Secrets to a Happy and Exciting Marriage

The home is under attack and that’s is not a secret! God’s will Satan’s will

Remember: Society is broken, society cannot teach us morality, society cannot teach God’s Word, society cannot teach in our homes! • God instituted the home – (Gen 2:18-24) • God has given rules for each member of the home to follow – (Deut 6:6-25; Eph 6:1-4; Tit 2:4) • We must look to God’s word when dealing with our marriage. (Not to television or pop psychologists!) - (Ephesians 6:1-4)

This is my final Lesson base on the Godly Family. 14. Losing Our Children. November 18, 2018 13. Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage - False Doctrines. Nov 11, 2018 12. God’s Law on Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage. Nov 4, 2018 11. The Role of the Children. October 28, 2018 9, 10. Your Role as a Woman. October 14 & 21, 2018 8. The Role of the Husband. October 7, 2018 7. Only in the Lord. September 23 & 30, 2018 6. Building a Strong Family. September 16, 2018 5. Why Marriages Fail. September 9, 2018 4. Marriages That Will Not Fail. September 2, 2018 3. God's Purpose for Marriage. August 26, 2018 2. Building Godly Families Pt 2. August 19, 2018 1. Building Godly Families. August 12, 2018

Brothers and sisters, we MUST make it work. • If your marriage is not exciting then find a way make it work. • If you are having a lot of problems make it work. • If your spouse is making your life miserable make it work. • If you do not make it work, society will win and God and His cause will lose. Making your Marriage Exciting

Then the Lord God said, It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him. “So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh at that place. And the Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man”(Genesis 2:17, 18, 21, 22).

GOD created this world by His sovereign power. • The same mighty power created you and me. After God had created everything else, He said, “Let us make man” (Genesis 1:26, 27). • We were carefully planned and designed. • This can be seen by the very interesting way God made woman. • Adam and Eve had a perfect marriage until they sinned. • Our marriages can be perfect when we allow Jesus to fully control our actions and thoughts. • About 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce! • But does it not surprise you to learn that a great percentage of adults are married and like it! • What can a married couple do to enjoy marriage? • Let us be positive. Here are some “BE- attitudes.” • These attitudes are the secrets to a marriage that is happy, exciting, loving, stimulating, satisfying, romantic, and every other adjective needed to describe the marriage God intended.

What is it that I need in order to make my marriage to work and to be the type of marriage God’s wants me to have?

BE HONEST • Honesty is the best policy in all our relationships. • We should be honest when we are dating. • Dating is a time to become acquainted with each other. • Many have married, not knowing whom they are really marrying. • Paul said, “Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth, each one of you, with his neighbor, for we are members of oneanother” (Eph 4:25). • He also said, “Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men”(Rom 12:17). “To thine own self be true. . . .” • Be honest about financial and all other matters. • Honesty provides peace of mind and a foundation for happy living.

BE LOVING • Paul commands love: • “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having not spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless” (Eph 5:25-28) • “that they may encourage the young women to love theirhusbands, to love their children”, . . . (Titus 2:4). • Show your mate your love for him or her. • Do not ever be too busy to kiss each other. • Wives, show your love by obeying, praising, and honoring your husband. • Do not get angry about this! • The Bible says married people are one! • If this is true, how can you fail to obey yourself? • Men, show your love by taking your wife on a date.

BE PATIENT • The Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is notarrogant” (1 Cor 13:4). • God has been so patient with us. • Since we are made in His image, surely we should manifest the same virtue. • No two people are exactly alike. • In order, therefore, to live happily together it takes patience. • Do not criticize each others differences. • Learn to laugh with each other about them. • Learn to accept the differences to the glory of God. • Did it ever dawn on you that love, understanding, and patience can do more to change undesirable characteristics than anything else? • When you really love someone, you will make every effort to please him.

BE COURTEOUS • Paul said, “[Love] . . . does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered” (1 Corinthians 13:5). • The Hebrews writer said, “. . . and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds” (Heb 10:24). • Paul also said, “Be ye kind” . . . (Ephesians 4:32). • Men, here are some courtesies you can show your wife. • Open the door for her. • Do not kid or joke in a critical manner. • Be as regular as possible about the time you come home at night. • Write down in your datebook important dates. • Think twice before buying something for yourself. • Keep your promises.

BE COURTEOUS • Keep from letting things or people become more important in your life than your mate. • Be consistent in words and actions in telling her you love her. • Dress up on your day off. • Help around the house. • Take her out and treat her like the most important lady in the world. • Instead of reading the newspaper or watching TV, ask her what she would like to do some evening. • Give her a hand with the children without complaining.

BE COURTEOUS • Ladies, here are some courtesies you can show your husband. • Do not interrupt him when he is talking, even if you can tell the story better. • Fix his favorite dinner once in a while, with all the little extras he enjoys to go along with it. • Restrict your telephone calls when he is home. • How about getting rid of that pile of unironed clothes, or putting away all the washing and kindly ask him, if he can help too. • How about doing the little mending jobs he has asked you to do? • Put your husband first before your children or your parents. • Give him a good listening ear when he comes home from work. • Pour your love into your husband, instead of giving too much to your children or grandchildren. • Be loving as much as you can, MEN are very needy.

BE FUN TO LIVE WITH. • If you had to choose one person to live with the rest of your life, would you choose you? • Are you fun to live with? • Does your disposition suffer at times? • Learn to laugh with each other. • Do fun things together.

BE DESIRABLE • Cause your mate to want you! • Stop right now and think of ways a woman can be desirable to her husband. • Stop right now and think of ways a man can be desirable to his wife. • We need to stop Satan and all his temptation when it comes to the relationship that spouses must have. • Remember, Satan will present in front of you “women or man” ‘Better looking than your spouse , but just to provoke you to sin!

BE FORGIVING • Jesus said, “And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. . . .” For if you forgive men for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. • “But if you do not forgive men, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions” (Matthew 6:12, 14, 15). • Paul exhorted us, “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32). • He also said “[Love] . . . bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7). • We all need to learn to say the words, “I'm sorry.” • If you don’t want to forgive your husband/wife, neither God will forgive all your sins that you commit day after day.

BE LOYAL • One translation of 1 Corinthians 13:7 is this, “If you love someone you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.” • A man needs a loyal wife whether he is a success or failure in business. • Many are ready to pounce upon us when mistakes are made. • A man’s wife should be loyal to him. • One of the ways to show loyalty to your spouse is to never take your problems outside your home. • Be loyal to each other physically. Ponder this passage:

1 Corinthians 7:1-5 [1] Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. [2] Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. [3] Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. [4] The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. [5] Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

BE CHRISTIANS • Be Christians not just in name, but in practice. • Live according to God’s plan. • God wants to come into your heart and take control of your life. • Being a Christian will not solve all your problems, but it puts you in the position, with His help, to solve them. • Everyday make your aim to PLEASE GOD and not YOUR WIFE OR YOUR HUSBAND. • Matthew 10:37 [37] He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.

Do you want your marriage to be exciting and happy? • If so, be honest, loving, patient, courteous, fun to live with, desirable forgiving, loyal, and a Christian. • Is our responsibility to have a Godly home and the only one that can do that is: • YOU and your WIFE • YOU and your HUSBAND

Secrets to a Happy and Exciting Marriage