CHAPTER 11: The Social Self: Fostering Self-Discipline and Conflict Resolution Skills

1. CHAPTER 11: The Social Self: Fostering Self-Discipline and Conflict Resolution Skills The Whole Child: Developmental Education for the Early Years Tenth Edition Patricia Weissman Joanne Hendrick

2. Discipline or Guidance Toward Self-Discipline? • View Problems as Learning Opportunities • Subtle Shift in Attitude • Aggressive or Disruptive Behaviors are Prime Learning Opportunities for Children • Children Make Mistakes While Learning Social Skills Just as They Make Mistakes While Learning Academic Skills- Not Cause for Punishment

3. Helping Children Establish Inner Controls • Support Ego Strength, Moral Judgment, and Social Awareness • Create classroom environment that fosters positive social interactions for each child • Rich in warm, caring relationships, respect, cooperation, and peaceful resolution of conflicts. • The child is given ample opportunity to practice and learn through interactions with other children.

4. Helping Children Establish Inner Controls • Suggestions for Creating a Peaceable, Caring Classroom in Which Children Develop Self-Discipline and Conflict Resolution Skills • Create a Sense of Trust and Safety • Establish a Close Relationship with Each Child • Establish a Caring Classroom • Teach Conflict Resolution Skills • Time-out is Not Conflict Resolution

5. Helping Children Establish Inner Controls • Steps for Teaching Children to Develop Self-Discipline and Conflict Resolution Skills • Recognize and discuss feelings and rules after a reasonable degree of calm has prevailed. • Have children take the responsibility of deciding when they can control themselves and return. • It is important to help children be successful when they do go back so that they have the experience of substituting acceptable for unacceptable behavior. • Follow through with suspending privileges if children repeat unacceptable behavior.

6. Helping Children Establish Inner Controls • Suggestions for Creating a Peaceable, Caring Classroom in Which Children Develop Self-Discipline and Conflict Resolution Skills (cont.) • Use Guidance Talks to Promote Self-Control • Use Class Meetings to Promote Social Awareness and Collaboration • Involve the Families in Creating a Peaceable Classroom

7. Helping Children Establish Inner Controls • Suggestions for Creating a Peaceable, Caring Classroom in Which Children Develop Self-Discipline and Conflict Resolution Skills(cont.) • Increase Children’s Feelings of Mastery by Giving Them Many Opportunities for Making Decisions • Increase the Child’s Feelings of Being a Competent, Worthwhile Person • Foster a More Social, Less Egocentric Orientation

8. Helping Children Establish Inner Controls • Suggestions for Creating a Peaceable, Caring Classroom in Which Children Develop Self-Discipline and Conflict Resolution Skills(cont.) • Stop Conflict Situations Before They Start • Mediate Conflict Resolution When Necessary • Remember: No Teacher Handles Every Situation Perfectly! • Learn from Your Own Difficulties and Mistakes

9. Reducing Aggression in the Classroom • Undesirable Ways to Cope with Aggression • The Authoritarian Teacher • The Overpermissive Teacher • The Inconsistent Teacher

10. Reducing Aggression in the Classroom • Desirable Ways to Cope with Aggression • Assess the Underlying Causes of Aggression, and Ameliorate Them When Possible • Never Allow Bullying • Teach Children Alternative Ways of Getting What They Want

11. Reducing Aggression in the Classroom • Desirable Ways to Cope with Aggression • Provide Substitute Opportunities for Socially Acceptable Expressions of Aggression • Stopping Some Activities Before They Start Saves Aggression Later • Finally, Plan, Plan, Plan!