Coaching Your Student to Success New Student Orientation 2014

1. Coaching Your Student to Success New Student Orientation 2014

2. Two trends • In 2012, the number of 18- to 30-year-olds living with their parents grew to 20.7 million, a 3.9 percent gain from 2010. • In 1986, about half of parents reported that they had spoken with a grown child in the past week. In 2008, 87 percent said they had. • In 1988, less than half of parents gave advice to a grown child in the past month, and fewer than one in three had provided any hands-on help. Recent data show that nearly 90 percent of parents give advice and 70 percent provide some type of practical assistance every month.

3. . What has changed about college over the years?

4. How we used to communicate

5. How they communicate

6. They call these…boomerange kids.

7. How do we prevent the boomerang? • Give them room to grow. • Make them interdependent. • Encourage them to get involved. • Encourage career readiness.

8. . Room to Grow

9. Helping them grow If we keep them in a small container, they won’t ever grow.

10. . Make them Interdependent

11. Interdependence Dependence<Independence<Interdependence

12. Interdependence You rely on someone else completely. Dependence<Independence<Interdependence

13. Interdependence You rely on yourself alone (even when you can’t handle something). Dependence<Independence<Interdependence

14. Interdependence You are capable of standing along, but can accept help when needed. Dependence<Independence<Interdependence

15. I want you to have something • Office • (936) 468-7249 • Cell • (936) 553-8503 • Home • (936) 462-1108

16. Challenge and Support Support Challenge

17. Challenge and Support

18. Coaching towards Autonomy Helen Johnson, author of “Don’t Tell Me What To Do, Just Send Money,” suggest that parents think of themselves as coaches.

19. Keeping a Balance • Before becoming involved in a situation, ask yourself if it helps or hurts your child in the long run if they handle it themselves. • Ask yourself if your involvement is helping or hurting your child’s ability to become autonomous, independent and interdependent. • Ask how you can balance challenge and support to aid them in addressing the issues they face.

20. But Involve yourself in important things After all financial aid is applied to your bill, there may be aid left over. In most cases, this will be added to your higher one card. Make sure students spend this responsibly.

21. Resources Students who are not performing well, are behaving inappropriately or attending infrequently may be reported to the iCare program.

22. Resources • Ask Jack/Tell Jack • Available on our website. • By emailing dosa@sfasu.edu • In person at our two Involvement • Center locations (BPSC/Steen Hall). Students can direct any question to Ask Jack. If they have a concern or complaint they can also submit it via Tell Jack.

23. Resources This is our Summer Reading for students. They need to complete this prior to coming to SFA. It has information to help them be successful.

24. Resources n Communication Connection Conversations for the Car Ride Home CAR TALK Pg. 20-21 of the Parent Handbook This has good conversation starters for the ride home!

25. . Get them Involved

26. Involvement • Many give new students a piece of advice that seems sound, don’t get involved until you know you can handle the workload in the classroom. • This seems advisable, but has a clear flaw. Students who do not get involved will not necessarily spend that time studying. They’ll spend it in unproductive ways (video games, Facebook, etc.). • It is important to maintain balanced involvement. Too involved is just as bad as not involved at all.

27. Why Get involved • Students who get involved… • Make more friends • Get better grades • Graduate at higher rates • Are more dedicated alumni

28. Resources Our Award-Winning Involvement Center Students can meet with students who are specially trained to help them find ways to get involved.

29. Greek Life? • Do your research! • Know your student. • Use the “power of the purse.”

30. Freshman Leadership Academy

31. Freshman Leadership Academy • Freshman Leadership Academy is a special section of SFA 101. • Participants interact weekly with student leaders and administrators. • Participants participate in meaningful service. • Students who complete the program are eligible to travel with the group to Monti Christi, Dominican Republic. • Four will be selected to have all of their expenses paid. AN APPLICATION IS AVAILABLE IN THE STUDENT HANDBOOK

32. First-Year Commons • Resources tailored for first-year • students placed right where • many live. • Open to residential and • commuter students. • AARC and IC locations. • Targeted programming for • residents.

33. . Career Readiness

34. Try not to pressure for a major • While we may be tempted to encourage students to go for majors that make the most money, we have to remember their individual gifts. • Our personality type dictates where we get our energy. • If we do a job we hate for money, there will come a day when no amount of money is enough. • “Do what you love and you’ll be the best at it, someone will always pay you well if you are the best.”

35. For three of the ten areas identified, students indicated they had learned the skill in cocurricular programs more than in the classroom. For five of the ten areas, student leaders indicated they had learned the skill in cocurricular programs more than in the classroom.

39. Career Resources • Visit the Office of Career Services • Students can sign up for Career Interpretation/Counseling • Job fairs • Assistance in creating resumes, portfolios, etc.

40. Dr. Adam Peck Dean of Student Affairs peckae@sfasu.edu Office: 936.468.7249 Home: 936.462.1108 Cell: 936.553.8503 Resources

41. Axe ‘em Jacks!