Objectives • Explore Motivational Interviewing (MI) and its application in coaching. • Analyze the 4 MI general principles. • Incorporate nonviolent communication in coaching practice.
MI is a “gentle” form of counseling to effect behavioral changes related to lifestyle. It is not directive, but taps into the individual’s motivation to change.
Guiding Principles • 1. Expressed Empathy • Listen to story • Resist trying to “fix” • Avoid confusing pity and sympathy with empathy
Guiding Principles • 2. Develop Discrepancy between current behaviors and desired goals and values. • Explore how they can reach these goals using open ended questions. • Reflection
Guiding Principles • 3. Roll with Resistance • People don’t resist change so much as being changed. • Explore barriers • The client has all the answers • Avoid • advising • educating • consoling • correcting • explaining • interrogating
Guiding Principles • 4. Support self-efficacy to initiate and sustain change
Grace • Generate a gap—between current behaviors and stated values and interests • Roll with resistance—seek to clarify, reinforce client’s role as a problem-solver • Avoid argumentation—promotes resistance • Can do—increase client perception as capable, offer options, instill hope, affirm positive statements • Expressed empathy—create sacred space to explore difficulty issues, reflective listening
WAIT • WHY • AM • I • TALKING
Nonviolent communication • Values and honors our common humanity in such a way that there is no need for language of blame, judgment or domination.