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This series explores what it means to be a real man in God's way, focusing on relationships with friends, family, and acquaintances. Each week delves into a different aspect, such as friendship, devotion to God, relationships with wife and children, and managing work and free time. The sessions emphasize developing strong male friendships within the GBC church, drawing inspiration from biblical figures like David and Jonathan. The series aims to help men become better disciples, lead others to Christ, and improve their relationships. It encourages mutual support, love, commitment, loyalty, and encouragement among male friends, highlighting the importance of having companions who share the same faith and values.
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BE a real MAN God’s Way
Demographics Relationships Agegroups Friends
Outline for series • What does a real man do with... • Week 1: a friend? • Week 2: his devotion to God? • Week 3: his wife? • Week 4: his children? • Week 5: his acquaintances? • Week 6: his work • Week 7: his free time • Week 8: the rest of this series?
A Friend? What?? Starting with friendship? And not God??
A Friend? • “It is not good for man to be alone” – Gen 2:18 • David had friends (3, 30, supporters in his wars) • Jesus had friends (3, 12, 72) • We as men of GBC are going to help each other in both trellis and vine work • We as men need to • Become better disciples ourselves • Lead the way in making more disciples for Christ • Improve in our walk with God • Help and be helped by our Christian friends
Male friends • Only 10% of all men ever have any real friends • (Loy McGinnis, author of The Friendship Factor) • “My wife is my best friend” • Kent Hughes: “We need Christian male friends who have a same-sex understanding of the serpentine passages in our hearts...” • We need someone to... • Pray for us, • Listen to us, • Talk to us, • Hold us accountable if necessary
Where am I going with this? • This series requires for you to have at least 1 friend • The partner must be in GBC and/or • The partner must attend these sessions
Example Friendship DAVID & JONATHAN Jonathan’s Heart: 1 Sam 14:6 - 15 David’s Heart: 1 Sam 17:45 - 47
5 Christian Friendship Features • Friendship’s Mutuality • Friendship’s Love • Friendship’s Commitment • Friendship’s Loyalty • Friendship’s Encouragement
1. Mutuality of the Soul • Mutuality of soul was common thread • As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. (1 Samuel 18:1) • As men of GBC • Men growing in our walk with God • Better disciples, better disciple makers • You and your male GBC friend will have at least this mutuality of the soul
2. Love • As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. (1 Samuel 18:1) • David’s fire for the Lord met Jonathan’ fire for the Lord • Found connection - Jonathan loved David as himself • (Love neighbour as oneself, thus fulfilling law of God) • As men of GBC – may the love for our friend develop like that of David and Jonathan
3. Commitment • “Then Jonathan made a covenant with David, because he loved him as his own soul.” 1 Sa 18:3. • Jonathan committed to David – knowingly laid down his right to kingship • As men of GBC – commit to your friend at least for the duration of this series • Keep your word • Keep your appointments • Commit to help should difficulty arise
4. Loyalty • Jonathan defended and spoke well of David (2 Sam 19:1) with Saul • Pascal: “I set this down as a fact, that if all men knew what each other said of the other, there would not be four friends in the world.” • As men of GBC – stay loyal to your friend. • Confidentiality • Be his prayer partner, friend, counsellor • Get permission if you need to ask help from someone else
5. Encouragement • Keilah’s men planned to give over David • Fled disheartedly into the desert to Horesh • Who came to encourage him? (2 Sam 23:16) • How? • Titus Touch • Apostle Paul down casted – God sent Titus • Result: “my joy was greater than ever” – 2 Cor 7:6 • As men of GBC – Encourage • Christian men are minority • True Christian men are the minority in the minority • Pray, talk, meet, sms
Dare: Choose a friend • Three options: • Choose someone right now in this room • Think and pray, arrange before next Sunday • Drawing next week