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Hard Talks in Hard Times

Hard Talks in Hard Times. Holly Weeks. Hard Talks in Hard Times Three Major Pitfalls. Combat mentality Attitude that tough conversations are battles with winners and losers Emotional loads Our own emotions in the way Personalities intertwined with issues Hard to read

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Hard Talks in Hard Times

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  1. Hard Talks in Hard Times Holly Weeks

  2. Hard Talks in Hard TimesThree Major Pitfalls Combat mentality Attitude that tough conversations are battles with winners and losers Emotional loads Our own emotions in the way Personalities intertwined with issues Hard to read Breakdown between what one side means and what the other side hears

  3. Hard Talks in Hard Times3-Way Respect Self-respect Balance within yourself Hold your own; own what you do Respect for your counterpart Balance between the two of you Don’t count on reciprocity; bring respect unilaterally Respect problems in the conversation itself Balance in the conversation Where you could move; where they could move; how to move the conversation forward

  4. Hard Talks in Hard TimesRethink what to do: Tactics • Immunize against thwarting ploys • Find themidpoint between emotional extremes • Change tack • Recover from mistakes

  5. Hard Talks in Hard TimesRethink what to do: Strategy • Assume you will be taken by surprise • Assume things willgo wrong • Think through • preferred outcome • preferred working relationship + interferences • mock interview

  6. Mock Interview Mock Interview Prep What’s the problem? What would my counterpart say the problem is? What’s my preferred outcome? (“Where do I want to get in this conversation?”) What’s my preferred working relationship with my counterpart? (“How do I want this relationship to be?”) What’s interfering with my preferred working relationship?

  7. midpoint talk to the ploy focus on content impose behavior do nothing threaten or accuse play along punish passive aggressive (the thwarting ploy) Range of Response to Thwarting Ploys

  8. Blueprint for Speaking Well at Tough Times Clarity means let your words do your work for you. Say what you mean. Tone is the non-verbal part of the message: the inflection, facial expression, and body language that carries emotional weight. A neutral tone helps you be heard without distortion. When you say to yourself, “I can’t say that,” you probably can say it; you just can’t say it that way. Some phrasing is temperate; some dissembles; some provokes your counterpart with loaded language. If your counterpart dismisses, resists, or throws back your words, he’s not likely to hold onto your content. clear content neutral tone temperate phrasing

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