Understanding Health Education & Sexual Harassment

1. Unit #1 Introduction to Health Education/Health Sexual Harassment Bullying Cyberbullying Sexting Prepared by Mr. Shoup

2. HEALTH EDUCATION • The information and the understanding you have about your own health. • Examples: • When you understand how your body functions. • When you can notice there is something wrong with your body. EX: Cancer, flu,, cold, sun burn, a cut, appendicitis, heart attack, stroke, pneumonia, mono, strep throat, STDs, HIV and others. • When you understand about health products, how they work, being able to follow the directions. • Prevention of diseases and disorders of the human body. • Treatments and places in the community you can go for help to improve your own health.

3. DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HEALTH AND HEALTH EDUCATION Health has three parts: • The word health comes from an old English word meaning “to make sound, whole, or well.” Health comes from the same root as the word heals. 1. Physical Health: The condition of your body. Needs food, water, shelter, clothing, sleep and exercise. • Mental/Emotional Health: The way you think-your mind and how you express your feelings. Readings, conversations, understanding your feels, meeting your needs in a healthy way. Your self-esteem • Social Health: The relationships you have with others and family members. Be able to discuss and listen to others. Being able to play or do activities with others. Ex: Sports, band, chorus, clubs etc.

5. Dignity for All Students Act • Signed into law Section 2801 of the Education Law in Sept. 13th, 2010 • Took Effect July 1st, 2012 • The goal is to create a safe and supportive school climate where students can learn and focus, rather than fear being discriminated against, verbally harassed, or physically assaulted. • All students have the right to attend school in a safe, welcoming, considerate and caring environment. and all employees!

6. Dignity Act States: • “No student shall be subjected to harassment by employees or students on school property or at a school function, nor shall any student be subjected to discrimination based on a person’s actual or perceived race, color, weight, national origin, ethnic group, religion, religious practice, disability, sexual orientation, gender, or sex by school employees or student on school property or at a school function.”

7. Who to Contact? • Guidance Counselor • Mr. Trietley/Mr. Whitcher • Teachers • Any Adult

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9. SEXUAL HARASSMENT DEFINITION Any unwelcome verbal, non-verbal or physical advances/contact or suggestions of a sexual nature. Any unwanted, uninvited talk, gestures, sounds, actions, physical contacts, that are sexual advances in nature regardless of the intent. A place you Do Not want to be around Happens to boys(76%) as well as girls 85% by 12th grade. Intention to make a person feel uncomfortable, afraid, pressured, pester, annoy or to persecute someone.

10. SEXUAL HARASSMENT • Type 1: Hostile • Define: Any unwanted remarks verbal or nonverbal statements, gestures, sounds or physical contacts. Unwelcome: consent or agree-person is subjected to the behavior. This affects your performance in class. Controlling you! • Type 2: Quid Pro Quo • Define: The offering of a sexual behavior in return for sexual favors or wants. Power over the victim This for That!

11. Verbal Harassment • Remarks • Comments • about their body or physical characteristics • Their walk or their speech • Examples: • Put downs, teasing, name calling. • Sexual slurs/words: hunk, doll/hey babe or honey. • Talking about their body-graphic verbal comments. • Asking about sexual fantasies, preferences, history. • Making kissing sounds, howling, and smacking lips. • Telling lies or spreading rumors about a persons sex life/gender/identity. • Dirty jokes • Dating-pressuring to go out

12. NON VERBAL HARASSMENT • Staring at someone-up and down-elevator eyes. • Whistling • Blocking a person’s path • Following the person • Making obscene gestures, facial, hands, body parts. • Passing suggestive notes • Giving a personal gift(s) • Drawings, Graffiti • Pictures-cell phones • Sexual related materials-posters, calendars or pinups. Can not just whip the bird

