The time is fulfilled for the German people of Hitler. It is because of Hitler that Christ, God the helper and redeemer, has become effective among us. … Hitler is the way of the Spirit and the will of God for the German people to enter the Church of Christ." German pastor Hermann Gruner.

27. gods of Ephesus- Artemis Temple

28. gods of Social Media

30. 4 14 Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. 15Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.

31. 4 As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. 2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3 Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called;5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. 7 But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it.8 This is why it says: “When he ascended on high,he took many captivesand gave gifts to his people.” 9 (What does “he ascended” mean except that he also descended to the lower, earthly regions? 10 He who descended is the very one who ascended higher than all the heavens, in order to fill the whole universe.) 11 So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, 12 to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up 13 until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. 14 Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. 15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work. 17 So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking.

32. Discerning truth from “truth” • Is it built on a careful diverse study of scripture. • Does it build up the other party. • Does it cause disunity in the church. • Does the love of Christ hold the way you are processing the issue.

33. Before you speak, how sure are you it’s the truth? • Speak the truth in love by living the truth in love.

34. Gospel Living in Action Ephesians 4:1-17 4 As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. 2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3 Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called;5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.

36. “Remove the nail.”

37. “Feel my pain”.

38. Humility GentlenessPatienceBearing with one another SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE ON SENSITIVE MATTERS • Check your agenda before speaking (truth). • Put yourself in their shoes (humility). • Don’t give your views first. Ask for clarification (patience). • Don’t subconsciously interrogate or accuse (gentleness). • Be conscious to affirm – verbal and non verbal (gentleness). • Explore together solutions- empower the other part (patience). • When all else fails learn to de-escalate the situation (bearing with one another). • For a deeper understanding please attend next Gamma FLM session!

40. Before you speak, how sure are you it’s the truth? • Speak the truth in love by living the truth in love. • Speaking the truth in love is a community endeavor, not a solo effort.

45. The church as a confessing community

46. Agents of truth 4 7 But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it.8 This is why it says: “When he ascended on high,he took many captivesand gave gifts to his people.” 9 (What does “he ascended” mean except that he also descended to the lower, earthly regions? 10 He who descended is the very one who ascended higher than all the heavens, in order to fill the whole universe.) 11 So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, 12 to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up 13 until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.

47. Altar Call Counselling session Life Group Discussion Prophetic word received Godly rebuke Sermon that spoke to your heart Godly comfort Group prayer intercession Alpha discussion group Casual talk that turned serious in Garden Cafe Opening up to a godly stranger Opening up to someone you trust Worshipping God together in songs Hearing testimony at Church Camp

48. Before you speak, how sure are you it’s the truth? • Speak the truth in love by living the truth in love. • Speaking the truth in love is a community endeavor, not a solo effort.

49. Speaking the truth in love together 4 16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.