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CORNERSTONE. IMAGE MANAGEMENT PRESENTS. SOCIAL ALIENATION OF THE SEAFARER BY CAPT. AUGUSTIN PARACKAL. SEAFARING AS A CAREER. INTERESTING & REWARDING A LIFE OF ADVENTURE & FREEDOM TAKES ITS TOLL ON FAMILY & SOCIAL LIFE. HOME IS THE BASE. INDEPENDENT OF RANK
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CORNERSTONE IMAGE MANAGEMENT PRESENTS
SEAFARING AS A CAREER • INTERESTING & REWARDING • A LIFE OF ADVENTURE & FREEDOM • TAKES ITS TOLL ON FAMILY & SOCIAL LIFE
HOME IS THE BASE • INDEPENDENT OF RANK • EQUALLY IMPORTANT FOR CAPTAIN & CREW • SENSE OF BELONGING & SECURITY
A LIFE OF ISOLATION • SEAFARERS LIVE LIVES OF CONTINUAL ISOLATION • THEY ARE CONSTANT STRANGERS: - STRANGERS ON MULTI- CULTURAL AND MULTI- ETHNIC VESSELS -STRANGERS IN THE PORTS WHICH THEY CALL -STRANGERS AT HOME
RESULT? SOCIAL ALIENIATION
WHAT IS IT? SOCIAL ALIENATION IS A FEELING OF NOT BELONGING TO OR BEING PART OF ONE’S SURROUNDINGS • REJECTION
SYMPTOMS • LONELINESS, HOMESICKNESS & BURNOUT SYNDROME – 3 MAIN PSYCHOLOGICAL FACTORS • LACK OF CONCENTRATION • INSOMNIA • TENSION & NERVOUS EXHAUSTION • NO JOB SATISFACTION • EMOTIONAL IMBALANCE WHICH INCREASES WITH LENGTH OF STAY
WHAT CAUSES ALIENATION? [1] ON BOARD [2] ON HOME FRONT
CAUSES: ON BOARD • SOCIAL-EMOTIONAL SEPARATION FROM HOME & LOVED ONES • INCREASED AUTOMATION & REDUCED CREW SIZE • CONTAINERIZATION, QUICK TURNAROUND • RESTRICTED MOVEMENT IN PORT • NO TIME FOR RECREATIONAL ACTIVITIES • STORMY SEAS AND ADVERSE CONDITIONS AFFECT THE HUMAN SPIRIT • FAMILY NOT ALLOWED ON BOARD
CAUSES: ON BOARD • LACK OF COMMUNICATION FOR LONG PERIODS • RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN HOME & WORK • IRRECONCILABLE EMOTIONAL DISTANCES BETWEEN SPOUSES DUE TO SEPARATION • ISOLATED FROM VALUES REPRESENTED BY HOME: WARMTH, SAFETY & COMPASSION • LOSS OF SOCIAL SUPPORT FROM THE INDIVIDUAL FAMILY
CAUSES: HOME FRONT • MARITAL & FAMILY PROBLEMS • NO CONTACT DURING EMERGENCIES • LACK OF COMPANY SUPPORT • DEMANDS ON LEAVE TIME • LACK OF OPPORTUNITIES TO ESTABLISH SOCIAL CONTACT WHEN ON LEAVE • NOTHING TO DO WHEN HE COMES HOME • WORKING WIFE & CHILDREN AT SCHOOL
CAUSES: HOME FRONT • WIFE HANDLING HOME FRONT AND CHILDREN DEPEND ON HER DECISIONS • FAMILY ROUTINE IS DISTURBING • ATTEMPTS TO CHANGE ANYTHING CAUSES STIFF RESISTANCE • CONVERSATION NOT OF COMMON INTEREST • FAMILY UNABLE TO GIVE 100% ATTENTION • FEELS ‘OUT OF SIGHT’ IS ‘OUT OF MIND’ • AN INTRUDER & MONEY MACHINE
OTHER HIDDEN CAUSES • DEPENDS ON FAMILY, SOCIAL, RELIGIOUS, CULTURAL VALUES • INFERIORITY COMPLEX: INABILITY TO ADJUST TO NEIGHBORS, KITH AND KIN • NEGATIVE CHARACTER TRAITS, UNPLEASANT NATURE
3 LEVELS OF THE MIND CONSCIOUS MIND SUBCONSCIOUS MIND AND UNCONSCIOUS MIND
WOMB TO TOMB SYNDROME EVERY WOUND & SCAR FROM THE PAST HAS THE POWER TO DOMINATE YOUR THOUGHTS & SUPPRESS PHYSICAL & EMOTIONAL FREEDOM
A BALANCED LIFE CAN A SEAFARER HAVE A BALANCED LIFE ON SEA & LAND?