13. OTHER BEHAVIORS THAT MAY FALL UNDER SEXUAL HARASSMENT CHARGES • Physical Contact: • Touching, kicking, pinching, grabbing and pulling clothing, hair, or body parts. • Massage • Touching rubbing against someone • Hugging, kissing, patting, or stroking Others: Phone Calls: • Persistently calling, for a date or making remarks or insults on the phone. • Self-Exposure

14. Flirting • A statement that makes you feel good or happy. A connection! • Flirting: You both like it!

15. Sexual Harassment vs Flirting Sexual Harassment Feelings Flirting Feelings Good Happy Attractive In Control Flattering Compliment Reciprocal Wanted Legal • Bad/Angry • Embarrassment • Demeaning • Ugly • Fat • Powerless • One sided • Invading • Degrading/Demeaning • Illegal/power motivated • Unwanted

16. What is the harasser looking for? • Power and Control over their victim.

17. Psychological Effects • Poor concentration in school or at work • Depression • Anger • Fear/Anxiety • Frustration • Sleep Problems • Absenteeism • Betrayal • Decrease self esteem-feelings about yourself • Guilt/Shame • Embarrassment • Denial • Powerless

18. Physical Effects • Headaches • Blood pressure may increase • Upset stomach • Insomnia-unable to fall asleep • Skin disorders • Gastro-Intestinal Disorders: • Diarrhea • Ulcers • Stress level increases leading changes or disorders to the body systems.

19. Sexual Harassment affects School Work and or Work • Not wanting to go to class or work • Decrease concentration & memorization • Decrease grades or work performance • Change of attitude and mental state • Depression-state of sadness • Decrease school or work attendance • Decrease quality of work • Dropping out of school • Student becoming isolated

20. Student Communication Skills • For example: “I do not like it when you_________, it makes me feel uncomfortable. Please stop. “I” statements are clear and concise. Be assertive! Talk to friends Write down what is said File a complaint

21. How to Report Sexual Harassment • 1. Call it off-Say NO clearly! Keep a journal Tell person what he or she is doing you do not like it. • 2. Name who is responsible-dates, times Do not blame self! WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN • 3. Write it down-File a complaint Start keeping a record Any witnesses? • Get help friends, family, or professional help.

22. Where To Go For Help • Cattaraugus County Community Action Center • Child Advocacy Center-372-8532 • Guidance Counselor • Teacher • Principal/Assistant Principal • Nurse • Cattaraugus Health Department • Police • Parents • Boss • Priest • ANY ADULT Child Advocacy-Catt. Co.

23. Communication Skills • Verbal: • Words that are said and how they are stated. • You speak them • “I” statements • “You” statements • Which one is better? • Why? • Nonverbal: • Body Language • Eye contact • Rolling eyes • Crossing arms • Closing fist • Facial expressions • Hand gestures

24. Peer Pressure • Positive: • Influence a friend to do something that betters them. • Behave in a positive manner • Making a positive choice instead of a negative choice. • Legal behavior • Negative: • Influence a friend to behave in a way that is not responsible. • Ex: No one will never know! • What’s the big deal? • I do it all the time. • Everybody else is doing it? • You only live once • Don’t be a chicken

25. Consequences of Giving Negative Peer Pressure • 1. Harm Your Health. Ex: tobacco street drugs alcohol • 2. Threaten your safety: Ex: In a car with a drunk driver • 3. Cause you to break the law Ex: Under age drinking • 4. Cause you to show disrespect for yourself and others • 5. Cause you to disregard the guidelines of your parents and other responsible adults • 6. Cause you to feel disappointed in yourself • 7. Cause you to feel resentment toward peers • 8. Harm your self confidence. • 9. Cause you to feel guilty and ashamed

26. What is Stress?Stress is how a person responds to a challenge or threat Positive-Eustress Negative-Distress Harmful Associated with change Ongoing Destructive • Exciting • Pleasant • Beneficial • Constructive • Motivating • Meaningful • Enlivening • Short Term • Vital for Fitness

