The Series – “Going from Crazy Bad to Crazy Good” • Intro • The Crazy Cycle • How do you reach your wife’s heart? • How do you reach your husband’s heart? ABF, S.O.S., small groups Prayer team
The Difference Between Men and Women Usually, she Usually, he Is the Nester / Nurturer Is the Hunter / Provider Multitasks Is Single-focused Is stimulated emotionally Is stimulated visually Has an Integrated personality Has a Partitioned personality Recharges by connecting Recharges by isolating Talks about her frustrating issue Wants to fix her frustrating issue
How Should we then Live? 31 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. - Ephesians 5:31-32 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. - Ephesians 5:33
Confusion in the Culture • Lust (eros) • Like (phileo) • Love (agape) • ‘in love with’
How Should we then Live? 4 Jesus: “Have you not read? He who made them from the beginning made them male & female.” - Matt 19:4 27So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. - Genesis 1:27
How Should we then Live? His job • “However, let each one of you love [agape] his wife as himself, …” • Agape love is unconditional and sacrificial love given regardless of her performance as a woman • The cost of a love-dominated culture.
How Should we then Live? Her job • “…, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” • This respect needs to be there regardless of performance, just like the Agape love she craves from him is regardless of performance.
his loving acts toward her encourage her respectful acts toward him encourage
When All is Said and Done: • The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need. • The fastest way to demotivate someone is to crush their spirit - to deny their deepest need. • Respect for a husband is a marginal issue in today’s culture. • “All that matters is that we love one another, and if you would just change a little bit and love me a little bit better, I would out-love you!”