SOLUTIONS: ON BOARD • MANAGERIAL SKILLS OF THE MASTER • WALK THE TALK • ORGANIZATION CULTURE • SWOT ANALYSIS OF CREW • PSP – FAMILY AWAY FROM FAMILY • CATER TO EMOTIONAL, SOCIAL & PSYCHOLOGICAL NEEDS OF ‘SHIP-FAMILY’ • UNDERSTAND HUMAN BEHAVIOUR- HR MGR
SOLUTIONS:ON BOARD • TEAM • INDIVIDUAL & ORGANIZATIONAL GOALS • EMPOWER OR OVERPOWER? • DELEGATE • APPRECIATE, NOT DEPRECIATE • PERCEPTION MANAGEMENT • PLAN YOUR CAREER PATH AND LOOK AT YOUR STAY ON BOARD AS A STEPPING STONE TO SUCESS
EMPLOYER’S ROLE • COMPANY SUPPORT TO SEAFARER’S FAMILY • OPPORTUNITIES FOR FAMILY TO SAIL • IMPROVED ACCESS TO CHEAPER COMMUNICATION • INCREASED CONTACT BETWEEN SEAFARERS’ PARTNERS AND THEIR EMPLOYERS • OPPORTUNITIES FOR SEAFARERS’ FAMILIES TO MAKE CONTACT WITH EACH OTHER WHILE CREW ARE AT SEA.
EMPLOYER’S ROLE • SHORTER TRIPS (4 MONTHS MAX.) • PAID LEAVE OF A COMPARABLE LENGTH TO SEA TIME • CONTINUOUS EMPLOYMENT, RATHER THAN EMPLOYMENT BY VOYAGE • TRAINING TIME TO BE ADDED TO LEAVE PERIOD • TRAINING PROGRAM FOR WIVES
SEAFARER’S ROLE THE SEAFARER’S CONTRIBUTION IS EQUALLY IMPORTANT
WHEN AT SEA THE SEAFARER MUST: • COMMUNICATE WITH FAMILY REGULARLY • CALL ON IMPORTANT DATES OF THE FAMILY- EXAMS, BIRTHDAYS • KEEP CALLING AND BECOME EVERPRESENT • UNFAITHFULNESS IS LIKE A SNAKE IN THE POCKET-DON’T PLAY WITH FIRE • DON’T ‘FLING’ AWAY YOUR PEACE
WHEN ON LAND AT HOME: • DON’T POLICE YOUR WIFE- GIVE HER SPACE • DON’T FIGHT IN FRONT OF THE KIDS: ‘DADS COME, FIGHTS COME’. • APPRECIATE YOUR WIFE & CHILDREN • HOME IS NOT A SHIP- TAKE A BREAK!
