1. ~ Matheson Junior High ~ Bullying *Mr. Turner, Mrs. Stejskal, Mrs. Winter, & Mrs. Christensen 

2. We are going to answer the following questions. • What is bullying? • Why do kids bully others? • How do you deal with bullies?

3. Before we define bullying, which group bullies the most? • Boys? • Boys? • Girls? • About the same?

4. Before we define bullying, which group bullies the most? • Girls?

5. Before we define bullying, which group bullies the most? • Boys? • Girls? • About the same?

6. The Answer is… About The Same =

7. What is Bullying? • Some Examples • Physical bullying • Pushing • Hitting • Tripping • Stealing • Sexual harassment • Verbal bullying • Threatening • Racial comments • Name calling/insults • Sexual harassment • Cyber bullying • Social bullying • Exclusion from a group • Gossiping • Rumor spreading

8. Lets Play…. Name That Insult I’ll play the movie sound clip and you name the movie

9. Lets Talk About Insults • What Are Some Negative Effects of Insults? • They make you feel bad. • They damage your self-esteem

10. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me? • Yes, this is true? • No, this is false?

11. The answer is… No…Words do hurt and damage us.

12. Self-Esteem Is Defined As… • Appreciating my own worth and importance • Having the character to be accountable for myself • Acting responsibly towards others (1990) The California State Task Force on Self-Esteem

13. Your Self-Esteem • Who contributes to your self esteem? • Parents • Brothers and Sisters • Relatives • Friends • Counselors • Teachers • Strangers • Yourself • Bullies

14. So what is the big deal if I have low self-esteem?

15. SIGNIFICANCE OF SELF-ESTEEM • Low self-esteem either causes or contributes to neurosis, anxiety, defensiveness, drug abuse, alcoholism, depression, adolescent interpersonal problems, as well as low academic achievement. Keegan(1987)

16. Why Do Bullies Pick On Kids? • Bullies have low-self esteem and they do it to make themselves feel better. • They want to look tough. • They want to be popular. • They want to “show off”. • They are jealous • Sometimes, they are victims of bullying themselves.

17. How does a bomber pilot know when he hits the target? • There is a huge secondary explosion.

18. How does a bully know when he or she has hit the target? • There is a huge secondary explosion.

19. How do you deal with bullies? • Don’t give them the reaction they are looking for. • Keep your temper • Don’t fight back • Tell a Friend • Hang with Friends • Write it down (date, time, and what was said) • Talk to an adult • Don’t be a target

20. Bummer of a birthmark, Hal How not to be a target • Don’t be alone • Make friends with kids who are alone. • Avoid places where bullies are. • You have a right to feel safe at this school!! • If there is a place that is not safe, let the administration know. • Be near adults when possible. • Don’t carry expensive stuff or lots of money. • Don’t look scared • Hold your head up. • Don’t look at the ground. • Stand up straight and look confident.

21. How do you deal with bullies? • Lets play “who’s line is it anyway”. • A volunteer (the bully) • The Counselor (the victim) • The class chooses a verbal bullying situation

22. Who has the most power to stop bullying? • A. The bully • B. The 40% of students who are bullied. • C. The 60% of students who are not bullied. • D. Parents

23. How can the 60% of non-bullied students put a stop to bullying? • Don’t participate • Don’t ignore it • Don’t watch it happen • If you are the audience you might as well be the bully. • Talk to an adult • Your name can be kept confidential. • Be a friend to the victim • Ask the bully to stop • “That’s not cool, lets go” • (The bullying usually stops within 10 seconds)

24. What will a bully think of you if you take the victims side? • He or she probably won’t like you • However, he or she will respect you

25. Why not just let it go? • Bullying is against school rules, because it is wrong. • Bullying damages people.

26. “Hey wait a minute, what about the bully”? • If we “just let it go”, what happens to the bully? • They will most likely become an adult bully!

27. How do we help the bully? • Get an adult involved who can help them with their problems.

28. What if you are a bully? • Realize you are a bully • Realize you are hurting others • Get some help from an adult

29. Remember! • Bullying is… • Physical • Pushing • Hitting • Tripping • Stealing • Sexual harassment • Verbal • Threatening • Racial comments • Name calling/Insults • Sexual harassment • Cyber bullying • Social • Exclusion from a group • Gossiping • Rumor spreading

30. You have the responsibility and the power to stop bullying at Matheson – remember the Tiger Pride!

31. Thank You Any Questions?

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