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The Secrets to a Lasting Marriage: Love, Intimacy, and Understanding

Discover the essential elements that contribute to a successful marriage through personal stories and symbols of love, such as roses and rings. Learn how shared experiences, communication, and understanding differences foster intimacy and connection. Emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and support, this presentation resonates with students, offering them a deeper insight into what makes a good marriage thrive. Explore the dynamics of homogamy and heterogamy and the significance of creating emotional bonds over time.

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The Secrets to a Lasting Marriage: Love, Intimacy, and Understanding

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  1. Why a good marriage works:

  2. Why a good marriage works: • Difficult for me - personal • Students remember this more than any other presentation • “Thank you – I have never seen what a good marriage is like”

  3. Symbols of love & the marriage are important • The rose • Rings

  4. The story of the rose

  5. Rose story • In our house today.. • We met in church… • Parents’ rose bush • 1st. Date – Suit of armor – Head on shoulder • Every week … every month … once a month • Daddy, can I get Mommy’s rose? • Sent rose FTD • One son tried it…

  6. Rings • 10 year ring • 25 year ring • 40 year ring – Custom made • At the Acropolis in Athens Greece • Rose gold • 40 pink diamonds • Ruby for each child About 50 stones – too heavy

  7. History • Together every day since we were teenagers • Her memories are my memories • Travel - TajMahal, Pyramids, Golden Pagota, Acropolis, Tower of London, Red square, MyanPramids of Chetznetsia, Eifel tower, Great wall… • Movies

  8. Marry someone like yourself • Homogamy = Like marries like • Age, Race, Religion, Education social class = similar attitudes etc. • Personalities • Both quiet • We never asks for anything – No “To do” lists • I always spend money on her – never myself • Clothes - vase • Heterogamy = Opposites attract • Wants to be taken care of & want to care for • Both needy & both dominate doesn’t work

  9. Make the other person feel important • Good night – love you – I know… love you to • Good morning – how are you feeling? • Waving good-by • How can I help you? • Fight the world, but never each other

  10. Experiences create intimacy and bonding • Births – 1st. Child – 2nd child – 3rs. child • Deaths – Parents - sister • Surgeries – She had • Breast Cancer – right side – left side • Tubal legation • Gaul bladder • Hysterectomy • Breast reduction • Carpel tunnel surgery • Knee surgery • My detached retina surgery

  11. Other important items: • Body & stable personality • Overweight • Diabetes • Sleep aptnea (trouble breathing) • Depression (chemical) • Knees hurt • Back hurts • Shoulder hurts • Honesty - Never lied • Trust– Red ball • Communication – Santa Ana park • Criticism – Any fool

  12. Other important items: • Find out what the other person wants and help them get it. • Preschool • Time by themselves or others • “Go with the flow” • Willow tree bends and does not break

  13. Dealing with differences • Accept the other person as they are • Don’t try to change them • Exception = Drugs, alcohol, emotional or physical abuse, anything that reduces your respect for yourself – just leave • Messy vs. neat • T.V. & reading

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