WHEN ON LAND OUTSIDE HOME: • LEARN ART OF GETTING ALONG WITH PEOPLE BY ENGAGING IN SMALL TALK • DEVELOP YOUR BRAND IMAGE: (PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT , PUBLIC SPEAKING, SOCIAL ETIQUETTE) • SOCIAL NETWORKING • USE IMPORTANCE PRINCIPLE
IMPORTANCE PRINCIPLE • WHENEVER YOU TALK TO ANOTHER PERSON, MAKE HIM/HER THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE FOR THAT MOMENT • TALK IN TERMS OF THE OTHER’S INTEREST OR WHAT HE/SHE WANTS TO HEAR • DO THINGS FOR PEOPLE THEY DON’T EXPECT • NEVER LET A DAY GO BY WITHOUT MAKING SEVERAL COMPLIMENTS • SHOW OTHERS YOU HAVE FULL CONFIDENCE IN THEIR ABILITIES
IMPORTANCE PRINCIPLE • RECOGNIZE, RESPECT & WHEN APPROPRIATE, OVERLOOK THE OTHER MAN’S QUIRKS & WHIMS • GIVE THE OTHER PERSON CREDIT SPECIALLY WHEN HE DOESN’T EXPECT IT • BUILD UP THEIR SELF-CONFIDENCE • FRIENDLY PERSUASION IS LIFE’S BEST LUBRICANT FOR SMOOTH & SUCCESSFUL HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
JUST PONDER THE THOUGHTS, IDEAS & CONCEPTS THAT LODGE IN OUR MINDS RESULT IN ATTITUDES & BELIEFS THESE IN TURN DETERMINE WHETHER WE EXPERIENCE FAILURE OR SUCCESS
WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE? +VE THINKER IS A BELIEVER IS ENDOWED WITH SELF-CONFIDENCE -VE THINKER IS A DISBELIEVER IS FULL OF SELF-DOUBT
CULTIVATE +VE ATTITUDE CULTIVATE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE TO CAREER & FAMILY -VE THOUGHT=-VE EMOTIONS= -VE HABITS = -VE CHARACTER & -VE CHARACTER DEFINES YOUR DESTINY
A LITTLE EFFORT NEEDED • RE-TRAIN YOUR THOUGHT PROCESSES BY USING CONSTRUCTIVE AUTO-SUGGESTION • FEED YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND WITH +VE THOUGHTS
ARE YOU IN CONTROL? EVERY –VE FORCE CAN EXERT A CONTROLLING INFLUENCE IN OUR LIVES & DIMINISH OUR CAPACITY TO BE FREE, OPEN & LOVING PEOPLE OVERCOME EVERY –VE FORCE WITH A +VE EQUIVALENT
RECONNECTION EXERCISES • NEVER FEEL REJECTED IF CHILDREN ATTACHED TO WIFE- IT’S NORMAL • ENCOURAGE & EMPOWER WIFE TO TAKE IMPORTANT DECISIONS AND DISCIPLINE CHILDREN • BOND WITH THEM TO MAKE UP FOR TIME LOST AT SEA • GET INVOLVED IN CHILDRENS’ STUDIES & PROJECTS, TAKE THEM OUT
CARVE YOUR OWN NICHE • YOU CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE • YOU CAN BE A ROLE MODEL FOR CHANGE • PART-TIME JOB IN TRAINING INSTITUTES ETC. • OPPORTUNITIES ASHORE • JOIN A CLUB, NGO – LET GO SEA ROUTINE • CONTRIBUTE YOUR TALENTS TO SOCIETY • BENEFIT CONCEPT: GO THE EXTRA MILE • PEOPLE SHOULD AWAIT YOUR RETURN
EXAMPLES • KISHORE & JOE • WHO IS THE SEAFARER YOU ADMIRE? • DEAD SEA VS SEA OF GALILEE • THE BALL IS IN YOUR COURT! • A POSITIVE ATTITUDE COUPLED WITH FAITH IN THE ALMIGHTY WILL MAKE WHAT SEEMS IMPOSSIBLE TO YOU INTO I AM POSSIBLE
THE BRAND ‘YOU’ YOU ARE YOUR OWN BRAND AMBASSADOR
A QUOTE “THE STONE WHICH THE BUILDERS REJECTED HAS BECOME THE CHIEF CORNERSTONE”