Health & Wellness We must practice excellent self – care in order to be effective at this work. We are the tools of our trade and for any job to be done well, the tools need to be maintained with care.
. Who is responsible for your happiness?
Three Keys to Excellent Self Care Self Awareness Positivity Habits
. SELF AWARENESS
SELF AWARENESS Self Awareness provides information that allows us to make choices.
Self Awareness Body Mind Heart Soul Relationships Environment
Self Awareness Body Scan it Love it Listen to it
Self Awareness Mind Notice it’s activity Question its validity Train it for joy
Self Awareness Heart Know Your Emotions Manage Their Energy Experience Your Life
Self Awareness Soul What makes it worth while for you to be alive? What transcends your life? Where is your high ground?
Self Awareness Relationships Attend to Your Relations, Boundaries, Intentions & Interpretations
Self Awareness Environment Home Sweet Home Where the Heart Roams Beauty All Around
Self Awareness Gives us the information we need about ourselves to make protective choices for ourselves about the toxic material that is ever-present in our work.
Positivity Groundbreaking Research Reveals How to Embrace the Hidden Strength of Positive Emotions, Overcome Negativity and Thrive By Barbara Fredrickson, PhD Crown Publishing Group 2009
What Positivity Is NOT • Yellow Happy Face • Fake • Tense • Always Sunny • Superficial • Weak
What Positivity Is: Whole Range of Positive Emotions Positive Meanings Optimistic Attitudes Open Mind - Tender Heart Relaxed Body - Soft Facial Expression Aliveness – Creativity - Possibility Stunningly Powerful Heartfelt - Authentic
Distinctions Negativity is narrow, heavy and constricted, sticks to us like glue; it seems “natural” and necessary, asks: “What’s wrong with this picture?” Positivity is a light and fleeting state; it’s a choice that takes cultivation and care in order for it to stick around, asks: “What am I grateful for now?”
Forms Negativity Takes Blame – Defend Stonewall – Contempt Anger – Fear Sadness Guilt – Shame Entitlement Thinking Victim Stance
Forms Positivity Takes JOY GRATITUDE SERENITY
Forms Positivity Takes INTEREST HOPE PRIDE
Forms Positivity Takes AMUSEMENT INSPIRATION AWE
Positivity It Feels Good
Positivity Changes how your mind works
Positivity Transforms Your Future
Positivity Stops Negativity
Positivity A Small Change Has A BIG Impact
Positivity You Can Increase It Right Now
Positivity Makes an Enormous Difference
Positivity Broadens Opens our hearts & minds to be more receptive, creative and resilient
Positivity Builds Transforms us for the better: new skills, relationships, knowledge & ways of being
Positivity Live Longer Live Stronger Live Fully
Positivity Nurtures Resiliency so You Can Bounce Back from Life’s Challenges
Do I have to give up Negativity? NO YOU DON’T WE NEED AN APPROPRIATE AMOUNT OF NEGATIVITY TO BALANCE OUT AND GROUND THE POSITIVITY
Do I have to give up Negativity? THERE IS A MAGICAL RATIO THAT ALLOWS US TO THRIVE
The Ratio of Positivity to Negativity THREE POSITIVE ONE NEGATIVE 3:1 is the magic #
Positivity This 3:1 ratio opens us up to the mystery of life and a willingness to live it fully and flourish
Positivity Positivity is a light and fleeting state, a conscious & intentional choice that takes cultivation and care in order for it to stick around. Positivity asks: “What am I grateful for?” “What’s possible?” “Where’s the gift?”
Habits What is a habit? Why do we have habits? How do they work? What habits protect us from secondary trauma?
. The Power of Habit Why We Do What We Do In Life and Business By Charles Duhigg Random House Publishing, New York 2012
Why do we have habits? A clever energy conservation system our brain uses so that we can focus on what’s important in our world now.
How do habits work? Routine CueReward Anticipation & CRAVING
What is a habit? A routine stored in our basal ganglia (out of our awareness) so we can focus on more important things now AND still get the job done when the cue lets us know it’s time to trigger the routine and get the reward. Cravings make sure it happens on cue.
How do we change a habit? Old cue, old reward, new routine Believe in change Vision and planning Willpower – Small wins Practice, practice, practice Accountability agreements Community support
How do we change a habit? Willingness Responsibility Tenacity Joy
What habits protect us from secondary trauma? • Self Awareness • Positivity Ratio 3:1 • Stop contempt, victim stance & entitlement thinking • Exercise • Make your bed • Weekly food journal • Gratitude journal • Appreciation • Planning ahead • Keystone Habits
What habits protect us from secondary trauma? Forgiveness Accept What Is Let Go Compassoin