Elderly Families Created by: Karla Moraza Kelly DiMeo Yanira Velazquez Krystal McCoy
Marriage Great aspects about marriage • Communication • Sharing time • Settled in routine • In sync with likes/dislikes • Comfort levels • Finances
Marriage Negative aspects about marriage • Being together for long time periods; irritation, not enough space, can also lead to depression • Dating life diminishes • Too much into your own routine and fall away from togetherness • Ex: Gender rolls, self-centeredness • Couples can sometimes have a hard time adjusting to getting older and can be unsure of what the future holds. This makes them uneasy and that is when depression can hit. The depression individuals experience comes from the uncertainty and rough patches during the course of the marriage (Harper & Sandberg, 2009, p. 547).
Intimacy Good Aspects • Keeps the relationship healthy • Become more aware of likes and dislikes • In-tune with partner • "In clinical trials of men aged 65 and over, 92 percent showed improvement in achieving erection with Viagra.” (“Sex in Nursing Homes,” 2003)
Intimacy • Older generations still need to have the intimacy with their loved one in order to maintain a healthy lifestyle. The feeling of affection from their partner could make them feel more at peace with getting older. The problem with this is that the workers at the nursing homes aren’t letting elders express their freedom and they end up leaving the patients very upset (Meyer & Roseamelia, 2007, p. 68). When the couple cannot have any alone time it can damage the connection that they have built over the past years. It becomes frustrating and leaves the couple feeling alone. Negative Aspects • “Dementia sufferers lose interest in sex, but about 14 percent experience a heightened libido—and up to 8 percent become unable to control their sexual behavior.” (Engber, 2007) • The nursing homes aren’t allowing any of this kind of interaction. Because of this the marriage lacks intimacy, as the staff makes sure to keep the couples as separate as possible (Meyer & Roseamelia, 2007, p. 68).
Retirement • Retirement is the point where a person stops employment completely. • There is no mandatory age in the United States, standard age is considered to be 65. • The earliest possible retirement age is 62, for social security. • Choosing when to retire is an important and personal decision.
Retirement Benefits • Paying Social Security taxes, you earn ‘’credits” towards Social Security benefits. • The number of credits you need to get retirement benefits depends on when you were born. • Ex: If you were born in 1929 or later, you will need 40 credits (10 years of work) • Retirement benefits cannot be paid until you have the required number of credits. *How much will your retirement benefit be? -Your benefit payment is based on how much you earned during your working career. Higher lifetime earnings= higher benefits. *Will retiring earlier affect my benefits? -Yes, your benefit payment is affected by the age at which you decided to retire. Retiring at age 62, your benefits would be approximately 25% LOWER than what it would be if you waited until your full retirement age.
Retirement Continued • Online Retirement Estimator- Quick and secure financial planning tool that provides you with a personalized retirement benefit estimate to help you plan your retirement. • When thinking about retirement, it is highly recommended to contact Social Security in advance to learn how to make the best and well informed decision for yourself, when the time comes.
Wills • A will is the most practical first step in estate planning; it makes it clear how you want your property to be distributed after you die. • If you do not have a will, your estate will be handled in probate, distributed differently than what you would like. • Beneficial to people of all economic levels **Simple Steps in making your will: • Decide what property to include in your will • Decide who will inherit your property • Choose an executor to handle your estate • Choose a guardian for your children (if any) choose someone to manage children’s property. • Sign your will in front of witnesses • Store your will safely
Medical Expenses • 80% of U.S residents age 65 or older have at least one chronic condition that could lead to early death or disability. • The cost of caring for older U.S residents is 3-5 times greater than the cost of caring for younger adults, increased need for preventative health care. • Seniors face incredible strain under health care costs. • (out of the 3,000 people covered by Medical) 75% of Medicare-eligible households spent at least $10,000 out of pocket on health care in 2008 out (Huffington Post) • The cost of caring for aging U.S residents by 2030 will add 25% of the nation’s overall health care costs .
As the Body Changes • The appearance of loss of hair or graying, along with more wrinkles. • Things to be aware of: 1. Eye sight going; driving 2. Thinner skin; if wounded easier and longer to heal 3. Weakened immune system 4. Diminished sense of taste and smell, loss of appetite
Common Issues with Aging • Heart conditions • Dementia, including Alzheimer's disease • Depression • Arthritis • Osteoporosis • Diabetes • Breathing problems • Frequent falls • Eye problems • Cancer
Leading Causes of Death 65+ #1. Heart Disease #2. Cancer #3. Cerebrovascular disease #4. COPD #5. Pneumonia
Coping • It is important to accept the aging process • Aging brings up reminders that we are all going to die, but we can’t change the fact that death is inevitable • Growing old brings more losses and it is very important to grieve and learn to live with loss • Relaxation and Happiness(acceptance) is key
Aging Tips • Eat Healthy- your body absorbs less nutrients, so eat lots of fruits & vegetables and take vitamins daily • Exercise- muscle tissue can become less flexible and lose bone density with age • Exercise your mind- Use it or lose it • Socialize- surround yourself with friends, humans are social animals and thrive in these situations
Spirituality in Elderly Marriages What is Spirituality? - The quality or condition of being spiritual; attachments to or regard for things of the sprit as opposed to material or worldly interest.
What Contributes to Spirituality? • Childhood –relationships within their own family structure as a child • ex. Parent attachment or separation • Parenting to their children if any • ex. Parenting style over the decades evolving • Marriage –the journey as a couple over the decades
What Contributes to Spirituality? • Life career, vocation, or professional field –reflecting on life roles ex. Could I have done more? • Personal fulfillment –within their marriages having any accomplishment ex. Could have life been better? Was life worth living??
Effects of Negative Self-Spirituality • Negative self-spirituality -being pessimistic, resentful and full of negative emotions possibly close to others around, communities, or even dislike current culture because it does not resemble a positive period of life time like before.
Effects of Positive Self-Spirituality • Positive self-spirituality -having a receptive, positive attitude towards your surrounds feeding and participating actively as life has been nurturing for self-spirit and person is fully satisfied with previous life and wishes not to change much.
How Can Positive Self-Spirituality Be Strengthened • Individual –control over external or internal factors ex. Physical abilities or mobility (being strong for another person) • Marriage –strong emotional comfort with spouse
How Can Positive Self-Spirituality Be Strengthened • Children, grandchildren and other family members –sharing or creating memories for emotional comfort • Community or staff members –sense of belonging to a group or influence over others • Religious affiliation –a connection with common values as individual to help with change, loss or even reflecting on the meaning of life
References Krystal’s References • Engber, D. (2007, September 07). Naughty nursing homes. Retrieved from http://www.slate.com/articles/life/the_sex_issue/2007/09/naughty_nursing_homes.html • Harper, J., & Sandberg, J. (2009). Depression and Communication Processes in Later Life Marriages. Aging & Mental Health, 13(4), 546-556. doi: 10.1080/13607860902774485 • Meyer, M., & Roseamelia, C. (2007). Emerging Issues for Older Couples: Protecting Income and Assets, Right to Intimacy, and End-of-life Decisions. Generations, 31(3), 66-71. Retrieved from http://0-web.ebscohost.com.opac.sfsu.edu/ehost/detail?vid=68&hid=108&sid=94bd2f64-2aad-4401-9dba-3c827921a35c@sessionmgr113&bdata=JkF1dGhUeXBlPWlwLGNvb2tpZSx1cmwsdWlkJnNpdGU9ZWhvc3QtbGl2ZQ== • Sex in nursing homes . (2003, July 12). Retrieved from http://www.cincinnati.com/text/kypost/2003/07/12/sex071203.html