Real Talk: So you call yourself a ‘MENTOR’?

1. Real Talk: So you call yourself a ‘MENTOR’? Mentoring institute @ the Florida state university

2. Program description • This interactive discussion will strive to create a space for us as mentors to candidly evaluate the effectiveness of our practices as well as develop a network within the college community to maximize our overall outreach.

3. agenda • Introduction - Program Description and Agenda Review 5 minutes • Icebreaker – Who’s Real and Who’s Not 10 minutes • The 3 C’s: Key Mentoring Concepts • Connection 15 minutes • Communication 15 minutes • Commitment 15 minutes • Practice & Application 10 minutes • Closing 5 minutes

4. Safe Space • A place where anyone can relax and be fully self-expressed, without fear of being made to feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or unsafe on account of biological sex, race/ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, cultural background, age, or physical or mental ability; a place where the rules guard each person's self-respect and dignity and strongly encourage everyone to respect others.

5. Icebreaker

6. Three c’s of real Mentorship • Connection • Communication • Commitment

7. connection Focuses on developing genuine bonds with mentees

8. Mentorship quiz • How are student truancy rates effected by a positive mentor/mentee relationship? • A. 27% increase • B. 41% increase • C. 52% decrease • D. 64% decrease truancy - any intentional unauthorized or illegal absence from compulsory schooling

9. Answer #1 • According to a Proctor & Gamble study, research shows that youth who spend time with a caring adult mentor regularly for at least one year are 52% less likely than their peers to skip a day of school.

10. Mentorship quiz (cont.) • How does a positive mentor/mentee relationship effect the youth and illegal drug use? • A. 58% less likely • B. 46% less likely • C. 34% less likely • D. 22% more likely

11. Answer #2 • According to a Pew Public/Private Ventures Study, after 18 months with mentors, results indicated the boys and girls were 46 % less likely to use illegal drugs.

12. Mentorship quiz (cont.) • Presently, how many youth remained underserved in the mentoring gap? • A. 6 million • B. 12 million • C. 15million • D. 18 million Mentoring Gap – the number of young Americans who need or want mentoring but are not are in formal, high-quality mentoring relationships.

13. Answer #3 • According to MENTΩR National Mentoring Partnership 15 million young people still need mentors.

14. Mentorship quiz (cont.) • How does a positive mentor/mentee relationship affect teen pregnancy rates? • A. 18% decrease • B. 35% decrease • C. 67% decrease • D. 98 % decrease

15. Answer #4 • According to the California Mentor Foundation surveyed 124 mentor programs with 36,251 mentors and 57,659 mentees. The survey showed that 98% deterred from teen pregnancy.

16. Mentorship quiz (cont.) • What percentage of college graduates reported a mentor as instrumental in the employer selection process? • A. 40% • B. 55% • C. 60% • D. 75%

17. Answer #5 • According to Mentors Management results indicate that 60% of college and graduate students listed mentoring as a factor for selecting an employer after graduation.

18. Reflection Questions • What were some of your reaction to the statistics? • How can you use these data to make the most impact with your mentee?

19. Check Yourself

20. communication Capitalizing on conversations with your mentee

21. Communication • According to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior; a verbal or written message; information transmitted or conveyed

23. Let’s talk about it

24. Communication reflection • What are some of the techniques you liked the best? • What is something you would have done differently?

26. Issues affecting youth today • Peer pressure • Drugs/alcohol • Poverty • Family • Academics • Bullying • Self - Esteem

27. Commitment Self reflection & rededication

28. So you call yourself a ‘mentor’? • Gender • Race/Ethnicity • Socioeconomic Status • Religion • Political Affiliation • Location • Education • Culture • Organizational • Other, etc.

29. Joery’s List • Big Brother • Kollage Dance Troupe • Independent • Miami-WADE County • FSU Seminole • Man • Black • Christian • College Educated • Working Class • Tutor • Alpha Phi Alpha • AmeriCorps Programs (Jumpstart Tallahassee)

30. Three c’s of real Mentorship Application and Practice • Connection • Communication • Commitment

31. I am “mentor” Statements • I AM PATIENT, • I AM FIRM, • I AM HONEST, • I AM UNDERSTANDING, • I AM WORKING ON BEING A BETTER COMMUNICATOR, • I AM LOYAL, • AND I AM A MENTOR!

32. Real Talk: So you call yourself a ‘Mentor’? • Joery Francois • The Mentoring Institute @ The Florida State University • The Center for Leadership and Social Change • Senior • B.A., English Editing, Writing, & Media • B.S., African-American Studies • FSU C. A. R. E. Trio Pre-Collegiate Programs, Mentor • Jumpstart Tallahassee, Volunteer Coordinator