27. What Causes Stress: Four Types of events or situations-Stressors: 1. Major life Changes 2. Catastrophes 3. Every Day Problems 4. Environmental Problems • Graduating from High School, or going to the high school • Moving to or from another school or graduation from college • Failing a grade • Girlfriend/Boyfriend breakup • Not making a sport team • Death of a family member, spouse/significate other in future. • Divorce/children experience divorce • Marital Separation/Remarriage • Imprisonment • Death of a close family member or friend • Pregnancy/Marriage • Personal Injury/Health Changes-illness • Termination of a job/Leaving home for a job • Retirement

28. Signs of Stress Physical Emotional Lack of interest in food/eating Drug/Alcohol Use Feelings of worthlessness Inability to concentrate Inability to slow down Nightmares Nervousness Restlessness Depression Irritability Confusion Agitation Anxiety • Dizziness • Fatigue • Sleeplessness • Faintness • Headaches • Grinding of teeth • Tight muscles • Increase blood pressure • Pounding heart • Perspiration • Upset Stomach • Change of eating habits • Frequent urination

29. How the Body Responds to StressThree Stages of Stress • Alarm-Fight/Flight Stage-your body releases a substance called adrenaline into blood stream. • You either fight or take flight and escape • Resistance-you adapt to the pressure of the stressor. Body is using up energy from the stress, so after you may feel tired, fatigue, irritable, or feel you can not deal with any more stress. • Exhaustion-You body can not keep up with the demands place on it. Physical and Emotional resources are depleted.

30. Outfoxing Stress • Take a Short breath count to 10 or 20 • Talk it Out • Manage you Time • Set Realistic goals • Balance work and play • Anticipate Stress • Find Help: • By family members • Community agencies, • School guidance department • 90 second window technique.

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32. Bullying • A conscious, willful, deliberate, hostile and repeated behavior by one or more individuals which is intended to harm you or others. • Bullying happens in many different forms. It's doing, saying or acting in a way that hurts someone else or makes him or her feel bad on purpose. • A learned behavior

33. Why A Bully? • Bullies come in all shapes and sizes and ages. • Anyone can be a bully - even you. • Kids usually become bullies because they are unhappy inside for some reason or don't know how to get along with other kids. Feel powerful. • Want Attention • To feel Important • To be Recognized

34. Ways Bullying Can Occur Some kinds of bullying are: Physical (punching, kicking, pushing, spitting) Verbal (name-calling, taunts, teasing,racist remarks, threats) Indirect/Emotional (spreading rumors, stories, and exclusion from a group. (Including Written) Use of Electronics Socialor Exclusion(leaving someone out of a game or group on purpose) Ex: Cafeteria table! Extortion stealing someone's money or belongings.

35. Types of Bullies Confident Bully Bullies that are physically strong, enjoy aggression, average popularity. Anxious Bully Are weak academically, have poor concentration and are less popular Bully Victim Bullies in some situations and are bullied in others. Usually unpopular student.

37. Bullying Information for Young People: • Don't put up with bullying in your school, group or community! It is NOT just "a part of life" or a "normal part of growing up"! • Bullying usually involves three individuals or groups: the bully, the victim and the bystander. • Bullying is repeated, aggressive behavior towards one person from another person or group of people--and it is hurtful. It might be shoving, hitting, name-calling, rumors, lunch-stealing or even gossiping. • You may think that as long as you're not the bully you're not hurting anyone, but that's not true--the bystander plays an important role in a bullying situation.

38. Bystanders havethe power to help stop bullying. • What’s a bystander? A bystander is one who sees it, hears, it, hears about it or knows what’s going on, but does nothing! • Bystanders (other kids watching) are present most of the time (85%) when there is a bully episode on the school grounds or in the classroom. • Most kids feel uncomfortable witnessing bullying, but very few intervene. • When peers step in; the bullying stops within ten seconds 57% of the time. • There Are No Innocent Bystanders! • If you're standing around watching, you're part of the problem not the solution. • NOTE: Reporting bullying is NOT tattling. Tattling is when you want to get someone in trouble. When you report bullying, you are helping someone else. It is important to know and understand the difference.

39. What’s an Upstander? What’s an Upstander? • An upstander is someone who recognizes when something is wrong and takes action to make it right. • An upstander will: • 1. Consider what’s best for others in deciding how to act. • 2. Do something positive to help the victim or target of bullying. • 3. Listen to the victim and try to help them through the situation. • 4. Help the victim with their feelings and possible actions to address the bullying. • 5. Tell a responsible, trusted adult about the situation. Source:2016-17 I-Safe

40. How Bystanders Can Help Recognize bullying -- It's not just physical. It can be social and verbal as well. Telling someone they're "ugly" is considered bullying, and can be just as hurtful as hitting them. • Walk away -- By standing around and watching you encourage the bully. Walk away and go get help. • Encourage bystanders to get involved as a group -- Band together and walk away. • Keep track of places where bullying is taking place - If you tell an adult in charge, they will monitor these areas more closely. • Speak up -- Tell the bully that they're wrong and that you won't get involved in any bullying. • Help the victim - Put yourself in their shoes. Would you want someone to help you if you were being picked on? Of course! • DON'T JOIN IN. Don't call kids names or pick on them. Bullies try to get other kids to join in. • BE A FRIEND to the kid being bullied. Ask them to tell a grown-up. Go with them if they're scared. • BELIEVE THE KID BEING BULLIED and what they say • FIND HELP from teachers, parents, friends, or other grown-ups. TELL SOMEONE if you see a kid being bullied. Tellingis not tattling! If you're scared of the bully, then don't let them know you told. • DON'T FIGHT THE BULLY. It's not safe. Go tell a grown-up instead. Information from: Bullying.org

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42. Cyber Bullying • Using a cell phone or the internet to harass, embarrass, or threaten someone by posting messages or sending pictures online. • “Anyone who dumps on, slams, embarrasses, threatens, humiliates, scares you or disrespects (you) someone digitally. • An incident in which a person is tormented, embarrassed, harassed or threatened by another person through technology.

43. How Cyber Bully is Done? • By Internet-Send mean or threaten e-mails • By Instant Messages • By text messages-Cell Phones • By digital photo’s • By Face Book • Chat Rooms • Blogs

44. How A Person Cyber Bully’s • Send mean, hateful, threatening messages. • Spread lies • Tricking to reveal personal information • Gossip • Photos/Videos-embarrassing pictures • Infect computer with a virus or spy ware • Pretend to be someone else on the other digital device. • Stealing a person’s online password • Creating a hate blog

45. Types of Cyber bullies “Vengeful Angel” Cyber bullies: • View actions as honorable. • See actions to teach a lesson to others • Usually act alone • Do not see themselves as bullies “Power Hunger” or Revenge Cyber bullies: • These exert power or authority over others • Need attention-feed off other reactions • Like to brag about their actions • Target victims for personal reasons • Usually being bullied themselves on line

46. Types of Cyber Bullying • Mean “Girl” Cyber bullies • Most immature of all bullying • Usually females to other females. • Usually occurs with group of females-party • Like an audience. Over night get together • Without attention it usually stops! • Where is the Mean “Boy” Cyber bully??? “Inadvertent Cyber bullies” • Lash out due to hate or meanful messages. • Do before they think! React without thinking! • Tend to see actions like jokes • Usually surprised that they are bullying, since that was not • their intent, even though it maybe bullying.

49. Facts • Nothing is private anymore • Anyone can read what text or e-mail that is passed to others. • Facebook can be checked out • User IDs, passwords, and account numbers can be passed around. • You can get stuck paying for incoming messages you do not want. • DO NOT OPEN ANY ONE OR THING YOU DO NOT RECOGNIZE!

50. What To Do? • Stop • Block • Tell